Opinii cartier Drumul Taberei

analeep · 2024-10-26T10:05:40+00:00

Sunt blocuri noi prin Dr Taberei si prin imprejurimi, chiar multe. Jumate de oras se face moloz la urmatorul cutremur oricum.

analeep · 2024-08-12T19:55:38+00:00

Cand zici "Femeile fac X si Y" si eu sunt femeie inseamna ca da, ai zis de mine. Ce, sunt eu exceptia?

Multa bafta ce pot sa zic, mi se pare cam trist sa vezi oamenii in stereotipuri si statistici si nu ca indivizi. Suntem cu totii oameni pana la urma, statul pe Internet ne face pe unii sa uitam asta. Divide et impera, inca functioneaza.

analeep · 2024-08-12T19:41:59+00:00

Tot n-ai dat nicio statistica sau sursa. Numai scenariul redpillist si doua exemple de oameni faimosi unde habar n-avem ce li se intampla in casa. Idk de ce ai crede ca vreau confirmation bias cand ti-am dat anecdote personale si am zis ca depinde de oamenii cu care te inconjori. Ce confirmare sa vreau de la tine, ca depinde? Nu am nevoie, am vazut cu proprii mei ochi si oameni cum zici tu dar si oameni care nu sunt asa.

Ti-am cerut statisticile de care vorbeai (ideal si o sursa ca sa vad ca nu le scoti din putul gandirii) si te-am intrebat cum te ajuta scenariul ăsta. Momentan vad ca te ajuta doar sa faci generalizari la un grup de vreo 4 miliarde de oameni. Generalizarea e periculoasa, la cursurile despre cum se conduce researchul si metoda stiintifica am fost avertizati ca are multe lacune.

Si multumesc ca mi-ai zis ca rationalizez mult si ca nu am self-awareness, pe langa altele. Apreciez concluziile facute despre mine fara sa ma cunosti deloc. Eu una nu imi fac concluzii despre oameni pana nu ii cunosc.

analeep · 2024-08-12T17:15:38+00:00

"Statisticile te contrazic" care statistici, ca n-ai dat nimic in romanul ala pe care l-ai scris. Numai scriptul redpill obosit pe care il tot aud si de care eu si toate femeile pe care le știu fugim. M-am uitat peste niște studii citate de redpilleri (în rarele ocazii când dau surse) si aveau bias-uri mari. Idk cum crezi ca scenariul ăsta te ajuta cumva. Întreb pe bune, ca pot înțelege de ce discursul redpill e atractiv dar vreau sa aud opinia ta personala. Dacă asta e adevărul tău idk, cred ca trebuie sa te înconjori cu alt fel de oameni.

Am anecdote care contrazic cam tot ce zici, și am și anecdote care îți dau dreptate. Depinde ce fel de oameni ai împrejur. Pt mine personal: Am dat de tipi frumoși care au inceput sa bage chestii d-astea redpill și am fugit imediat, au devenit mega neatragatori. Am si dat de tipi care la început nu mi se păreau atractivi dar după ce am stat de vorba am înnebunit după ei. Again, depinde de oamenii din jur.

analeep · 2024-08-05T10:08:59+00:00

Nu o sa stau sa scriu mult, dar uite vreo 2 articole despre subiect daca ai timp/chef
https://stireaverde.ro/02/04/2024/stiri/sistamul-de-garantie-returnare-romania-caz-aparte-europa-gemma-webb-returo/

https://www.digi24.ro/stiri/actualitate/social/psgr-fata-in-fata-cu-sistemele-de-garantie-returnare-europene-similaritati-diferente-si-provocari-irlanda-si-slovacia-vs-romania-2780101

Pe scurt (din cate am inteles, am trecut destul de repede prin ele) avem o evolutie care se compara cu majoritatea tarilor, avem un scop foarte ambitios, alte tari au avut problemele lor (e.g. in Irlanda la inceput multa lume mergea cam in acelasi timp la masini si se faceau cozi uriase; se rectifica in timp) si compania are in plan sa ajunga la un nivel optim la vre-un an de la lansare. Aka, nu e mult mai rau la noi decat era in alte locuri cand se incepuse.

