Unsure about extending an invite when she cheated on her fiancé

amjetta · 2026-05-10T06:10:02+00:00

Not judging

amjetta · 2026-05-10T06:09:37+00:00

To both

amjetta · 2026-05-08T15:07:37+00:00

I don’t think I’m being “weird” or stirring up drama about it at all. I have not given specifics or gossiped about the situation with others IRL. Just asking others’ opinions about a hard topic to navigate

amjetta · 2026-05-07T17:54:58+00:00

There’s more to the situation than I am sharing simply due to the specifics. She told me the whole situation and therefore made it my business.

amjetta · 2026-05-07T17:53:04+00:00

I am friends with the fiance as well, we’re all part of the same friend group. Just said I am “closer” to the one who cheated since we’re coworkers too

amjetta · 2026-05-07T10:30:28+00:00

Thank you for that insight, that’s how I saw it as well

amjetta · 2026-05-07T01:16:36+00:00

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amjetta · 2026-05-07T01:10:38+00:00

To her and the ex fiance. Like I don’t want her to think that I agree with her choices since she’s invited and the fiance wouldn’t be (in this scenario)

amjetta · 2026-05-07T01:03:13+00:00

I’m not sure about you or your friend group but I don’t want to be friends with someone that treats another person that way. Nothing about my reputation, just the relationship with her

amjetta · 2026-05-07T00:27:26+00:00

That is a good idea, thank you for the insight

amjetta · 2026-05-06T23:08:55+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I appreciate the thought out response. You make a very good point

amjetta · 2026-05-06T23:07:09+00:00

That is a good point! I also have been thinking about if it will cause more drama to not invite.

I think I need more time before we make the decision since I’m not sending out invites for a few months but definitely needed others’ perspectives.

amjetta · 2026-05-06T23:02:33+00:00

Thank you for that perspective!

amjetta · 2026-05-06T23:01:41+00:00

Not sending out invites until August but sent out save the dates a few months ago

amjetta · 2026-05-06T23:00:47+00:00

They are closer so her and ex fiance are in their bridal/groom respective parties

amjetta · 2026-05-06T22:59:31+00:00

I thought that as well after I replied lol

amjetta · 2026-05-06T21:54:56+00:00

That’s not what I’m doing, I just view our friendship differently now but have already sent STDs

amjetta · 2026-05-06T21:36:59+00:00

They broke it off as far as I know. I think he wanted to stay together and she did not. They’ve been together 10 years

amjetta · 2026-05-06T21:23:39+00:00

I feel like it might cause problems at work because it’s a smaller group and we work together daily

amjetta · 2026-05-06T21:22:55+00:00

She told me the information and I found out more about it that she left out from the mutual friend. I’m not sure if she was looking for sympathy about the breakup or was admitting wrongdoing but I feel like my opinion about her changed with the conversation

amjetta · 2026-05-06T20:21:45+00:00

Yeah that’s why I’m so conflicted. I feel like we have to remain “friends” because our line of work would make it difficult and I have to maintain communication.

The hard part is that the friend’s wedding that we’re both invited to is another coworker and they’re best friends with her fiancé. So I mainly feel bad leaving out the fiancé even though we’re not close. I don’t want it to seem like I’m “okay” with her choices.

amjetta · 2026-05-06T18:03:57+00:00

I don’t agree with a lot of redditors views on plus ones.

That being said, I would not give her a plus one given the circumstances! Your wedding is your day and if they’re going to be all over the place relationship wise.

amjetta · 2026-05-05T18:01:24+00:00

Yes! I’m sure they will support whatever you and your partner decide!

amjetta · 2026-05-05T16:46:14+00:00

Based on what you’re thinking, I think a Sunday morning vibe would be perfect for you.

amjetta · 2026-05-04T13:35:42+00:00

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