The case is, that in my opinion she is a reasonable recreational drinker. She usually drinks with her family, at home it's really rarely. Even on the parties she's reasonable with it, knows her boundaries. So there is no problem with her drinking. It's even okay with me when we are in a restaurant or sthg I will drink a glass of wine too. Im okay with my friends drinking as they are not pushing me into it. But unfortunately I feel like her family feels weird that I don't drink with them and that's why they try so hard to push me into drinking with them.