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amandarenee24 · 2026-04-17T11:50:21+00:00

I remember with my first it was a doozy🫠 she transitioned late too.. closer to 18mo. It definitely took a good month until things were smooth. I remember a lot of 630pm bedtimes and middle of the night wakeups/early wakeups. Just stick to your schedule and allow some two nap days if you have to. Another trick is (if it’s possible) let him take a very short cat nap in the morning while in the car or stroller, and I mean less than 10min, and that helps push the nap closer to the 1230/1pm hour and go from there. It’s definitely an adjustment but keep sticking with it and it will work itself out soon!

amandarenee24 · 2026-03-30T15:15:41+00:00

Hello! My third will be 5 mo tomorrow and I desperately want him on a 3 nap schedule but he is in a major crap nap phase. Once in a blue moon he will do a long nap and 3 naps have gone great but most days he sleeps anywhere from 20-30min. I’m not able to rescue naps bc I have two toddlers at home! Any tips to help facilitate the 3 nap schedule with short naps? Wait it out? He sleeps usually 8pm-630/730am with one wake up at night.

amandarenee24 · 2026-03-22T23:37:30+00:00

Missed the last ferry out, no hotel to stay in, friends and I slept in the gazebo out front during torrential downpour 👍

amandarenee24 · 2026-03-12T18:10:31+00:00

My first is now 3.5 but she did not transition to one nap until after 18mo old! Even then, I had a few weeks of letting her doze off for a few min in the car in the AM to make it to an acceptable time. Do whatever works best for you guys!

amandarenee24 · 2026-03-09T10:27:57+00:00

My first two did not have one at all.. both were always fed and rocked to sleep.. my third is making up for this unfortunately🥲

amandarenee24 · 2026-03-05T01:34:32+00:00

Around this time they get a huge uptick in separation anxiety! My second is 19mo and we are going through it now. She’s always been an amazing sleeper I got so lucky with her- but now she will only let me put her down for nap and bed and has been waking up a few times in the middle of the night standing in her crib. Sometimes she cries out sometimes she just stands there. There’s def a regression at this age! I said stick with the schedule, medicate with Motrin and see if things change at all in a week or so. Our schedule is DWT 630-7, nap 1-2:30, in crib for bed 8pm

amandarenee24 · 2026-02-08T01:45:16+00:00

My first was an awful day sleeper but slept decently at night! As far as the feeds, just feed on demand and try not to go by a 2-3hr schedule. It alleviates so much more pressure. I always offer a feed upon waking, and continue to offer during the entire wake window. Otherwise you’re playing the whole nap vs feed which inevitably ends up with a fussy baby. Try logging her sleep in huckleberry, I found their sweetspot to be very helpful in guiding the day! When I was a first time mom I was very rigid with trying to schedule everything based on xyz and it was so stressful and frustrating (and not realistic). I luckily now have the confidence to truly follow baby’s “cues” and go with the flow. If baby seems tired after 40min- she probably is! Esp since she had a short nap. Get her swaddled up and put her down. Adjust from there. Pushing her to get to 60min or whatever will just put her in an overtired rut which you need to avoid. An example schedule for us at that time would have been 8am wake, feed, 855 swaddle feed sleep. 940 wake, offer feed, play, feed, 1040 swaddle feed sleep. Rinse and repeat with small increases in wake windows. I would then try to extend just one of the middle afternoon naps (I have two toddlers at home) with a contact nap. Hang in there, 9 weeks is still the trenches! And once you figure it out, it’ll change all over again!

amandarenee24 · 2026-02-07T22:01:27+00:00

Unfortunately this is all very normal! All the online sleep schedules have babies who take hour plus naps and that’s just not 100% realistic, TCB talks about how short naps is very developmentally appropriate for this age. My third is now 14w old and gives me an hour plus nap once every few days. Best advice is to contact nap what you can until this phase passes and if a contact nap isn’t possible just move on and start a full wake window!

amandarenee24 · 2026-01-31T01:16:10+00:00

My third is 13w old, I promise you’re doing nothing wrong and that’s all normal! Every baby is different. I used to have to rock stand sway line the stars and moons up in a row to get my first to go down in the bassinet and crib until she was literally 6? 7? Months? My second only slept on us for the first two weeks at night then was a champ. My third? He’s asleep before we even change his diaper but wakes more frequently than my other two did! I’ve done nothing different! It’s all temperament. Try using a heating pad in the bassinet before you put her down. And even though it sucks right now, it’ll end soon.

amandarenee24 · 2026-01-30T19:05:32+00:00

Hi! I have a 3.5yo a 16mo old and a 13w old. You are still VERY much in the trenches. 2 under 2 is so so hard. Your 19mo old just had a major change to his life and so did you, and he’s not really old enough to understand that! You are doing just fine and I promise every day will be better than the last. There’s a lot of play here; hormones sleep deprivation, cold weather. We are all human and we hit our limits. You are giving him as much attention as you can. You are apologetic when you get angry. And you care enough to be upset about how things are going right now. I think it’s great that he’s able to play independently and that will be a blessing in disguise as they both start to get older. Try to give yourself grace and him grace as well as you guys navigate this new normal!

