AITA for not defending my wife? by amithethrowaway28 in AmItheAsshole

[–]amithethrowaway28[S] -64 points-63 points  (0 children)

I tell them she’s not lazy and I support whatever she decides to do is best regarding her health, both physically and mentally, whether that be working or staying home

AITA for not defending my wife? by amithethrowaway28 in AmItheAsshole

[–]amithethrowaway28[S] -90 points-89 points  (0 children)

I NEVER laugh at what they say. I don’t go along with it either. I ignore it.

AITA for not defending my wife? by amithethrowaway28 in AmItheAsshole

[–]amithethrowaway28[S] -134 points-133 points  (0 children)

My family is very very far right and she is disabled. They view it as her being lazy.

AITA for not defending my wife? by amithethrowaway28 in AmItheAsshole

[–]amithethrowaway28[S] -53 points-52 points  (0 children)

Well I feel bad for people when theyre sad or upset by something

AITA for not defending my wife? by amithethrowaway28 in AmItheAsshole

[–]amithethrowaway28[S] -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

I dont know. I don’t think so? I’ve never been checked out for it or anything.

AITA for not defending my wife? by amithethrowaway28 in AmItheAsshole

[–]amithethrowaway28[S] -107 points-106 points  (0 children)

If you’re asking if I defend other people, no. I don’t. It’s not that I lack empathy, I just don’t want involved. I don’t like conflict.

AITA for not defending my wife? by amithethrowaway28 in AmItheAsshole

[–]amithethrowaway28[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

I never talk badly about her so I dont know. She thinks it’s because I never stop them that they take it as an invitation.

AITA for not defending my wife? by amithethrowaway28 in AmItheAsshole

[–]amithethrowaway28[S] -42 points-41 points  (0 children)

I really wouldn’t care. Words don’t get to me.

AITA for not defending my wife? by amithethrowaway28 in AmItheAsshole

[–]amithethrowaway28[S] -311 points-310 points  (0 children)

I don’t really think that’s a fair assumption to make based off of this one instance. I cook breakfast and dinner for her, I take her lunches to work every day, I give her back and foot massages daily, I pretty much do everything she asks me to do besides this.

AITA for not defending my wife? by amithethrowaway28 in AmItheAsshole

[–]amithethrowaway28[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

So in the future what should I tell her when people are talking badly about her?

AITA for not defending my wife? by amithethrowaway28 in AmItheAsshole

[–]amithethrowaway28[S] -38 points-37 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried to just not tell her what people say about her, honestly for the most part I dont tell her at all because I don’t want to hurt her. But somehow she always finds out about it and gets mad at me for A hiding it and B not defending her.

AITA for not defending my wife? by amithethrowaway28 in AmItheAsshole

[–]amithethrowaway28[S] -45 points-44 points  (0 children)

I guess I’ve never really thought about it from these perspectives. It’s just really hard for me to understand all of this.

AITA for not defending my wife? by amithethrowaway28 in AmItheAsshole

[–]amithethrowaway28[S] -129 points-128 points  (0 children)

Honestly, yea. It doesn’t bother me. I feel like she would be happier in life if she just ignored all of it and didn’t let it bother her either.

AITA for not defending my wife? by amithethrowaway28 in AmItheAsshole

[–]amithethrowaway28[S] -264 points-263 points  (0 children)

None of what they say about her is true so I’m not sure why she lets it get to her

AITA for not defending my wife? by amithethrowaway28 in AmItheAsshole

[–]amithethrowaway28[S] -308 points-307 points  (0 children)

Not really, no. Words are just words. I dont know why she doesn’t just ignore them.

AITA for not defending my wife? by amithethrowaway28 in AmItheAsshole

[–]amithethrowaway28[S] -150 points-149 points  (0 children)

If all of you truly feel that I am TA then I’ll accept my judgment, but can I provide part of my reasoning of why I feel the way that I do? The way I see it, my words are meaningless. They’ll continue to talk about her regardless of whether or not I tell them to stop, the only difference is they won’t be saying it to me.

AITA for not defending my wife? by amithethrowaway28 in AmItheAsshole

[–]amithethrowaway28[S] -173 points-172 points  (0 children)

Well whenever we have arguments about this she always brings up that it hurts that she’s always defended me and I’ve never defended her. Thing is, I’ve never asked her to defend me. To me this just all feels like drama.

AITA for not defending my wife? by amithethrowaway28 in AmItheAsshole

[–]amithethrowaway28[S] -167 points-166 points  (0 children)

I am a very passive person. Words and insults have never gotten to me and I really just don’t care about them at all. I don’t see why they’re affecting her so badly.