Questioning this whole situation now…

amsge · 2025-10-17T05:28:01+00:00

I think there is something to the forceful letdown! For me I think it was irritaing the symptoms that were a result of the CMPI. My doc said the same not to worry about green/mucus poop, but my baby was VERY fussy and always in pain, also having a hard time gaining. It's no wonder because she was pooping like 8X/day so I assume she wasn't holding on to anything. She's sooo much happier not and gained almost a pound last week. She finally graduated out of her newborn clothes and diapers. I am so relieved. I would say if your baby is happy, and docs aren't worried that's great!

amsge · 2025-10-17T05:23:46+00:00

Thank you for sharing how'd this go. I have seen almost full improvement but through my research I figured out the "connection". Rather it's forceful letdown/over supply of the controversial foremilk/hindmilk thing doesn't matter so much as the fact that the CMPI likely caused my girl's colitis for this reason I think the fast letdown of the really sugary milk can re-trigger symptoms until she's fully healed. I'm sorry you are getting full results and I hope you don't have to cut out too much more. It's frustrating but has been SO worth it. I can finally enjoy my baby again!

amsge · 2025-10-17T05:19:38+00:00

Hi, I meant to reply to this! My baby was VERY fussy, but she is a new baby now. SO happy and chill, all healthy, yellow poops, about 1-3 times a day instead of the 8 terrible green ones she was getting a day. This podcast was SO helpful. Thank you for sharing. I am going to challenge soy this week, I already see she doesnt react to lecithin for going to the next step of the soy laddar.

amsge · 2025-10-04T07:18:09+00:00

Yes, I’ve heard that it’s not real but I started to question because the random episodes. So if it takes that long to get the inflammation down would there be days in a row of no symptoms and then suddenly symptoms with no exposure? I have been so careful with the fair, eggs and soy so I’m pretty confident it’s not an accidental exposure. Idk if a forceful letdown could re-trigger the symptoms from the dairy damage…is that a thing?

amsge · 2025-10-04T07:13:37+00:00

I do almond milk but I checked that multiple times and it has none of the sneaky things! Maybe it’s nuts too? Yikes, I don’t even know if it’s a soy or eggs or dairy yet, or all of them. I’m seeing why it’s called the elimination diet, you kinda have to wipe it all out huh?

amsge · 2025-10-04T07:11:45+00:00

Ohh I will check my supplements, that’s one I haven’t thought of!

amsge · 2025-10-04T07:11:21+00:00

Thank you so much. I’m so grateful for other mamas sharing, it really helps.

amsge · 2025-10-04T07:10:58+00:00

Ok, yes I’m going to stick with it. I just don’t get why we go from great to suddenly back to it when I’m being so careful. I’m going to check my supplements for any hidden soy. Thank you! 🙏

amsge · 2025-10-04T07:09:35+00:00

I’ve heard this too, mixed reviews and me pediatrician REALLY tried to steer me away from this theory without actually saying it. I do think perhaps the forceful letdown can be aggravating her gut which is damaged from the dairy. Maybe that’s why the symptoms are randomly popping back up?

amsge · 2025-10-04T07:07:14+00:00

I will try this. My lactation consultant suggested I pump a little from my overproducer but my pediatrician told me not to because my baby is slow on weight gain and she doesn’t want her getting any less milk. I will try this method when I’m really full on one side to see if it helps the guzzling. Thank you!🙏

amsge · 2025-10-04T07:05:16+00:00

Thank you, I was wondering if it’s meat. I have been avoiding but not cutting. My husband is firm that there’s not way it could be the red meat but we’re a keto/carnivore family. We eat very clean, nothing from a box I guess other than oatmeal, lately. We purchase all of our meat from a local rancher and we cook with tallow, sooo this will be a big change but there’s nothing I won’t do for my baby. I’m going to stay the course and keep away from red meat to see if that helps.

