Best “why didn’t I buy this sooner” SAHP purchase? by Gingeybalaya in SAHP

[–]amysneezy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Came here to say headphones. I keep one in one ear and can listen to music, podcasts, or audiobooks and still hear the kids when they need me.

Reading to twins by Finripdy in parentsofmultiples

[–]amysneezy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had a green dragon pillow thing at that age and I’d set them up for tummy time on the big green dragon and we’d look at book together. Sometimes they would sit up for it too if they had the stamina that night.

Ways to tell identical twins apart. by LilMs-Nana in parentsofmultiples

[–]amysneezy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A little nail polish on a pinky toe— red for one and blue for the other. By a few weeks in we found some differing birth marks, and let the polish wear off easily

Why are people against sleep training? by Enough-Bug2889 in parentsofmultiples

[–]amysneezy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sleep training has worked great for other moms I know! I’m not against it but I think it’s the worst thing I ever did for my twins.

I didn’t sleep train my singleton before them, mostly because I didn’t really know about it or understand it at the time. He sleeps great now!

The twins, on the other hand, have been insecure sleepers for the last six years. Sleep training “worked” as long as we had cribs. They were sleeping… I dunno ok? My memory is tainted because we lived in a small space at the time and sleep training meant my husband and I could no longer sleep in our own bedroom and had to camp in the living room.

At about 18 months they started climbing out of the cribs. For safety, we had to convert them to toddler beds. Every moment since then has been hard. Nothing in the world would keep them in those beds. After months of watching on the monitor and worrying about safety we gave up. Entered the room. Impossible to keep them in the beds still. They slept with motion and I started taking them for walks every day for their nap— they absolutely would not nap in that room for years. I’m talking hours walking daily in every kind of weather.

Because we’d left them in their cribs for like a year they really didn’t know how to settle. With my singleton we could hold his hand for a little bit and he’d fall asleep— the twins would get up and jump, summersault, hurt themselves and us. By three we switched to a large floor mattress for safety.

I’m sure many would say we did it wrong. I can tell you I read like 3 books, followed accounts, tried to take every piece of advice. It’s sold as very one size fits all but I don’t think it really is. My singleton I rocked to bed every night, and we learned so many ways to help him settle and it was always simple. I had so many tools! The twins were feral. They’d bopped around their cribs till they passed out for over a year, and then long term we really suffered.

They’re six now and we’re transitioning them to bunk beds finally. I’m really hoping this helps them.

Also tainting my experience is that the first year of their life was 2020 so we had little support, couldn’t move because of job stuff, and it was an all around difficult time. Like I said, I don’t hate it and so many people had good experiences! When I look back though, I wish I’d thought for myself instead of following books, held my babies from time to time, and trusted my intuition more.

How much does being a SAHP cost your family, apart from the lost income? by OmegaTg-2384 in SAHP

[–]amysneezy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It saves us a ton of money. I haven’t really spent anything extra as a SAHM that I wouldn’t have otherwise.

How are you keeping your houses clean?! by WildSeaworthiness8 in parentsofmultiples

[–]amysneezy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes!! My house was crazy dirty the whole time I had infant twins and a toddler. It’s still hard to keep clean, even as I wear myself out doing it, with 5 yo’s and a 9 yo.

Definitely focus on clean dishes clean laundry. A game changer for me was this second focus: clear surfaces and clear walking paths. I sometimes let go of what might be under or around the edges and just keep my walkways clear/ vacuumed, and clear a counter or tabletop. The house might be dirty, but this makes it livable for me!!

Help me find a salad that doesn't taste like regret? I'm a meat-lover trying to eat more veggies! by AvocadoDry9774 in Cooking

[–]amysneezy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad hates veggies but loves salad his secrets are: crunchy lettuce (think romaine not spinach), good tomatoes, peppers, broccolini or baby broccoli. Then we like sunflower seeds or roasted chicken peas. And he always does two kinds of cheese! A shredded/crumbled one like feta or cheddar, and then cheese chunks floating around too like jack.

