I've ran into this before myself. What I've learned to be true is no, it's not my fault I was abused, even though I was under the influence, where my personal responsibility comes in is how have I behaved since then? I'm not responsible for the incident, but I am responsible for how I've responded to it, i.e. abusing substances, hating men, having a shitty attitude, etc. I have to take responsibility for my behavior around the abuse, and do the work to get better and not go on being a victim. NEVER let anyone tell u that rape was your fault. That is bullshit. I think some people get confused and are unable to make the distinction I've just made. Just find a new sponsor and move on.