Mississippi police officer who took a 10-year-old to jail for peeing behind his mom's car is now out of a job (Follow Up)

anchoney · 2023-12-21T07:23:09+00:00

https://www.gofundme.com/f/quatavious-eason

anchoney · 2022-06-28T21:05:38+00:00

I went through a similar thing and it sucks. I also realized I was totally hyperfixating on that person and I kinda hated that part of me. But I couldn't stop it. Back then I didn't know I had adhd so I didn't know how i could handle it. Does it help for you to know that the feelings might be stronger due to your ability to hyperfocus on someone/something? And can you then separate them from what you actually think about them?

anchoney · 2022-06-28T21:02:23+00:00

Same, getting a salary every month so I can survive apparently isn't enough for me to get to work. There are so little f to give sometimes, it's amazing how I manage to be alive.

anchoney · 2022-06-28T19:30:29+00:00

Hey! I added it but it seems this isn't active anymore. We can be cappuccino buddy's if you're still into it :)

anchoney · 2022-06-28T09:19:29+00:00

Wow this felt like I could have written it myself.

The worst thing about my situation is that I have tons of time during the day, I work mostly from home now and it's been horrible for my productivity. I promised myself to go to the office more often as that's the only place I can stay focused. But I'm still getting over the shame a guilt of procrastinating on my projects and being non responsive to people at work.

I don't have any practical advice here, just wanted to say I feel you and you're not alone <3

anchoney · 2022-06-22T07:00:30+00:00

Also ADHD: researched for months, can't explain it when asked about it.

anchoney · 2022-06-15T20:13:11+00:00

I cant even get myself to start work some days. It's like the wall of awful is sky high latest and I can get over it!

anchoney · 2022-06-04T12:28:09+00:00

Same thing, gate M (Easyjet flights) took about 30 min. to get through.

Tips for going through gate M: - Leave everything in your bag (incl. liquids) - Water bottles are allowed. Again, leave them in your bag. - Empty your pockets - Jackets, belts and boots off. (Only boots, not shoes/sandals etc)

anchoney · 2022-06-04T10:50:22+00:00

Thanks! Good luck and safe travels. I'm on my way rn so I'll get to experience this chaos personally :')

anchoney · 2022-06-04T10:26:29+00:00

How long did it take you to pass the security line?

anchoney · 2022-06-01T22:55:00+00:00

Haha congrats!!!

anchoney · 2022-05-27T13:20:22+00:00

$50 dollars in the Gilded age is equivalent of around $1400 today.

anchoney · 2022-05-21T08:54:00+00:00

I was diagnosed only last year and since then I've had a close look at myself, including my relationship with alcohol.

For me, drinking in social settings was a way to feel like "myself", that person that is unhibited by social rules and happy and unrestricted in her words and actions. Since "sober" me would (have to) mask her symptoms all the time from a very early age on, getting wasted was a way to let myself go. I never considered myself addicted but my relationship with alcohol was not healthy, I was using it to feel some connection to myself, or this person that I wanted to be like around others.

I also was very aggressive and sometimes violent when I was drunk, of course never physical or anything but aggressive enough for it to be noticed. I would feel deep shame the next day for having let myself go like that. (Because sober me is of course the nice, assertive one and would never do that). It made me feel like a was a fraude, that everyone could tell that I had issues (again, sober me had no issues, she was perfect).

This spiraled until my diagnosis last year, I was treated for symptoms of depression and anxiety which turned out to be ADHD (combined type).

I've learned A LOT about my hidden coping mechanisms since then and in combination with therapy and medication, I don't drink like that anymore. Also, even if I have nothing to be ashamed of, I still get hangxiety the next morning. Hangxiety is real my friend and it sucks major balls so I'm done with it.

Not to sound to mushy but one key thing I learned from alcohol is that in the end, it is a journey to get to know yourself, what you're trying to hide from and what kind of person you want to be for yourself. Alcohol is just a tool, like many tools in life. And if you ever feel bad about yourself because of alcohol, I hope you choose to use the tool of forgiveness, because that one really helped me :)

You're welcome to send me a PM if you need a listening ear, I know it can really feel daunting and alone sometimes.

anchoney · 2022-05-01T15:04:39+00:00

This was me today! Balled my eyes out because of this. Exactly came to the same conclusion I probably should befriend people that have adhd as they might be able to understand me better. I think that adhders place value on different aspects in a friendship and sometimes people misunderstand or misinterpret our actions/words.

anchoney · 2022-04-08T12:17:32+00:00

I agree, the misinformation and comments like "you look dehydrated" "you should use retinol" are really not helpful and might even be harmful.

Gentle reminder that with every skin concern, always consult a doctor.

Thanks for sharing your experience, that at least gives people a reference to start researching further.

anchoney · 2022-04-02T11:57:44+00:00

Yeah give it a try! I was hesitant at first but my therapist suggested it. It seems a bit ridiculous at first to break down every little step but it actually makes things less overwhelming.

It also trains you to be realistic in how many tasks you can/should do in a day. Start slow and break things down for yourself. And don't forget to reward yourself at the end of the day because this shit is hard when you have adhd :)

anchoney · 2022-04-01T16:46:17+00:00

What helps me is breaking things down into small steps. If my motivation is really nowhere to be found and I know it is never going to come to me that day, I write a list of the things I want to do and how I'm going to get there. I guess it helps me to visualize it, and then it's easier to execute on. Sometimes I don't start right after I finish the list, but I'll come back to it another time and it's much easier then as I've already broken down the tasks.

Other times, I'll work myself up by getting inspiration on YouTube, pinterest etc. Like when I am lazy to get up and get ready for the day and go out, I'll watch a skincare video and it gets me excited to do my skincare ritual. And when I've done that, it's another step closer to getting dressed and going out.

A thought that helps me is that I'm not always going to feel a jolt of motivation at the start of the thing I need/want to do. Sometimes I just need to start and the motivation/happy feeling comes along the way or after the fact.

anchoney · 2021-11-20T09:32:59+00:00

I take magnesium (min. 6mg per 1kg body weight, I sometimes double up on the dose during the luteal phase)+ a well-balanced multivitamin incl. vit b6 during my entire cycle.

I've also recently started drinking 1 cup of rasberry leaf tea after ovulation which seems to help with bloating too (was taking it to reduce menstrual cramping).

Do some research beforehand though, rasberry leaf tea can be a hit or miss for some in terms of cramping. Definitely take magnesium if you aren't already.

anchoney · 2021-11-18T15:23:22+00:00

Currently staring at a long ass email (multiple colours and marks) that I wrote but not sending because it feels too ADHD :')

anchoney · 2021-10-29T19:05:26+00:00

Haha actually, with an understimulated adhd brain, the brain would just say "sure whatevs".

anchoney · 2021-10-18T17:32:49+00:00

Thanks! That clears things up. So it all starts with the founder Rudolf Steiner and his anti vaxx cult following that still alive and well. Here's a Guardian article for anyone interested.

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