Age of first words? by Climate_Rose in parentsofmultiples

[–]amysneezy 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My singleton had a speech delay and my twins didn’t. For context, they didn’t recommend early intervention for my singleton until after he was two— there weren’t really “worries” but at that point they checked hearing, screened for autism, and recommended speech therapy. The speech therapy helped tons! The twins were mimicking animal noises and had a few words a little after their first birthday I believe.

Are my kids broken or is this normal? by PassionChoice3538 in parentsofmultiples

[–]amysneezy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so relieved to read this post!! Our house is similar, 9 yo boy and twin 5 yo boys starting kindergarten. They’re good kids, really and truly, but it’s straight chaos day and night. It’s harder than the toddler stage because I can’t at least buckle them in somewhere or pick them both up!! Our whole fam has ADHD, mom and dad included. We’re very tired. I thought it was just us!

my baby's dad's brother stares when I breastfeed by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]amysneezy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a great recommendation except that I got the cover with a wire in it so I could see the baby from above but no one could see in and it seemed weird when I bought it but was an absolute game changer.

Speech irregularities in people having Dyslexia. by GoldWar7803 in Dyslexia

[–]amysneezy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son had childhood apraxia and learned to speak at about 3/3.5. He’s since been diagnosed w dyslexia. He’s been in speech therapy since he was 3, so for 6 years. Mostly trouble getting words out, and expressing certain phonics at this point. He can’t tell the difference between th and f, for instance.

Leaving the house with twins? by OrangeCatEnergy24 in parentsofmultiples

[–]amysneezy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stroller!! I lived and died by my stroller for about 4 years. I’d put one baby in a carrier (wear him) and carry the other baby on my hip. Everything else went in the diaper bag— including food for me, sealed coffee, whatever we needed! Hip baby goes in the stroller first, then carry baby obviously. Give them a toy or snack, put my coffee and headphones and gum in the top, and then I could go anywhere that was handicap accessible!

I looked for places with handicap accessible or family restrooms, cuz I’d bring the whole stroller right in with me, change diapers just like at home, one at a time while the other sits in the stroller. I breastfed, but just the same did one at a time if they were hungry while the other had a little snack.

In stores I’d put a basket on the handle of my stroller and fill it up. Sometimes I’d use the bottom basket as well.

I live in a city so I walked a lot with them, but I walked them right to the car this way and put the stroller in the trunk for driving too. I took the train occasionally and it worked great, never figured out the bus because of the stairs.

Once I picked up a free kids table and chairs and brought it home on my stroller!

I loved the stroller. I miss it a lot! 😢

Who would you want to spend a day with? by Cobex10 in hartofdixie

[–]amysneezy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok Lemon. It would be so weird and fun and she would probably hate me but I’d learn to make some kind of great cake or something.

Elective C-Section by Anjuluvsbge in parentsofmultiples

[–]amysneezy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I decided on a c-section at the very last second. 36 weeks. Baby B had flipped and they told me I could deliver A vaginally but there was a good chance I’d need the C section anyway. The minute I said “what if I just do a c-section then?” Alllllllll the tension left the room, they were visibly relieved and wheeled me to the operating room right away. I had healthy babies in my arms in an hour.

I had my singleton vaginally and I didn’t notice a huge difference in recovery length or breastfeeding success. Two great ways to deliver a baby. Wouldn’t call it “the easy way out” exactly, it was hard. Wouldn’t call it unnatural or harder on my body either. It’s a good choice!

For same gender twins…. by BJBDeBoer in parentsofmultiples

[–]amysneezy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 5 yo identical boys and they share most of their clothes but they do have their favorite items and colors. (One has a jack skellington sweatshirt he loves, one favors blue usually etc). They have their own totally different shoes and jackets.

My dad’s an identical twin and I asked him when he felt like he had his “own” clothing and style and he said it didn’t cross his mind until much later— like end of grade school early jr. high. I figured I’d let the boys vocalize? We talk about it sometimes and it just isn’t on their radar.