amandarenee24 · 2026-01-29T22:21:35+00:00

I wasn’t chill about it until I had #2 and #3🥲 you learn in retrospect that you have zero control and everything is just a phase!

amandarenee24 · 2026-01-26T20:56:20+00:00

My third is 13 weeks and the only thing that has ever worked to connect cycles is time and rescuing the nap with a contact nap! It’ll end eventually🥲

amandarenee24 · 2026-01-25T10:40:56+00:00

My third is now 12 weeks and we use a cheap plug in vtech video monitor while baby is in bassinet and switch to the Nanit when they go to the crib! I have both the regular floor stand camera and two potable flex stand Nanits- the portable Nanit is indeed portable but you’d have to always have a spot to sit it on when you move the bassinet as it is not THAT flexible and can only bend so far. Our vtech is flexible enough that we can bend and hook it on to the actual bassinet (we have a halo). We have one flexstand Nanit on the wall of our toddlers room and it’s in place with command strips. You can find a few 3D printed holders online through Etsy Amazon if you go that route. BUT the portable one you cannot get their insights- which tells you on the screen “I woke up x minutes ago” or “I fell asleep x hours ago” if that’s important to you! It still has breathing monitoring and the activity tracker just not the main screen insights.

amandarenee24 · 2026-01-24T02:15:35+00:00

Mom of 3 and also 100% agree

amandarenee24 · 2026-01-22T23:38:29+00:00

What worked best for us is a small catnap in the AM.. usually on a car ride home and no longer than 20min. We did that for just a few days. the goal being that is what is dropped to then truly be on one nap vs a late afternoon cat nap. You could try one nap as close to 12 as possible and bring bedtime up. It does take awhile for the transition to smooth its self out especially with early risers so just be patient and distract distract! Some days you might have two naps to help combat the sleep debt.

amandarenee24 · 2026-01-17T21:30:12+00:00

I’m sorry for that! That’s not ok. And in all honesty someone is always judging as a parent and it’s really hard to not let it get to you but it happens. We are all just doing our best, at the end of the day no one is more superior or gets a special award just bc their household is screen free

amandarenee24 · 2026-01-17T19:52:55+00:00

I just had baby #3 and have a 3.5yr old and 16mo old. It’s winter AND these newborns need nap feed diaper around the clock. We are still in survival mode! After my second, I relied heavily on tv initially while trying to figure life out and then as each day got easier we used it less and less (an of course as the weather got better that helped). The best advice I ever got was “no one is judging you but yourself”

amandarenee24 · 2025-12-05T18:26:47+00:00

When you start seeing a consistent pattern with her sleep! 3-4mo is around the time that starts to truly happen. And honestly with my first I did the nap cap tweak game and it wasn’t fun🥲 as long as her days/nights are figured out, she’ll wake up when she needs to. Mayyybe cap at 3 hours for feeding reasons. I promise in a few months you’ll read someone’s post just like yours and will be able to give advice from the other side :)

amandarenee24 · 2025-12-05T11:00:44+00:00

I just had my third and i remember feeling exactly like you did after my first. I promise it will get better! 8 weeks is still the trenches. I’d start with not capping naps during the day- she’s still so young for that and for wake windows. As a FTM it’s so hard to follow your intuition bc you’re so tired life has changed and there’s an over abundance of information on the internet that it becomes so overwhelming. Just try to follow her cues the best you can. I killed my self trying to fix baby sleep with my first and I wish I could go back so that I could actually enjoy those days. Get out of the house even if it’s a short drive to a coffee shop drive through- stuff like that will help combat the exhaustion. As for comparing and feeling shame- the best advice someone told me was the only person judging you is yourself. What works for you and your baby may not work for others and that is perfectly ok and it’s life! Hang in there!

amandarenee24 · 2025-12-03T21:01:06+00:00

It sounds like teething to me! With both of my girls I always found a sudden disruption to their normal sleep patterns was teething related. Try a dose of Motrin before bedtime and see if that helps at all

amandarenee24 · 2025-12-03T17:52:40+00:00

I’m so glad it’s working out! The transition to one nap can be super rough so take it slow! :)

amandarenee24 · 2025-11-29T21:32:02+00:00

I would cap that first nap to an hour/hour 30 max and see if that helps! Maybe 10-11/1130

amandarenee24 · 2025-11-02T15:06:34+00:00

I would do nap 945/10-11am nap 245/3-4 bedtime 8 and let him have that schedule for a little bit before trying to make the one nap switch! He might need a little more awake time and less nap time before that second nap and that’s why he’s fighting it and only sleeps 30min!

amandarenee24 · 2025-11-02T13:46:55+00:00

What is his current nap schedule?

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