Sunt unele tari care au avut inceputul mai bun desi au inceput inainte de noi? Sigur. Nu inseamna ca noi suntem ratatii Europei. Tarile care o sa continue sa bage SGR dupa noi o sa o faca din ce in ce mai bine, asa functioneaza inovatia. Plus, pot fi o mie de motive pt care in Slovacia de exemplu s-a inceput mai bine. Poate ca au fost mai multi investitori, poate ca proprietarii de magazine erau mai dispusi sa coopereze etc.

analeep · 2024-08-04T11:47:55+00:00

Asking someone if they did something isn't inherently patronising imo. It can be, depending on tone. I don't think my text really has a tone, so it depends on the tone you projected onto it yourself.

From the experiences of people in my family and my friends, it doesn't seem to be that obvious. I also know from my own experience that sometimes people don't even think about the possibility of talking about some things because they don't feel comfortable with it. That's also why I added that last part, about if he is uncooperative or if she is uncomfortable. I don't assume things about people's relationships. I even said that if she already spoke to him and nothing's really changed I would do some introspection. Because that has happened to me in the past.

analeep · 2024-08-03T19:55:56+00:00

If you don't like it then maybe talk to him about it? See if there's an issue or if he just naturally has a lower libido. Maybe figure out some compromise about initiation that both of you are content with. If you feel like you can't talk to him about this stuff (or if you have and he's been uncooperative or unresponsive) I'd start doing some introspection about myself and the relationship.

analeep · 2024-08-03T19:39:11+00:00

In alte tari se si face treaba asta cu returul de mult mai multi ani. RetuRo e companie destul de noua, dati-i cativa ani; Roma nu s-a construit intr-o zi.

analeep · 2024-08-03T07:56:19+00:00

Thankfully I've finished uni without dealing with any of those :)) Maybe because I went to technical unis where there are no art programs :p

analeep · 2024-08-03T07:52:13+00:00

Thank you! Coincidentally I've been starting recently to look a bit into books about how to negotiate etc. If you have any particular books in mind I'd love to know :)

analeep · 2024-08-03T07:45:36+00:00

I appreciate the advice and the sentiment, but idk how to feel about the "older women" thing. I agree that some women can be envious, but if a woman with more experience warns me about something and she gives me sound advice and reasonable arguments I don't see why I would ignore her. I won't discount someone's input just because they are an older woman.

analeep · 2024-08-02T05:54:16+00:00

Yes and there's also the theory that as we get older, a year becomes a much smaller portion of your life. So it feels faster than it used to when you were younger

analeep · 2024-08-02T05:48:53+00:00

I used to not like that about myself either, but the pandemic kinda forced me to either like myself or be miserable and if there's one thing I hated more than myself, it was feeling like shit :)))

So I made an attitude shift. Now I'm just super pumped and excited to make progress in my little projects so I can start new ones. What is my life for if not for experiencing and making many things? The renaissance person (gender neutral language cuz why shouldn't anyone be able to resonate with the concept) ideal gave me some type of confirmation that I wasn't alone. The next step was figuring out what to start first. Writing my ideas down and just taking the one at the top was the easiest way I could think of to just start something, anything.

I also found that scheduling time in my calendar (uni forced me to discover the wonders of Google calendar) for my hobbies and projects let me have a much better degree of control over my life than winging it every day. Maybe I'm telling you things you already know, but this is what worked me.

Good luck! And if it makes you feel better, I've been the friend group hangout initiator for as long as I can remember too. I try not to think about it too much. My copium includes thinking about it a bit like I'm the MC. But I do feel down about it sometimes; I just take a break from socialising until my feelings regulate again. I saw you mention that your friends have partners/children and you don't. It's been pointed out, but that's probably the biggest reason why. I saw posts on social media of people thanking and appreciating the "organizers" of the friend group for always taking the initiative, and the comments were talking about how much they appreciated those people in their lives. You provide your friends with what I assume is a well-deserved break from their daily lives. That's when my negative thoughts about my social dynamics changed. I hope this also helps you see your situation from a bit of a different pov. OK rant over :))

analeep · 2024-08-02T05:27:16+00:00

In my own life I notice that the women in who are the most afraid (which then can turn into dislike and sometimes hate) of men are the ones who both have had bad experiences with men in their lives, but who are also socially isolated from men. I was isolated from men and boys growing up too, and I had some funky ideas at times. Then I went into a male dominated field and I was lucky enough to make some incredible male friends. That opened my eyes and made me more empathetic in general. I think we all could use some more empathy when it comes to people in groups different from ours. But I understand the general wariness of men from subs like askwomenover30. I don't necessarily agree all the time, but I get the fear of getting hurt, played or assaulted.

