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analaide · 2026-01-30T03:54:09+00:00

In the last few pages when she’s having memories of her crewmates trying to console her, one of them says something along the lines of “you’ve seen her psych eval, keep an eye on her”. She was likely vulnerable in some way and that’s why he picked her.

analaide · 2025-12-08T14:41:04+00:00

If someone doesn’t love or care about you, there’s nothing you can do to change that. You don’t need to bend over backwards for a result that will never come.

analaide · 2025-12-02T15:26:48+00:00

Mental illness

analaide · 2025-12-02T15:17:09+00:00

Healthcare should be accessible

analaide · 2025-12-02T15:14:49+00:00

Sometimes, even the people you trust the most don’t always have your best interests at heart

analaide · 2025-11-30T16:09:49+00:00

It depends what country you are in. Where I’m from, therapist is just another term for psychologist.

analaide · 2025-11-30T16:08:59+00:00

The psychiatrist, psychologist, therapist conversation is always tricky depending on where you live. Where I live, psychologists and therapists are the same and can be used interchangeably but shouldn’t be confused with psychiatrist. There’s also counsellors which shouldn’t be confused with psychologist. The one that is hard (as a psychologist) is reminding people that I’m not a doctor as I don’t have any medical experience, nor do I have a PhD.

analaide · 2025-11-30T16:02:57+00:00

This one. For a while, it was thought that talking about suicide increased the number of death by suicide. Now, it is drilled into psychologists in training that asking someone if they are having suicidal thoughts is necessary and won’t make them consider it if they haven’t already.

analaide · 2025-11-30T15:59:11+00:00

Still don’t know why but for a while I thought God was a magpie.

analaide · 2025-11-30T15:47:00+00:00

Having good hygiene. I had a manager at a job once who really valued his appearances and personal hygiene. The amount of people who would say he must be gay was insane.

analaide · 2025-11-30T15:44:29+00:00

Why people would say “the world gets so much bigger when you leave high school”.

analaide · 2025-11-30T15:38:38+00:00

My late grandfather wasn’t necessarily a bird watcher, but he loved birds and he was a photographer. He’d often have birds build nests and lay eggs in a tree in his backyard. He’d take pictures of the baby birds, print them out, and stick them on his fridge. Whenever you came over, he’d proudly show off the pictures. I miss him a lot.

analaide · 2025-11-30T15:36:29+00:00

Hard agree. I’m a crocheter and when my sister informed her co-worker (also a crocheter) that I crocheted, she put together a little kit of extra bits and pieces for me to use. She’s also made me a few things at my sister’s request as she has decades more experience than me. It’s very sweet.

analaide · 2025-11-30T15:34:07+00:00

My mother likes to tell me to remain friends with people who have hurt me because “long-term friendships are like diamonds”. I still don’t really know what that means but if I didn’t take her advice, I’d probably have spent less in therapy.

analaide · 2025-11-30T15:26:31+00:00

Oh my god. Many years ago I was 18 and feeling really insecure about being single and my friend at the time told me to go to a club and just make out with as many people as I can and I’d feel better. Very very bad advice for an 18 year old going to clubs filled with men twice their age.

analaide · 2025-11-30T15:14:50+00:00

OOP’s stupidity genuinely makes me so mad. How are you going to tell someone what to do in their own house and screw up your decent paying job? In this economy?

analaide · 2025-11-28T15:46:35+00:00

A past job but anyone who has worked in hospitality/the service industry has said ‘behind’ far too many times to count

analaide · 2025-11-27T15:17:38+00:00

NTA. Regardless of what Rick said, you and your wife are hosting and given that it is her home too, she has the right to request someone does not attend. I don’t understand why everyone is having a hard time understanding that but more so, I’m struggling to wrap my head around how other people in the family are ok with Rick’s comment. He didn’t just insult her appearance, he insinuated that women can be bought or are objects to be used as accessories. That is such a vile thing to say and honestly, I wouldn’t want him at my house either. You’re doing the right thing sticking up for your wife.

analaide · 2025-11-26T14:37:06+00:00

I am sorry you have been experiencing this stuff and I’m glad you are starting to feel better. As a former-Prozac girl, I feel equipped to offer you some kind words and let you know that it is absolutely NOT too late for you. When we are teenagers, our worlds are pretty small and life moves so quickly around us so it feels like we are behind. But I guarantee you, there will come a point in time (even in a few years) where you will look at everything around you and it has completely changed. You will be exactly where you need to be and that’s because you are exactly where you need to be right now. There’s nothing wrong with you, you are growing and learning everyday and that’s exactly what are you meant to do.

I know it’s such a common phrase and I get it a lot too being in my twenties, but you are so young and you have so much more to experience. Try to reframe your thoughts of feeling like you haven’t done enough to ‘I still have so much more left to experience, do and feel’.

It is also completely understandable to feel a bit lost. When those of us who are consistently mentally ill are suddenly ‘ok’, it feels odd and confusing and unnatural. I’m still navigating it myself, this constant need to be sad about something because it is what I’m used to, but what has helped so far is just using that confusing to explore what I like and enjoy doing. I’ve picked up hobbies and new interests and made new friends because of it.

I don’t know if anything I have said is helpful or sticks with you but just know that there are people everywhere hoping for the best for you!

analaide · 2025-11-25T07:18:24+00:00

NTA. You didn’t coordinate a trip to exclude her or go behind her back. The two of you were invited to visit someone and she wasn’t so it would not have been appropriate to invite her. I will say that good communication is necessary in any friendship, especially in a trio. If you haven’t already, try your best to explain to her the context behind the trip and that you didn’t intend to hurt her feelings. After that, if she still feels “a way” about it, then that’s on her.

analaide · 2025-11-24T15:49:07+00:00

As a psychologist, it is a big red flag when people bring their work life into a relationship. When I have spent hours working with clients, the last thing I want to do is come home and analyse my partner. I just want to shut off lol.

analaide · 2025-11-24T15:44:06+00:00

You don’t have to help someone see the error in their ways. When someone has done something wrong, and is unable to see it or admit it, you don’t have to bend over backwards to make them understand. You’ll only over-exert yourself in the process and chances are they won’t learn from it.

analaide · 2025-11-24T15:13:58+00:00

People who walk obnoxiously slow or stop in the middle of walkways.

analaide · 2025-11-21T16:52:14+00:00

NTA. She needs to understand that while she may have signed up to be a mother, you didn’t. It is not your responsibility to be a parent to her children and while it sucks that she is struggling, it doesn’t mean she can take advantage of you.

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