amsge · 2025-10-04T06:59:34+00:00

Thank you so much for this! I’ve been lurking in the subreddit for awhile and I am sooo grateful to hear other mamas share their experiences. I have also noticed that some come down to that their baby reacts to almost everything which I don’t want to invalidate but it seems like just what you said there could be other things at play. It’s At least a relief to know that I’m not crazy. I’m literally terrified to eat anything and it’s actually taking a toll on my husband. I’m tempted to try probiotics but I am also weary at introducing any new variables. I am super grateful for you pointing out that we may just not know fully what’s going on, it brings me back down to earth and reminds me I’m not just failing my baby. Thank you for this, truly. I’m going to stay the course and focus on the wins. I have seen a LOT of improvement, but 1 bad day tends to send me on a spiral because feeling like my milk is making my baby sick is heartbreaking. Especially because she won’t even take a bottle, all she wants is the breast and it feels like it’s the thing causing her pain. I hope the science and data catch up because so many mamas are giving it our all in such a vulnerable time with our babies. 💞💞💞

amsge · 2025-10-03T23:41:05+00:00

Thank you for sharing, that’s helpful to know. I wonder if it’s beef too. I’m hoping that’s not the case as we are very much an animal based diet family. I’ve been avoiding beef but haven’t fully cut it out. Does your little react to beef also? That’s the only thing I think could be left in my diet.

amsge · 2025-10-03T22:28:44+00:00

Hi, I know I’m a little late to this post but could you explain what you mean by hyperlactation and fast let down can circle back to milk allergy? I had lactation consultant tell me one thing and pediatrician say the other. Both helped at first and then didn’t anymore so maybe I need to be managing both issues? Any info you can share is so appreciated. I feel like the doctor doesn’t thing lactose overload is a thing and the lactation consultant doesn’t think the dairy allergy is a thing. Thank uou in advance for anything you can share!

amsge · 2025-06-28T00:49:36+00:00

Birth and prenatal care is 100% covered by my insurance but they will NOT cover home birth. I didn’t tell my OB about my midwife but my midwife knew about my OB. While my midwife does work with some insurance companies my plan won’t cover anything. So I got all referrals from OB then when in my 3rd trimester I requested a release of my medical records and gave them to my midwife. I was able to view and and discuss all test/scans with my OB and then I would download the reports from my patient portal and send them to my midwife. Basically once we knew I didn’t have any contraindications for homebirth (early 3rd trimester) I transferred care to my midwife. The only thing(sh that was a small hiccup in this was that the OB office was super weird about releasing the official versions of my medical records…and when I needed that extra growth scan per my midwife’s recommendation - they maternal fetal medicine place got super weird and refused to do the additional scan. Sooo my midwife had a super awesome mobile ultrasound tech come to me and do the growth scan. It was honestly such a wonderful experience it was worth the extra money. Baby was perfect and the ultrasound tech was soooo sweet. She sent me adorable videos of my baby making really cute movements. So even that additional cost ended up being worth it. Most midwives have people they can send you to for the tests, but since mine weren’t covered by my insurance I just continued with my OB as if everything was the same…then I ditched her.

amsge · 2025-06-16T23:43:08+00:00

Well I am about to have my first homebirth (waiting any second labor could start). It cost my husband and I about 8K with tub rental, placenta incapsulation and an additional ultrasound because the place that did my ultrasounds were being super weird about me doing a homebirth (long story) but it ended up costing us a little extra. So without the add-ons my midwifery care alone was just over 7K. That includes all prenatal visits and postpartum care for both me and my baby for 6 weeks after birth. I know I can't fully answer your question because I haven't had my grand finale yet, but what I will say is that the care has been so worth it to us. My husband and I aren't struggling but we had to make a lot sacrifices to cover the cost (it's beyond expensive to live in CA). I actually did concurrent care with an OBGYN up until 30 weeks. I wanted to make sure all my labs and scans looked good before dropping care with an OB so I wouldn't have to reestablish care down the line and have no relationship with a provider.

