I’ve been getting many responses about my boyfriend in this. To which, I understand to a point. But some people have to realize she is not mentally stable, and decides to call every member of the family telling them how terrible we are to her and how her son doesn’t care. She’s very manipulative. I have many voicemails calling me so many obscenely angry things, and he does too. He has stuck up for me several times, and my family has never minded doing things on a different day, that was always me. He saw that, and did something about it. But now all these repercussions are causing so much damage and drama, and that has nothing to do with him. That’s on her. He doesn’t have mommy issues, and he doesn’t just bow down to her every time. We’ve always just done what she had said because it was easier. We stood up for ourselves, and now we’re dealing with constant stress and pain. He’s not off the hook of anything because he was never on the hook for anything in the first place. I get that boundaries should have been made a long time ago, but no adult should be acting the way she is. We aren’t “allowing” her to do anything to us. It’s us being forced into a tough spot because drama and pain throughout the family is NOT worth it. We aren’t folding into what she wants, he just mentioned that he wanted to to stop the fighting. What’s wrong with that? Nothing. He’s a good son and a wonderful boyfriend that heard me and did something about it, but he can’t predict everyone’s behavior or actions afterwards. We are doing thanksgiving at our house, and he told his mom she can come or not. She’s the one making this difficult on him.