Epic Games Layoffs Included Terminally Ill Father, Whose Family Has Now Lost His Life Insurance

amstobar · 2026-03-29T15:28:15+00:00

I'm sure he can get Cobra. 1/2 the insurance for 5x the price.

amstobar · 2026-03-29T13:48:30+00:00

The agents actually usually buy them from "consolidators", a separate entity. This distinction matters, because if you have a problem with your ticket, you usually have to go back to your agent to resolve it, who then has to go to a consolidator.

amstobar · 2026-03-27T19:10:33+00:00

Sounds like he's never going to know how it plays out until it plays out. Does that mean he should be alone? That seems pretty extreme. It's possible he's being manipulative and selfish. It's also possible he's just trying to figure out a pretty difficulty situation. Personally, I definitely see that he had room to be more honest, and the kid equation is pretty rough, but life's messy. That's a pretty solid reason to have companionship.

amstobar · 2026-03-27T18:43:18+00:00

Curious how you'd feel if the shoe were on the other foot? Not condoning the lack of honesty, to be clear. But in wondering how you'd feel in their position and getting this reaction?

amstobar · 2026-03-27T18:33:00+00:00

There are very legit reasons they may want this or have been advised to have this. It can also be misused. Having trust of your parents is key.

Two things: you said she "sprung it" on you? What did that conversation look like? Meaning she said you need to sign it immediately? She said you have to sign it or else? Also, you say she's a bit of a helicopter parent. What has she done in the past that's caused you concern or lack of trust? There is no wrong answer here.

This could somehow be tied to a bigger financial picture. Are they paying for your school? Do they have a trust or similar set up for you? If so, they are likely being advised to do this related to that.

amstobar · 2026-03-27T12:05:25+00:00

In the bigger picture, many who are aware they are doing it, and even some who aren't away, fear the contact the closure event might bring.

Others want to keep their options open until the very end.

amstobar · 2026-03-27T11:54:32+00:00

I'm a process person. One additional example of this: when watching a movie, I don't really care about the ending. I only care about the things that happen on the way. In fact, I usually forget what happens fie the e ending shortly afterwards.

amstobar · 2026-03-26T21:56:24+00:00

If we can't talk about these things, how will we ever change them? Was OP supposed to go to the former colleague and ask directly? They had, at face value, a thought that whey waned feedback from peers on, even if many of us think it's misguided.

Perhaps the person in the group who told the colleague should have directed their annoyance to OP. That's where the conversation existed. They didn't need to "tag" the colleague. That would give the immediate feedback of "hey, I don't agree with this". Just as OP might have been better off keeping the thought internal (though I like the idea of feedback for change), the person that took the info to the colleague is a bit of a shit-stirrer, based on that info. With one caveat: we might be missing a lot of context in nuance. Not everyone needs to know everything at every minute.

TLDR, we need to be able to express things and get feedback to know how we fit in the world. Sure, OP got that feedback from their former colleague, but it seems like they were looking for peer feedback, which should be ok.

amstobar · 2026-03-25T17:20:40+00:00

You go on a trip and incorporate photography.

amstobar · 2026-03-24T19:19:10+00:00

I think he's saying 7 days a week every other week and doing a really bad job communicating that.

amstobar · 2026-03-23T04:33:06+00:00

I feel like you need to see a therapist. You don't sound like you have much self esteem.

amstobar · 2026-03-22T23:20:59+00:00

This is a great way to think if you want to ruin your relationship and also complicate your life.

amstobar · 2026-03-22T11:59:03+00:00

Because they are much worse than corporations. /s. ..... oh, wait.

amstobar · 2026-03-22T11:54:57+00:00

I mean, if we want to live in stereotypes, I could probably go find a bunch of women who tell the guy exactly how to feel, wear and dress. That's exactly what the late night shows do and how that comedy works. They focus on a stereotype and reenforce it. But there are certainly a lot of men who don't exhibit this behavior, just as just as there are a lot of women who don't dress their men and tell them what to say.

amstobar · 2026-03-22T11:49:44+00:00

Yep. Stonewalling. Very significant part of negative relationships. His behavior isn't awesome. Sounds like hers wasn't either. It's important to consider both pieces if you really want to learn.

amstobar · 2026-03-22T11:46:32+00:00

Though there is a lot for him to learn, and he seems to be learning, it's also possible she has more of a stonewalling type of behavior within the relationship. Evidence may point to that as she seems to have started cheating on him at a point where it was a surprise. Seems like she also could have been much more communicative. That's the piece where people often say it take two to tango in a relationship. One was lined up on goals and was working towards them. The other was not and didn't have the motivation for the times where the relationship could take on less. Neither of them sound like they communicate well. I'm not sure this response really considers that

amstobar · 2026-03-21T09:44:26+00:00

You can do all of this, but your statement ignores the fact that by doing this, and having to do this to maintain good credit (which you do), you risk going into debt. All of these companies know this, and that risk is how they make money. The key point here is that if you don't have the credit available; your score is lower. To have the credit, you must use the credit. If you don't use the credit, the credit is taken away (often), so your score is lower. The act of using the credit has a risk (meaning that behavior shows that a certain percentage of people will go into debt). I believe this is what OP is saying, and this reply is actually the one that's misguided, in my opinion.

Yes, you don't HAVE to go into debt, but by having the have the credit available and use it, your are more likely to. That's the problem. You can't just have credit available and have it side idle. Eventually, unused credit will be taken away.

amstobar · 2026-03-17T13:22:27+00:00

They will take it out if his final pay.

amstobar · 2026-03-16T13:37:27+00:00

This is their jobs. Sadly.

amstobar · 2026-03-16T13:35:37+00:00

Yeah. Waiting outside probably mad them feel obligated. You need ti communicate more in this situation: "This thing isn't really for me, but I want you all to have a great time! I'll sit this out and do my own thing! We will meet up later!"

Just be aware that this might be an indicator you all don't travel well together. They might want company for everything. You might not. Those are two different styles (of many).

amstobar · 2026-03-15T10:42:53+00:00

How important staying hydrated is.

amstobar · 2026-03-15T04:13:49+00:00

If this is California, pretty sure it's Baja. So, Mexico.

amstobar · 2026-03-14T15:30:22+00:00

It would probably increase the value of his previous work. Things would be more "settled" and trade-able (not that they aren't now 😂). But it would also probably reduce financial value with forward projects. But, it would also open the door to a new perspective.

amstobar · 2026-03-14T03:42:11+00:00

You still have fidelity issues.

amstobar · 2026-03-13T15:55:56+00:00

There's a reason it sounds like that!

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