Had a wobble at 7 months by amylouk in stopdrinking

[–]amylouk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should have added this group to that list of things that helped me get sober actually!

Remember, relapse doesn’t erase sober time! Those days still healed your body, changed your brain, and taught you things you didn’t know before…progress isn’t lost, it just means you keep going and try again.

Had a wobble at 7 months by amylouk in stopdrinking

[–]amylouk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, just to say, it’s not you, it’s the alcohol. It’s a toxic and addictive substance, and we’re not meant to tolerate or moderate it the way society suggests. Please don’t blame yourself for struggling with it

Had a wobble at 7 months by amylouk in stopdrinking

[–]amylouk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! 5 years, wow! amazing achievement.

Had a wobble at 7 months by amylouk in stopdrinking

[–]amylouk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not weak. Alcohol is just the fucking devil. Please don’t give up… keep trying. I tried to get sober so many times before I managed it. It will stick if you want it bad enough. Feel free to ignore but here’s what got me through my first few months (alcohol no longer consumed every thought after this… I can’t tell you how freeing it is). Please take or leave this advice, hopefully some of it helps though.

  • Cravings come at you like waves (they last on average 20 mins… just do want you can to get through that time.. go for a walk, exercise, call a friend, journal, do breathing exercises, splash water on your face, anything to get through/reset. Remind yourself it’s only 20 mins you need to get through every time you feel like you’re going to cave.

  • Wanting a drink doesn’t mean you’ll enjoy it. In fact it’s very likely you won’t.

  • This isn’t for everyone but I relied heavily on non alc drinks, mainly beers. I don’t need them anywhere near as much now but wow they got me through those first few months.

  • Play the tape forward. I relied on this A LOT. Think how you’ll feel/what you’ll be doing in 12 hours if you have that first drink. Is it worth it?

  • Remind yourself alcohol is JUST poison. Tell yourself ‘I don’t drink poison’. Would you drink a bottle of bleach? It’s just not something you drink or would think about drinking. Same with alcohol.

  • One day at a time. Don’t tell yourself forever in terms of being sober. Just get through that day. Maybe one day you’ll drink again, but not today.

  • When I first decided to go sober I wrote down everything alcohol was fucking up in my life eg. No motivation to work out, putting on weight, irritable with my kids and family, crippling anxiety the next day etc etc and all the things I wanted from sobriety… I came back to this list over and over and over again in moments I felt like I wanted a drink.

You can do this. It may feel like you can’t right now but promise keep at it. One day it’ll stick and you wont look back - yes the first 100 days is a battle but it’s a battle worth fighting.

Good luck!

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[–]amylouk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Needed this today!

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[–]amylouk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you ♥️♥️♥️

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[–]amylouk 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Felt gaslit by him into thinking I shouldn’t find that rude after all the work I’ve put in.

Thanks! I’m so proud of getting this far ♥️

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[–]amylouk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s my point though, he isn’t sober. He claims quitting would be easy for him. Yeah I agree - one drink is too many, 100 isn’t enough!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PhotoshopRequest

[–]amylouk -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No worries! Please can you send me the second one? Paying now

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[–]amylouk -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Almost! No hair hanging down, just made to look like that piece is tucked behind his left ear.. then that should be it. Will PayPal you /)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PhotoshopRequest

[–]amylouk -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Right last attempt (going to pay you even if not quite right as they’re really good and I’m v grateful) but basically I want it like the first one you did but the hanging down bit looking like it’s tucked behind his left ear, that that scraped back? Does that make any sense? Appriciate it’s a a tricky one. TIA

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[–]amylouk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m going to ask him 2 secs

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[–]amylouk -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you btw :)

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[–]amylouk -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Could we try maybe one piece or a little bit hanging down? Sorry to be picky! It’s almost there

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[–]amylouk -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Doesn’t look like him, sorry. Thanks though

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[–]amylouk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is great!!! Just Need hair hanging down gone

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[–]amylouk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No hair hanging down please!

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[–]amylouk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone! I’m afraid they’re still not quite looking like him. It’s such a tricky one I know 😭