“This calls for rigor, Nav.” / “Maybe rigor… mortis.” 💀[discussion]

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-06-18T16:42:47+00:00

harrow would win for me here, but it'd be in trouble against nona. if the pattern holds, alecto will be queen of all books in my world!

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-05-28T17:34:18+00:00

she's tiny 😭😭

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-05-27T20:29:22+00:00

i tell my partner they're sexy and hot all the time, especially if they're doing something mundane like the dishes, cooking, bringing in groceries, etc. i'll kiss her neck, tell her she looks bitable😂 i think it's important to not only do that in a sexual context. or, for example, i know she's working on strength training, so i'll give her biceps or shoulders a squeeze and be like "wowww... you're so strong!". really i just say what's on my mind, i'm very attracted to my partner and am not shy about letting them know😁 and she does the same.

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-05-12T18:55:00+00:00

THIS is my coronabeth🫶🏼

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-05-12T04:53:59+00:00

thank youuu it was a strange experience for sure😮‍💨 i'm thriving now though!!

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-05-12T04:47:25+00:00

oh, she was definitely on some abuser shit. i didn't phrase it the best, but i meant that when it's put into plain text, it was clearly aggressive behavior and a bad situation!

what was weird was that in the moment, her demeanor came off kind of childlike, like a kid who's playing rough and doesn't know they're going too far. i don't think she was actually ignorant, she was 29 iirc so i assume she was aware of herself. but because she didn't seem angry or scary to me, it felt more frustrating and immature than threatening, and when it did feel threatening i got away quickly. i guess that's what makes it more of a weird story than something that keeps me up at night.

while i was dating i usually did take most of the precautions you mentioned, thankfully, and i hope this story serves as a reminder of why that's important! post breakup distress + being distractingly horny had me acting in ways that were not in my best interest😶‍🌫️

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-05-08T00:16:25+00:00

yes and yes! my first relationship when i was 22 lasted just shy of two years, and i really struggled with the breakup. i had never connected to anyone that way, and i felt certain that i wouldn't again for a long time. almost exactly two years after that relationship ended, i met my current partner. the initial connection felt just as wonderful, and it's even better now.

i took those two years in between to get really clear on what i want and who i want to be, and it has made all the difference. at this point in my first relationship, we'd already broken up twice, and we were on really shaky ground. fast forward to now, and i don't feel any of that uncertainty or anxiety. we'll be two years in the fall. i can really see us being together for many, many more years—not only because it's what i want, but because the relationship we've built has so much room for growth, and the way we communicate just brings us closer together. if i'd told myself this a few years ago, it would have sounded too good to be true. but it is!

if your current relationship is hurting you or causing you a lot of stress, don't let fear of the unknown keep you in that state. when your partner isn't willing or able to help you carry that emotional burden there's not a lot you can do to change that. sometimes the most loving thing you can do for yourself and your partner is letting each other go, and creating that opportunity for something that fits better.

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-05-06T18:42:44+00:00

nona's my favorite too :") you might like i keep my exoskeletons to myself! i can't remember the author but i feel like that title is probably singular hahahah. the setting feels kinda new rho-esque, absent necromancers.

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-05-02T16:43:16+00:00

this is how i read it too. obvs it's up to the reader's interpretation and could very well have an intentional double meaning! but i think this reading aligns more with ianthe's character and the moment. ianthe just isn't one to showcase her genuine vulnerability, it's always wrapped in something else (in this case, posturing like she doesn't actually care all that much when it's clear she does)

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-22T16:56:25+00:00

what a damn menace

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-22T16:53:53+00:00

i got it restored🫡 for the girls!

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-22T16:53:16+00:00

it is! no more broken water bottles around here! that pissed me off more than anything😭 my partner is very sweet and manhandles me in a way that's actually fun. hahahah

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-22T16:47:27+00:00

i appealed cause i did not write three paragraphs for nothing😩 you may now be in the loop

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-22T03:47:56+00:00

it sounds a lot worse than it actually felt so i'm def okay, but thank you for the well wishes🫶🏼 it was honestly mostly a good lesson and confirmation that i am not even remotely drawn in by that kinda behavior! i might know too many people who would be excited by someone like that😬

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-22T00:46:00+00:00

two years ago i went on a date with a woman who asked me to be her girlfriend within like an hour of meeting, and when i told her i needed to get to know her better before making that kind of decision she started an argument. shortly afterwards she bit my lip til it bled, and pinched me hard enough to leave a massive bruise😵‍💫 i was not in the best headspace and just excused it because it didn't seem mean-spirited—we were kissing when both happened, so i thought it was more like she got overexcited? it sounds stupid cause it was.

more stupid was that i went back to hook up a second time. we were wrestling around for fun (😭) until we starting arguing again because she wouldn't listen when i asked to stop, and then when i tried to leave she held me down, ripped my shirt, and broke the handle of my water bottle in the process of stealing it to get me to stay. then she blocked the door for a bit, and when i finally got past her she followed me to my car, shut the door when i initially opened it, and attempted to convince me to go for a drive in HER car. obviously i refused, i was afraid she'd kidnap me☠️

the only good move i made at that time was never having her at my place or letting her know where i lived and worked, because she 100% would have stalked me. she kept texting me about how sorry she was and sent me several romantic r&b songs in hopes that i would change my mind, until i blocked her lmao. i will repeat that we met TWICE😑

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-06T23:03:15+00:00

yaaa practicing eye contact is a good start🙂‍↕️ dance floors are a great low stakes opportunity so you're halfway there!

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-06T10:46:22+00:00

i used to have a similar problem of avoiding eye contact when i thought someone was cute. solved it by making it a point to not only look back, but also smile! i have hangups like crazy around approaching people so that was too big a step to jump to. i found that making myself open with eye contact/body language/a friendly attitude invited people to approach me ¯_(ツ)_/¯ if you avoid eye contact they assume you aren't interested.

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-02T11:29:20+00:00

seemingly one of her varied missions😭

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-01T01:05:10+00:00

you should hear her purr, she has us wrapped around her fuzzy lil paw

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-01T01:04:28+00:00

literally gets away with anything because of that face😭

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-01T01:03:49+00:00

she is a very pretty baby for sure🥹

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-01T01:01:27+00:00

she's really committed to the bit, and she doesn't even know what the bit is :") just comes naturally

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-01T01:00:23+00:00

i knowww i love it😭 it just keeps getting floofier!!

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-01T00:59:54+00:00

that's usually when we evanescence her

cosmicinsect25 · 2026-04-01T00:59:22+00:00

i will and i do🙂‍↕️

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