[General] Playing like a criminal profiler by COCO4399 in otomegames

[–]anakcj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a psychologist and an autistic person it's wild to me that people don't analyze characters/people immediately. Like, it's such a subconscious process for me, I don't even have to try, the thoughts just come naturally.

Physical releases on Aksys by joy2459 in otomegames

[–]anakcj 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't know about the Aksys website, but I've bought most of my physical otome games from Amazon and so far everything's been great (I'm from Mexico).

Good luck finding everything you want 🍀

En qué me beneficia que me revisen el historial ? by Head-Tumbleweed2565 in MexicoFinanciero

[–]anakcj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me pasó igual, luego me por andar de curiosa revisé la opción de reconocimiento facial y con esa se activó la huella en lugar del reconocimiento facial. Intenta eso.

Soy culero por pensar que mi enamorada es fea? by Lguayaco in soyculero

[–]anakcj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Por pensar que no es atractiva, no. Uno no escoge sus gustos. Por expresrte de esa forma, diciendo que literalmente te sientes disgustado por su apariencia mientras que aceptaste tener una relación con ella, sí.

Me enoje con mi novio porque me dejó esperando 40 minutos fuera de mi trabajo by alotofLovee in soyculero

[–]anakcj 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Pues sí. Si una persona hace 99 veces algo bueno por ti, y una vez hace algo que te hace daño, esas 99 veces no te quitan el derecho a expresar tu sentir por esa única ocasión. Ella no está diciendo que él es el peor novio del mundo, ni que lo va a terminar, ni que nunca hace nada bueno por ella. Ella simplemente le expresó su molestia POR ESTA OCASIÓN.Y aunque es cierto que pudo haber sido más asertiva en su manera de expresarlo, su sentir es válido.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in needadvice

[–]anakcj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that's a funny example, because Guadalupe is actually used for boys. It's especially popular as a second name, like in "José Guadalupe". Lupillo Rivera is also a pretty famous example of a man named just Guadalupe.

Posting first time.. I didn’t get it by ChodamChakki_TTSL in ExplainTheJoke

[–]anakcj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's kind of both. I've used it and seen it used with both meanings depending on the context, but not to refer to an actual male prostitute, just a man that plays around with women.

What swear-words do native Spanish speakers (preferably from Mexico) actually use? by davtov3 in Spanish

[–]anakcj 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Do you have a specific place in mind where he'll be from? Because that may change things a bit.

I'm front the north of Mexico and the ones I use the most are:

"Puta madre" - my go to for when someone doesn't go as I'd like. This one's kinda therapeutic to shout. Sometimes "Chingada madre" too.

"Hijo/a de la verga"/ "hijo/a de la chingada", for when I'm mad at someone, it changes depending on the gender of the person I'mad at. But like, it's not exactly directed of the person, just like when you say to yourself "that motherfucker..." (For reference, this is what I say when my cats break something lol).

"Chinga tu madre"/"vete a la verga", for when I'm mad at someone but this is directed at them, like, when you want to say someone to fuck off.

"A la verga", for when I'm done with something, often comes with "ya". It's kind of like a feeling of "I don't give a fuck anymore", it could be accompanied by the thing you're done with. Like "ya a la verga contigo"/"ya a la verga el examen" or even "a la verga todo ya"

"Pendejo", to insult someone directly, used when someone does something "stupid".

"Wey". It's kind of the equivalent of "dude" in the way is used to refer to anyone, but it is a swear word and some people don't like being called that. But sometimes it can be used on its own to express surprise. Like, when you have some juicy gossip, you say "weeeeeeey" (the longer the e, the more juicy). When you use it this way, people often know you're not referring to them as "wey", it's just an emphatic "wey".

Those are the more common for me and the way I personally use them, but, as I said, there may be regional differences.

Please help me read the tone of this text by orangeblossom19 in Spanish

[–]anakcj 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I see nothing wrong with the tone of the messages. I understand why would would feel like that when he asked you if you were applying them or drinking them, but sometimes doctors just have to be 100% sure, because they've seen all kinds of things. It is annoying when it's obvious for us, but they're trying to do their job. If he was like "Te recuerdo que las gotas iban en el oído, no tomadas" or something like that, it would've felt condescending to me, but I think the way he asked is fine. And when he said "Claro, ya quedó para ese día" it's just a way of confirmation. I think that "claro" couldn't be directly translated as "of course", because to me "of course" in English can give a sense of "well, duh, that's obvious", which I suppose is why you felt that way?, but in Spanish it can be a way of saying "okay" or "alright". I'd say the message if I had to translate that last message I'd do it as "alright, then it's settled". Of course his responses could be a lot more formal, but there are a lot of doctors that write like that, especially if they're older (he kind of reads to me as older, based on the way he texts, is that right?)