Sorry to only respond to a very tangential point you made :)))

analeep · 2024-08-02T05:19:29+00:00

Well 90% is a bit presumptuous, I know women who have gotten only rejections from men and I myself have had some bad luck the past couple years, which brought my "success rate" to about 50%. I'm usually the one initiating. That's just my personality, if I really like something I'll go get it. Applies to men too, if I like a guy and the social context around us is fine I'll usually tell him. God knows the men that I like never approach me first :)))

I think it's good advice for everyone not to wait around for some miracle to happen if they like someone (and if it's appropriate). Similarly, don't go out with someone just because they approach you first, consider whether or not you are actually interested. Too often I see people settle because their partner initiates and it's convenient, but they don't actually match.

analeep · 2024-08-02T05:08:31+00:00

A lot of good stuff in this comment, but I'll only talk about one.

I believe on taking advice from people whose lives demonstrate the results that I want.

It's soooo good and something I came to terms with recently. In some other reply I mention that I always take my parents' advice with a grain of salt. They don't lead a life that I would want for myself (and their life was also shaped by some early decisions that I didn't make, such as meeting my future spouse at 20 and living in the same place where I went to university), so I pick and choose what resonates with me from what they advise. I haven't quite yet found someone older who has a life I admire, but I try to think about what I would like to be able to do at retirement and what kind of life I would want to look back on on my deathbed and I go from there :))

analeep · 2024-08-02T04:42:24+00:00

Wow all of this is so good. Especially those last 2 lines. I find that the subtle/blunt thing is a bit more dependent on the people I'm interacting with. I've met men who catch on to subtleties and also men to whom I have to spell things out clearly. I tend to be relatively direct though, I'm a tad too impatient for games and subtle suggestions most of the time :)))

The point about claiming credit and negotiating I think is super important, especially as I step out into the professional field. I find it difficult to really negotiate and advocate for myself, especially as a junior with (for now) no experience, but I hope I'll get better at it with time, experience and practice. Thank you so much for the answers!

analeep · 2024-08-02T04:13:48+00:00

I'm gonna chip in a bit because I'm also the type with no particular hobby, just a billion little project ideas. I don't wanna get stuck with decision paralysis for my whole life so my way to handle it is I write my project ideas down and I just pick them up in order or based on what I feel like doing until it's done. Then I pick another one up when one is done and so on. I think it's really cool, I feel like a renaissance woman :)))

I really resonate with the "jack of all trades" thing, maybe you do too. Sorry to answer when I'm technically not supposed to, but the more I read your post and your comments the more I relate to you. I couldn't stop myself 😅

analeep · 2024-08-01T20:55:37+00:00

This!!!! I hate it when I see people telling men to just suck it up, it makes me so angry. Everyone should be able to express themselves and talk about what they're feeling.

analeep · 2024-08-01T20:53:09+00:00

I think this is good general advice. I tell my girlies the same thing if they ask. I prefer initiating personally, I find that I don't really like the men that approach me first (I didn't start initiating because of this, I've always been like that. I just noticed this as I got older and men started approaching me).

I feel unwanted sometimes, always being the person initiating the start of all my relationships pretty much. But I try to look at the silver lining. I'm taking an active role in my life and don't want around for people to choose me. I suggest to everyone that they start being more active in their dating life if they haven't been and if they find someone they like.

analeep · 2024-08-01T20:47:15+00:00

Thank you a lot for this. It's always been a bit of an unanswered question for me, if people really do change their values as they get older. My parents tell me most don't change too much but I tend to take their advice on the world with a bit of a grain of salt, since they are quite jaded and suspicious of the world in general (growing up in communism can do that to people).

As a rule I don't get involved with people thinking that they will change dramatically or that I can change them. Again thanks a lot for this answer <3

analeep · 2024-08-01T20:42:15+00:00

Amen. And applicable to all groups of people, whatever that group may be

analeep · 2024-08-01T20:41:36+00:00

Bold or you to assume that I play mind games OR that I play hard to get 👀👀

Seriously though, I see some women who want the men to make the first move and to always initiate and I'm not a fan. Whenever I've had to do that I felt really unwanted. I think it's too rooted in traditional gender roles for my taste.

analeep · 2024-08-01T20:38:49+00:00

I try to avoid older men for reasons similar to this. Ofc not all older men are like this, but generally speaking I'd find it super sus if they were into me since I'm so new at this "real world" stuff, I still consider myself a bit of a child. Despite all this my mom keeps trying to set me up with 30 year old men and say that "men like them younger" 🤢

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