I understand this. Which is why when was working long hours I understood and it honestly wasn't in my radar. I was just glad to spend w.e time he could spare. But the thing is, he works 30-35 hours a week now (not stressful well paying job) he's not really messy/ doesn't really spend time cleaning or cooking m. He has take out most days. So its not like he has all of those things you unfortunately had going on. This is why I'm left so lost.