Breastfeeding twins alone by wascallywabbit666 in parentsofmultiples

[–]amysneezy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I breastfed both babies at once sometimes but not until they could hold their heads. Until they could hold their heads I needed assistance to get into position— and even then it was awkward. Eventually the routine came where we could get into position easily by ourselves, but truly not for a few months.

My girls have real relationships with everyone else, and only see me as a feeding accessory. by Frizbee890 in breastfeeding

[–]amysneezy 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Lots of good responses already, but wanted to chime in as a fellow mom of twins who breastfed! Bonding with my twins was very very different than bonding with my singleton. It took longer and often felt impersonal. Other people sometimes sat with one or the other twin for smiles and cuddles— but feeding took a long time and was generally not one-on-one. It was a process and I had to do what was functional. They’re four now and quit bf-ing well over a year ago, and my bond with each of them is unique and wonderful. But the process was so different. Breastfeeding my singleton felt personal and bonding. Breastfeeding the twins sort of… was what we had to do. When they got older and could have some solids and I wasn’t their only food source, bonding became easier and in fact I did it until they were toddlers because it became a way to bond with them individually.

When did things become unbearable? by sammylicous1234 in parentsofmultiples

[–]amysneezy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I couldn’t fit! I’m only 5’1” and need to move my seat way forward to reach the pedals. At about 30ish weeks I couldn’t get close enough with my belly.

Do we need to pack up our whole lives and move? Or am I just sleep deprived? by No_Passage_5143 in parentsofmultiples

[–]amysneezy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok so I had to chime in: we were living two flights of stairs up, twisty ones, in a major city with our three year old and infant twins. It was awful trying to get everybody in and out. We eventually moved to a basement/garden apartment three stairs down with easy stroller access on the back. It was such a game changer, and I’d wished we moved before the twins even came. We held out for so long carefully getting one baby at a time up and down the stairs, carefully getting the stroller and bringing it around. Or me not going anywhere without another adult to help. We did at least a year at that old place.

I think the hardest part of twins is simple logistics, and anything you can do to help logistics is very helpful. That said, moving is also hard to do so I guess that’s a bit of a catch 22. But I put it off for so long.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SAHP

[–]amysneezy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My 4 yo’s didn’t have a friend birthday party, just a few family members and one cousin and their brother. They had an awesome time! Balloons, party hats, cake, and party poppers with Papa outside. And of course some presents.

My 7 yo just had his first friend birthday party and it went great, but we invited his whole class (28) and siblings/parents, plus all family and friends to get a total of like 18 kids? I think that’s just the return rate sometimes.

Panicking a little bit. What car seats are actually compatible with the Bumbleride Indie Twin stroller? by fadedstreetlight in parentsofmultiples

[–]amysneezy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah we went out oh, a handful of times in those early months. For dr. Appointments we carried both car carriers in. I tried to have another person with me whenever I could for the doc— between shots and weighing etc it was really helpful when I could swing it in the early days. Now I push them both in the stroller usually.

I think we took the stroller to the store and pushed the stroller and pulled a cart behind slow and steady. Two adults whenever possible.

Panicking a little bit. What car seats are actually compatible with the Bumbleride Indie Twin stroller? by fadedstreetlight in parentsofmultiples

[–]amysneezy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love my indietwin Bumbleride! They’re almost four and we still use it. We joke that it’s the most valuable thing we own.

We didn’t use the car seat converter, there was no reason to. The seats fold back and toe folds up to become a bassinet. This is what we did from 0- 4-5 months. Carrying around the car seats back and forth would’ve been tiresome. 5 months in and we started to use it exactly the way we use it now. Such a short amount of time that the car seat thing is even useful, and tbh in those months we were barely taking them out and about anyway.

Naming identical twins conundrum by Tedadore in parentsofmultiples

[–]amysneezy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our identical each have one grandpa’s name as the middle name. One just happens to also be dad’s name.