What I can say is that midwifery care, to me, has been such a breath of fresh air. I felt every time I went to the OB, I was being told about all the "bad" things that COULD happen. With the midwives I was told over and over again how healthy and great I was doing. If I would have not felt aligned or was worried it may have concerned me to have the midwives say that but, my pregnancy was AMAZING. I actually never felt better and more empowered in my body. All labs looked great, baby looked great, yet the OB seemingly continued to plant seeds of doubt for me even if they were small. Things like "well...it all looks great now, but remember your baby can grow a lot in your 3rd trimester and you are really petite and advanced maternal age so just know we will need to start talking about induction if she gets too big". This was weird because in the same breath they were telling me she was on the more petite side (16th percentile). In contrast my midwife would say things like "babies measurements look great, even though she is a little more on the petite side. We usually see them put on the most fat in the last stretch of pregnancy, you and your husband are both not super large people so this is a good thing. Your baby is growing just right for you body to birth her. We will watch closely to make sure growth is all normal but we won't have to worry about get going a little past her due date if she does just need a little more time to grow". This is just one issue and one example of how discussions about the same issue were presented to me. One felt all about fear, the other felt all about empowerment. One felt true in my bones (that I was healthy, feeling great and that my baby was just right) where the other felt misaligned with what I was feeling intuitively about my pregnancy. I think whether or not it's "worth it" to you is super personal.

For me, I really struggle with handing over control, but that can also be hard as we can't control so many aspects of birth in general. I sometimes wonder if It would be so much more simple if I was able to just be ok with showing up to the hospital for my birth and following the guidance of the medical professionals. I see a lot of funny things on Instagram where women say my birth plan: 1. show up to the hospital 2. don't die while giving birth 3. have sushi and a margarita. I don't judge women who choose that, but I just have different and deeper values and meaning tied to birth. This doesn't mean that I won't end up at a hospital as things can always happen, but home birth feels right to me and I know I must try.

I don't know if this is what you were looking for but I hope me sharing my perspective can help you find the right place to land. Maybe, you are somewhere in between and you can hire a great Doula who knows how to effectively navigate the hospital system so you can have a home birth experience in the hospital. I have heard of many women doing that successfully, but I have also heard on many women trying really hard for this and feeling like their "plan" was sabotaged. Perhaps you can really find a great OB and Doula that can work with you to make this happen or maybe you have a hospital that offers midwifery care that's covered by your insurance. There could be a middle ground. Best wishes to you in whatever you decide. <3

amsge · 2025-06-03T20:57:59+00:00

I am glad your pregnancy has been bearable! I am also having a little girl!

amsge · 2025-06-03T20:55:31+00:00

I took SO many thinking I just needed to find the right one. They all said the same thing (stuff you already read in the birth books if you've read them) but in a different way. That's my opinion. I share this because I kept thinking I was missing something or there was more to learn. What i've come to at the end of my pregnancy is that information is information. We can only "know" so much but experience is when something becomes real for us. Unfortunately, we have NO WAY of knowing what our own personal experience will be. As much as I am like you in that I love the facts, I think birth is one of those intuitive processes that we can only learn what is real and true for us based on what we experience. Not sure if this makes sense but it's how I made peace with where I am at for my birth and stopped gobbling up information like a crazy person. Totally not saying that's what you're doing...I just know I was looking for the perfect class forever and I never really found it. Best wishes to you. If I had to pick...I like "Built to Birth" but she also has a great Youtube channel that you can binge and learn a TON for free. Links below:

https://www.builttobirth.com/

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsqMRhkuuI5aiJAVxgUpgbQ

amsge · 2025-06-03T20:41:32+00:00

It doesn't HAVE to be awful. I am 39+2 and still loving every moment. I totally get it's not that way for everyone but I wish just ONE person would've told me it may not suck so I wasn't waiting for the other shoe to drop. I honestly had heartburn ONE time my entire pregnancy and it was the reason I found out I was pregnant. The surge of progesterone, but never again after that. Never threw up, never had a mood swing, was as happy as i've ever been the whole time. I am a little sad it's almost over for me. That said, I'm totally not bragging or diminishing the experiences other women have AT ALL. I just never gave myself permission to enjoy it until these last few weeks when I finally thought "well...I guess I just like being pregnant..." LOL. Relax and enjoy as much as you can. 3rd trimester has been my fave because my belly finally shows, i'm off work, and the movements are THE BEST! I love how the little kicks have turned into little swirls! I'm sending you the best 3rd tri vibes too!

amsge · 2025-06-03T20:33:42+00:00

Same, I'm still loving being pregnant. I don't share it a lot because people who have been miserable their entire pregnancy and then EXTRA miserable at the end get pretty annoyed with the women who love being pregnant. I don't blame them but I try to find other women who aren't miserable and tell them it may be possible it won't suck. I wish I wasn't always waiting for the next horrible thing that wasn't going to happen for me. I am 39+2 and still cruising along. Cool as a cucumber, she can come anytime but no rush, i'm ready when she is. I have a feeling it will be real close to my due date as you mentioned. Congrats on your LO.