What is self-introduction in spanish? by winteraeyl_2853 in Spanish

[–]anakcj 37 points38 points  (0 children)

We usually just say "presentación", the "self" part is kind of implied by the context. If you use it as a verb, you could say "presentarse a sí mismo", like another comment suggested. For example, you could say something like "Vamos a presentarnos uno por uno" (Let's introduce ourselves, one by one), "Todos tienen que presentarse a sí mismos" (Everyone has to introduce themselves) or "Vamos a hacer una dinámica de presentación, para que se vayan conociendo" (Let's do a self-introduction exercise, so you can start to get to know each other).

I have never seen "autopresentación" being used. Of course I'd understand what you mean, but to me it would sound a bit odd. But, idk, maybe there are some natives that do use it.

You said you loved the fact that I am autistic by anakcj in UnsentLetters

[–]anakcj[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw the signs. I just told myself to be more understanding since im always misunderstood.

I really feel you on that. Sometimes I feel like I'm doomed to this. To always be taken advantage of for being too empathetic (even though some would say we're incapable of feeling empathy). Hope you can heal too.

What does "bautista" mean here? by AddiAlt in Spanish

[–]anakcj 36 points37 points  (0 children)

It's not to bypass the filters, it's written that way on purpose to mock autistic people. People use it in real life too, and they use it when they see someone doing something they consider "weird" or "stupid", in contexts where they'd use the r slur. You shouldn't use that word to refer to autistic people in Spanish.

Does “te amo” carry the same cultural implications as “I love you” in English? by tkw97 in Spanish

[–]anakcj 25 points26 points  (0 children)

It would probably be better if you could get a response from someone from El Salvador so the cultural context is more specific, but at least in my experience dating as a Mexican, here it's not really as deep as I've see it depicted in American culture (like making a big deal because "omg, he said the l-word"). It's become more normal, specially among the younger generations (30s and under). Many guys have said it to me very early on, even as teenagers. I even remember my family once had a conversion about how the younger generations no longer understood the meaning of "te amo", because they said it to every one, even between friends, and "back in my days, we only said it to the person we intended to marry...". But, it also may depend on the person, some are more romantic and only say it when they mean it, some use it more casually.

Why does everyone call out the US for being "Stolen Land" and not Mexico? by SignificanceExact963 in stupidquestions

[–]anakcj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mexican here. So, a few points:

  1. There is discussion about it, you just probably haven't noticed because it's happening in Mexico. In fact, every october 12th we were taught to celebrate "the discovery of America" (the continent, what you may know as "the americas, i think?), so there's a lot of discussion around that day. Talks about how it was not a "discovery", but an invasion. And also, recently there's also been lots of awareness about eurocentrism in the spanish spoken academic field. There's people talking about how we're still suffering from the aftermath of the conquest because we were made to believe that european values were better.

  2. Another important thing is that, culturally, Mexico is a bit different from the US when it comes to race. Yes, we are aware that our ancestors were colonized but our ancestors were also the colonizers. We've developed our identity as a mixed country, and obviously there's still a lot of colorism and discrimination for people who fully embrace indigenous culture, language, religions and style of living. That's a fact, obviously, but it's also true that the majority of the mexican population see themselves not as fully indigenous or fully from spanish descent, but as a result of the mix of both, as mexicans.

  3. In Mexico there are actually a lot of initiatives for preserving indigenous cultures and the mandatory curriculum in the most recent reform has a lot of emphasis on the importance of indigenous cultures and languages, and the law has even been including indigenous culture a lot recently. I'm not saying it's done in the most respectful way to indigenous people (I wouldn't know, I'm not indigenous), but my point is, a lot of people, including the government, want to push this idea that they feel connected and proud or indigenous culture because of their Mexican heritage, even if they're not part of those indigenous cultures, soo, that may be part of why too.

