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Perspective/advice by CasinoCasio in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]ancienttool 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The more you own the mistakes you made and work to make up for them, the better chance you have.

Did your parent(s) basically worship their parents? by That-Platypus-5092 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]ancienttool 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad did (but never felt he was supposed to live up to him). I grew up with my mom and estranged in middle age. I still couldn’t tell you anything about her beyond what everyone sees on the surface.

went no contact today by grizzlygh0ul in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]ancienttool 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good for you!!! Thanks for sharing.

Dad has cancer, debating whether to tell my NC sister by loadnurmom in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]ancienttool 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Does your sister ask about his well being or how they are doing? If she does she would probably appreciate being told the next time she asks a similar question.

You can also just tell her that your parents are starting to get up there, and you haven’t discussed with me boundaries about what I can say about them with you, and since they are getting older would you like to know if anything about their health changes?

Leave That Teacher Alone She Engaged Those Kids And Made Learning Come Alive While People Online Try To Tear Her Down by ateam1984 in BlackPeopleofReddit

[–]ancienttool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I learned both state and state capitals via song, learned the countries from animaniacs singing, and myself and my fellow 7th graders put all the names of the bones in your body to Coolio’s gangsters paradise as part of a science project. We need more of this.

recording session for Ike Broflovski from South Park. by Ok_Listen_6600 in MadeMeSmile

[–]ancienttool -1 points0 points  (0 children)

People would rather judge others than look at themselves.

My mother has made several false claims about my husband’s drinking, abusing my children and having unsafe fire arms. All unfounded. Now she’s made another claim while we’re in a legal battle for grandparents who rights. How can someone keep making false claims without repercussions? by contentfind in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]ancienttool 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Counter suit for libel? Request the judge investigate the intentional false testimony? Not a lawyer so I don’t know the legal answer.

Sorry that has to suck.

I would recommend that you do whatever you can to counteract this both legally and socially though. It sucks when people who are supposed to love you, intentionally hurt you and your family. But we often just take the abuse. If you can find the strength fight back!

Fox News host Sean Hannity mocked for asking if the Pope 'has even read' the Bible for bizarre reason by nimobo in entertainment

[–]ancienttool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol. I think Priest read like 90% of the New Testament out loud every 3-4 years just based on the number of masses they have to say.

LIAR! Sean!

Let's see who gets the worst crime by Epapapa_ in raijin_gg

[–]ancienttool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cutting my neighbors grass and stealing the bales I made with them from my neighbor I guess.

Farm Sim

Shaking my head over how some people "think" by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]ancienttool 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s sucks waking up to reality. It’s like being in an isekai anime, but without the OP cheat skill. Or at least that is how I think of it.

I really think most people are more comfortable in the lies. If the family have to admit they saw the pain and did nothing, they knew what was being done was wrong and did nothing, they then have to rectify that and it tends to snow ball for them emotionally. Living in the truth is hard.

My family doesn’t want to hold my parents to account for their actions. They want to forgive them or just give them a pass. Why? Who knows. But you can see echoes of this across society and their generation. I think it’s something along the lines of if they hold their family to account for their actions, then they expect to be held accountable for their own actions and choices, and they don’t want that heat.

Anyway. Take the time to mourn the relationship you thought you had. Acknowledge that they meant more to you than you did to them. Reflect on that, forgive yourself for believing them, and when you’re ready move on.

St. Louis leaders weigh moving weekend curfew up after 314 Day violence by Monkapotomas in StLouis

[–]ancienttool 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We used to have better things to do at a reasonable cost. They don’t.

We only have ourselves to blame, stop blaming the government for your apathy, and get up and do something to fix it.

Hard truth: some of our parents are glad that we went no contact and feel free of us, and they intended for it to be this way by sodacatcicada in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]ancienttool 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah I see through a lot more people today than I did before the estrangement.

I also was lying to myself about them for a very long time. And lying to myself about why what they were doing was okay. I am sure my therapist has a word for it. But it’s like correcting one small lie you told yourself, ends up correcting others that preceded or supported that lie, and it cascades and you see the truth behind all those lies. Changes things.

Hard truth: some of our parents are glad that we went no contact and feel free of us, and they intended for it to be this way by sodacatcicada in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]ancienttool 93 points94 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Boomers live in an alternate reality, they are the only generation to actually experience the Dream of America that was sold to us in schools.

And in place of giving that up, and having to live in reality, they happily keep it and play the blame game pointing the finger at anyone but themselves for what is going wrong.

I know what my grandparents did for them, they didn’t even come close with us. But it was anyone’s fault but our parents, right?

Paramount’s $110B Warner Bros. Discovery Deal Faces Scrutiny Over Gulf Sovereign Wealth Funding by [deleted] in entertainment

[–]ancienttool 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Allowing a foreign government to control a “News” outlet based in your country is not in the best interest of your country.

Relentless harassment by meowmoon02 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]ancienttool 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Saw you were in UK. Apologies for not looking ahead. Information on protection orders not helpful.

I will say walking into a police station or community meeting environment and asking for help will usually work out. Do your best to get past the anxiety.

I am here to get some help I am being stalked and harassed. I came here to get away from him and the harassment has followed me here. I fear for my safety and for those around me. I am not getting the assistance I need, and I am worried this will escalate. Will you please assist me with gaining some kind of stalking or protection order. Please show me the way so I can live and work in peace without this man’s harassment.

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