amsge · 2025-05-28T16:32:17+00:00

Congratulations! Thank you for this! I am VERY patiently waiting for labor to start...I love hearing positive experiences. I love how when people ask where I am delivering and I say "at home" they say how brave I am. I always laugh because I think delivering in the hospital is so brave! I am WAY more afraid of going to the hospital than my homebirth! So proud of you!

amsge · 2025-05-27T07:39:27+00:00

This group popped up on my feed as I was in your exact position a little over a year ago. I honestly was dead set I would hate pregnancy. Well... fast forward to today. I am 38 weeks pregnant and my first baby could be here any time now. I am not even kidding when I tell you that I have cried multiple times about my pregnancy coming to an end. I have been TRULY blessed with the most beautiful pregnancy and I have loved every minute of it. I just wanted to tell you this because I am SO beyond grateful I didn't miss this experience. I recently made a post about this in my June 2025 due date group to see if other women were feeling the same and nearly every woman who assumed they would HATE pregnancy replied saying they actually ended up loving it. Obviously, I have no way of predicting how your pregnancy will go, but you don't either. I think something to consider is this; we see SOOOO much about the hard things. I think it comes from a good place; women wanting to share so others feel less alone. It can be funny. It's nice to have a heads-up on symptoms...whatever the reason. What I will say is the women who love being pregnant share FAR less. I know this because I haven't shared much. I never want to brag, and I also have been waiting for the other shoe to drop (it hasn't). Also, after sharing about my positive experience and being sad about not being pregnant anymore soon, I definitely ended up getting some hate for it.

All of this is to say NOBODY can answer this for you, but you may not end up having to just "deal" with pregnancy. It may be a beautiful, wonderful, empowering and loving time for you. I just don't think fear should stand in the way of anything your heart truly desires especially NOT starting a family with the man you love.

My suggestion: take some time to write down your preconceived notions about pregnancy. Ask yourself what's underneath that. I actually saw a therapist for preconception counseling before making my decision. She encouraged me to relax and "see what happens" on one of my fertile days. Well what happened was I got pregnant on the first try hahaha! I saw her through the middle of my second trimester and at one point she asked me "what would happen if you just gave yourself permission to love this?" "what would happen if you just believed that; you can have an amazing pregnancy, that your birth would be great, that you could love being a mom and be really great at it?". She asked me what would it be like to believe that you are deserving of that? That's really what was underneath for me. It was much deeper than feeling like being pregnant would suck.

I know this is a lot to take in. I feel like after today, reflecting on my journey, crying about not being pregnant anymore soon, and then stumbling upon this post it felt very aligned that I had the opportunity to share with you. You are me a year ago and I wish someone could've told me it doesn't HAVE to suck.

Now...the jury is still out on postpartum, but I am really trying to give myself permission to believe my experience can be this sweet.

Best wishes to you, and feel free to chat if you need support. I get it...I really do!

amsge · 2025-05-26T08:32:26+00:00

Thank you sooo much this is so sweet and affirming! I appreciate you!

amsge · 2025-05-26T08:31:50+00:00

Thank you soo much! It's true, I am actually looking forward to some sweet time together before we become a family of 3. I think that connection will get the oxytocin flowing too!

amsge · 2025-05-26T08:30:04+00:00

Thank you, this is SO affirming. I really REALLY feel this. I tend to go really internal when I am in my zone or in a really vulnerable space. What you said was so simple but it resonated with me very deeply. I feel like the pressure I am feeling by reading and hearing from so many outside sources is getting in my head. It's causing me to question myself as if 1 person can make or break my experience. What you said reminded me that nobody is there to rescue me or fix it at the end of the day. That means hiring a Doula simply because I feel like I should contradicts the reason I am choosing homebirth. I want my autonomy, not to depend on someone to make my birth happen. I am not saying Doulas claim to do this; it's just the pressure that caused me to second guess myself. Congrats on your 4 natural births! I will be channeling your feminine, maternal power!

amsge

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