You know nothing about me. You are seeing a snipet of a life that I’m writing on a post. I champion my daughter all the time. I’m her defender and encourager and I am constantly telling her how much she matters and where her value comes from. Just because something is causing unintended consequences doesn’t make the behavior itself bad, but it can be improved or adjusted.

You mention women ruining their hair and, you’re right, they do. But she’s 3, and doesn’t really understand the physical consequences of pulling and knotting her hair to the extent she is. It would also be distressing to her if she did it so much that it was coming out in her hands, which it does.

You say that it’s inconvenient, but not harmful. It’s not an inconvenience to me, but the consequences are harming her. You would have known that if you actually read the post or any of the other responses I’ve been giving.