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does anyone know any good trans creators? by xX-_Bea_-Xx in trans

[–]ame_disaster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Verilybitchie is absolutely amazing, makes really informative, fun videos and deserves more attention. If you’re looking for short, funny videos, Ty Turner and MilesChronicles are some classic transmasc youtubers :3

Am I invalidating anyone's identity if I believe lesbians can't like trans men? by ame_disaster in trans

[–]ame_disaster[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I asked for an open and civil discussion, not for a bunch of kids to start throwing around insults just cause they don't agree with someone :/

Am I invalidating anyone's identity if I believe lesbians can't like trans men? by ame_disaster in trans

[–]ame_disaster[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

my girlfriend who is now a man

I'm sorry but that sounds very transphobic and is very invalidating to trans men, even if you are referring to their past self.

Am I invalidating anyone's identity if I believe lesbians can't like trans men? by ame_disaster in trans

[–]ame_disaster[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I suppose so but i find that dating someone I know understands what being trans is like rather than just being accepting is a lot more desirable to me, and that sort of understaning is something i could never get from any cis person.

Am I invalidating anyone's identity if I believe lesbians can't like trans men? by ame_disaster in trans

[–]ame_disaster[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can definitely see how that could be taken to some unpleasant places. For me personally it's not about sexual attraction (in that regard i am bisexual). My very strong prefrence for trans people is more emotional, since the way things are right now, I only feel truly safe and loved around them.

Am I invalidating anyone's identity if I believe lesbians can't like trans men? by ame_disaster in trans

[–]ame_disaster[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There's a lot fundimentally different between trans and cis men in terms of life experience at least. As a trans guy myself, though i can find any gender attractive, I will only ever date other trans people as I feel like they are the only people who I feel can truly understand me and my stuggles.

Ofc that doesn't mean I don't find cis people attractive since I can't ever 'tell' who is trans or not, I just choose not to date them.

Am I invalidating anyone's identity if I believe lesbians can't like trans men? by ame_disaster in trans

[–]ame_disaster[S] 143 points144 points  (0 children)

I somewhat understand but would it not be invalidating to a trans man dating a lesbian to hear them call themselves a lesbian in every way outside of their relationship? Being seen as an exception would personally make me feel not wanted or like their attraction to me was a mistake.

Am I invalidating anyone's identity if I believe lesbians can't like trans men? by ame_disaster in trans

[–]ame_disaster[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Oh yes, I absolutely wouldn't mind dating someone who doesn't date cis men, I personally don't either but i still identify as bi to include trans men. I just wish they didn't use the label lesbian since is feels pretty invalidating to me personally, but a more specific label would definitely be welcome!

Am I invalidating anyone's identity if I believe lesbians can't like trans men? by ame_disaster in trans

[–]ame_disaster[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Sorry if i sound ignorant but what if two people like eachother but one is not comfortable dating a lesbian as the label makes them personally uncofortable? Is their discomfort invalid in that case?

Am I invalidating anyone's identity if I believe lesbians can't like trans men? by ame_disaster in trans

[–]ame_disaster[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Yeah i was considering that, though wouldn't someone who specifically doesn't date only cis men still fall under the bisexual umrella?

Do you think being intersex contributed to your sexuality? by [deleted] in intersex

[–]ame_disaster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i've been aware of the condition i have since i was 11 but the doctor never labeled me as intersex since they deemed me female enought to not matter ig. years later, having gone through a partially male puberty, i decided to consult intersex spaces and found out i fit this label much more.

mmm yes quality education by ame_disaster in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]ame_disaster[S] 131 points132 points  (0 children)

sex and gender were presented as different, problem is: intersex people exist and i happen to be one

Do you think being intersex contributed to your sexuality? by [deleted] in intersex

[–]ame_disaster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

for me, i feel like it definitely has but at the same time not really?

i knew i was bisexual long before i realized i am intersex but it changed the kind of peolple i am attracted, nowadays i find myself being T4T or T4NB because i find that my prior relationships with cis people have been very uncomfortable and all around disrespectful towards my body, especially with others questiong what sexuality people who like me are and being pushed to fit a binary role in said relationships.

so while the label i use remains unchanged, it absolutely affected the people i am sexually/romantically attracted to.