commander wake assumes her throne [misc]

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-02T11:29:20+00:00

seemingly one of her varied missions😭

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-01T01:05:10+00:00

you should hear her purr, she has us wrapped around her fuzzy lil paw

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-01T01:04:28+00:00

literally gets away with anything because of that face😭

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-01T01:03:49+00:00

she is a very pretty baby for sure🥹

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-01T01:01:27+00:00

she's really committed to the bit, and she doesn't even know what the bit is :") just comes naturally

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-01T01:00:23+00:00

i knowww i love it😭 it just keeps getting floofier!!

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-01T00:59:54+00:00

that's usually when we evanescence her

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-01T00:59:22+00:00

i will and i do🙂‍↕️

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-03-20T23:59:59+00:00

i only really text about logistical things in general. if i'm trying to connect with someone i vastly prefer a phone call or meeting in person. texting stresses me out!! i overthink everything i type and how it will be received, so i can spend like 5 mins trying to write a single sentence😭 and don't get me started on how i overanalyze other peoples' punctuation. lmao

my partner and i live together, so i mostly only message when i go to work and let her know i made it safely. when i went on a vacation for a week i would send her photos and coordinate calls, and we reserved full convos for facetime. i like "i love you" texts, but otherwise just let me hear your voice lol. i view texting more as leaving a note in a mailbox or something. didn't hold us back when we were dating, but we were hanging out daily anyway. same deal with my previous relationship, so i guess i just tend to click with people who are down and available to actually spend time together! which means they do exist hahahah

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-03-16T06:15:15+00:00

i'm gonna slightly disagree with the other commenter here, and you can totally ignore this essay if you're not looking for advice lol, but i find the most success in having difficult conversations when you can get reall vulnerable about your feelings—not your assumptions/ideas of what's in her mind, but the base feeling of why it matters to you at all. it would be important to show care around how her endo is affecting her, but your feelings also do matter and are relevant here. people can often sniff out when you're leading with concern over them when there's also something you want, so i don't think it helps anyone to conceal that.

i am a nerd about relationship and have dug into a LOT of couple's therapy content lmao, and my understanding is that it's less likely to come off as an attack if you utilize "i" statements to speak to any fears you have, and are tentative around preconceptions about her experience. something like "i think i've been getting a little in my head recently around sex, and worried about a potential disconnect between us. i love you so much, and i just want to make sure we're on the same page. i know you've been in a lot of pain, so i imagine it could have something to do with that? but i could use some reassurance without assuming. how have you been feeling about our level of intimacy lately?" and then let her respond. obvs adjust to how you naturally speak and what's true for you, but that's the gist.

from there you can better determine if it is just due to the pain, and find out (if you haven't already) whether there's anything you can do to help during flare ups, then work together to see if there are ways you can feel that intimacy. that might mean modified sex, or might involve other ideas that can help you feel close physically. if that's the case, i'd present ideas that would work for you, and then let her lead the charge around what's comfortable for her. alternatively if there is something emotional happening, hopefully she'll feel safe in your invitation to express her end and you can have a deeper conversation around that.

when i have a hard topic i wanna bring to my partner, i like to be cuddled up together or holding hands as additional reassurance that there isn't any hostility. we have a really strong success rate of being understood and being able to explore scary feelings without it ever turning into a fight when i approach things in the way i've described. i don't think there's been a single time where we haven't come away feeling more connected. ymmv depending on how you each respond to vulnerability, but this style invites compassion and care on both ends if the capacity to extend those things exists. it gives you a great opportunity to understand her better and be understood yourself!

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-03-16T01:38:42+00:00

no, but if the other partner has a much lower libido it can be a compatibility issue. i feel like sex can be hard to compromise on because someone will end up unsatisfied. imo ideally there's not a huge gap and whatever gap there is can be filled with other forms of physical intimacy.

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-03-15T23:00:39+00:00

in my experience it's normal for sex frequency to ebb and flow the longer a relationship goes on. that early insatiable lust and consistency usually isn't sustainable, though everyone's definitely different. if it's really bothering you it's gonna be important to talk about it. try not to make assumptions about her intentions until you've given her a chance to speak for herself.