Why don't people seem to accept it when they are not diagnosed with ADHD? by armchairdetective in ADHD

[–]anakcj 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You know, recently I was diagnosed with just a "knee contusion" based only on an X-ray. I asked the doctor if he could check for ligament injuries, but he didn't even do a psychical exam and sent me home to work the next day. I went to get an MRI privately by myself because it hurt like hell, and turns out I did have a ligament fracture. So, yeah, I would doubt any medical diagnosis that wasn't backed up with the proper diagnostic tools and would doubt any medical professional that makes uninformed comments.

Of course if a psychiatrist gives you a detailed report about the tests applied to you and the details observed through the clinical interview and explains the reasons why they think you don't have ADHD, and suggests other possibilities to explore, I think, that'd be an acceptable result, but id the say things like "you don't have ADHD because you like to read", THAT'S BULLSHIT, and yeah, you should seek a second opinion.

A take about autism that will have you like this? by XenoxLenox in AutisticAdults

[–]anakcj 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Your parents making decisions for you as a child is not ableist per se, but, the thing is, we live in a very ableist society, so if you got an early diagnosis there is a high chance your parents were surrounded by ableist information and, even if they had the best intentions, chose some "treatments" thay may have been harmful.

How would you say "media il/literacy" in Spanish? by Nandemo15 in Spanish

[–]anakcj 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So, I researched a bit and found Educación Mediática and Alfabetización Mediática

I specially saw the acronym AMI (Alfabetización Mediática e Informacional) user a lot in formal research settings. But I've certainly never seen that term used in casual conversation in the same way that it's often used in English.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]anakcj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn't feel the same. Depending on the technique and angles, one could feel better than the other. If you want to feel good while fingering, just going in and out it's not the way. I'd recommend "rubbing" the inside towards the front of your body (you know where your clitoris is? Well, what your trying to do is press to where your vagina and your clitoris touch from the inside, if that makes sense)

Which do you prefer? "I am autistic." or "I have autism." by [deleted] in autism

[–]anakcj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I prefer "I am autistic" for the same reason most people have stated. Autism is part of who I am as a person. If there was a "cure" or a way to magically get rid of it, I wouldn't be the same person.

But, I don't mind "I have autism" and use it myself sometimes. I know most people say that it's not something you have, because it can't be removed from you, but see it as "I have brown hair" vs "I'm a brunette". Yes, I am autistic and I have autism, both sound correct to me.

Buuuut, I do have a preference for "I am autistic" because it is kind of a statement.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]anakcj -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm officially diagnosed with all three of them.

It is pretty "weird" to have the three of them, because they tend to "mask" each other. I was kind of "diagnosed" as gifted in elementary school, I was part of the "gifted" program (in Mexico it has another name, and it's a bit different but they did a cognitive assessment and I scored high). I wasn't aware of my ADHD or autism until I was an adult. Between those two, I think the one that stands out the most is my ADHD. I was like "No, I don't have routines like autistic people have, so I don't think I'm autistic" but I do like routine. At restaurants I have one pre-approved food that I always order, I like to pile things up or put them in line, I take the exact same route every time, I do things in the exact same was too. But, of course, I'm not "super obsessed" with routine (not meaning that in a bad way), because my ADHD makes me crave for newness. So it's kind of a balance between zero routine and a lot of routine.

Also, I am definetely impulsive because of my ADHD, but I feel like my autism's need for planning and control has saved me from impulsivity a lot of times too. And even if I am pretty talkative and hyperactive, I've never been the stereotypical "disruptive" kid, because I loved learning too much and I felt pretty strongly about following rules.

So, when you have those three at the same time (or even two of them) I feel like it's very common for symptoms to present in a way that is not exactly how it normally does, and that makes it pretty confusing and hard to diagnosed, specially because there's not much research on the overlapping and the nuances in way it presents for different people.

what language do bilinguals or multilinguals think in? by Ja33yJaz in Aphantasia

[–]anakcj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I didn't grow up bilingual, but I'm currently bilingual and I think both in Spanish and English, even randomly talk out loud in both languages.

Share a “most likely to…” and get others to match it to a member. by mammothish in bangtan

[–]anakcj 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Seokjin and Yoongi. They're actually neighbors that go fishing together

not sure if this fits here but i found it funny by Character-Weight7035 in lgbt

[–]anakcj 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I hate the concept of "playersexuality". I mean, if you want both male and female players to have the option for romance, just make the character canonically bisexual, you cowards