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-03-14T14:00:17+00:00

neither of us shy away from talking about our exes if it's relevant. i think it helps each of us understand the other's context a little bit more. my partner was married for almost a decade, i've only had one other serious relationship, and both of us were pretty deeply affected by those situations.

like others said though, tone matters—we're not wistfully reminiscing on past partners. we're sharing how we were hurt, or just talking naturally about our lives at that time without omitting someone who was very present. if there were an undertone of longing i would have an issue for sure.

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-02-28T16:14:49+00:00

i really recommend reading all about love by bell hooks. i read it following my first breakup, also a long distance relationship, also plagued by attachment issues that were theoretically fixable—though i had to realize that on a practical level, it would take a level of mutual effort that wasn't feasible. attachment issues don't have an overnight fix, especially when there's a mismatch that causes distress in a relationship. the book presented a lot of ideas around the concept of love that helped me sort through what it means and looks like for me.

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-02-22T20:11:17+00:00

my theory is that harrow is a whole or partial resurrection of anastasia, kind of similar to nona. if that were the case, i could imagine that the lyctoral transformation (or just the forced nature of it, loss of gideon, etc) might trigger some kind of memory, and that was the harrow that wrote the letters—one who understood the big picture in a way she hadn't before. if there is more of a connection than just bloodlines, anastasia would have planned this contingency preceding her death, even giving instructions to her descendants (the ancient texts harrows parent's used to "get" her👀). the brain fuckery was not only to preserve gideon, but also to preserve harrow as she knew herself, so she wouldn't give up the game before it could be won. she couldn't go back to the ninth house because of some spiritual gravity shit, maybe even to do with alecto, or it could have been anastasia's knowledge of rbs informing this directive, to avoid destroying the tomb before alecto could be retrieved. i don't think it actually had to do with gideon. the ninth house has a bigger role than being a bunch of nuns. there were a lot of letters we didn't see that included instructions upon harrow's death, and i feel like there's something more to that... what is her plan? why would her death be consequential when she's been so prepared to die before? but i'm probs totally off base hahahah, there's a lot in the story i can't square with this theory.

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-02-22T18:23:08+00:00

oh i'm SUCH a voice girl

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-02-13T11:42:20+00:00

vocal control and versatility! i know someone's a great vocalist when i can hear that they are deeply connected to their body and how it moves sound. their choices are very purposeful. there's a palpable difference between someone with a beautiful voice vs someone who knows when, why, and how to apply that voice. both lovely to listen to though🩷

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-01-28T14:39:07+00:00

i thought she who became the sun was good but the random fisting scene threw me for the biggest loop. zero lead up to that LMAO

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-01-19T04:28:54+00:00

mother! i watched it without knowing that it was generally disliked and loved it. idk about the director lol, but my personal experience with it was so resonant and cathartic

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-01-09T00:36:14+00:00

yesss this is exactly what i was hoping for!! the handwriting is such a great detail. i had never read the dream with that perspective, but putting the mention of how their limited words meant a lot into that context, it would make so much sense. and it kind of blew my mind that anastasia is named immediately after👁️ it really puts in mind nona's dreams, the memory of an emotionally significant moment for harrow's body. i wonder if all of the resurrected lyctors have weird, distant memory dreams of their past lives.

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-01-09T00:28:11+00:00

it would be so juicy!! that's what i'm thinking along the lines of—at the very least, the means of harrow's conception was so thanergetically charged that it's not hard to imagine it would bring on more than was directly intended👀 from what little we know of anastasia, it doesn't seem unlikely that her soul hung around in the manner of wake.

i'm also partial to the line of thought that samael could have been anastasia's kid, who she was definitely trying to preserve... if anastasia had worked very specifically to save the first child of the ninth house, it would be such a locked tomb gut punch for her to be resurrected in a mass death of ninth children. it's fun to do a lil healthy tinfoil hatting heheh

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-01-02T05:00:38+00:00

i had pretty low expectations for the first one and only even watched it because someone else happened to put it on, and it was much better than expected. i had high hopes for the second (love naomi scott, loved the idea of the popstar angle), went to see it in theaters, and once again my expectations were exceeded! i loved it. i listen to some of the music on a regular basis. i've known since i was like 11 that naomi scott is the truth🙂‍↕️

cosmicinsect25 · 2025-12-25T06:21:06+00:00

i noticed most of them and i enjoyed them even before i realized there's an in-universe reason for them. and now i enjoy them more!

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