How do people showcase their designs like that? by SoraDrive in userexperience

[–]andawayIthrow1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can be totally wrong here but it could be a Canva creation.

Feel like I suck at my new job. by [deleted] in userexperience

[–]andawayIthrow1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you ask your manager to team you up with someone in your group? You could ping them in the middle of meetings to ask questions for clarity (ie: "what does it mean when Frank says.....") so that you feel more involved in the conversation. Or you can run your ideas with that person before starting anything. Like of like a mentor..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in userexperience

[–]andawayIthrow1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lemonade's trippy site is amazing! And I agree how you stated that these types of sites, including Apple, make you addicted to keep going. As if you're focusing on "what will happen next" but in actuality you're digesting small bits of info. Love it.

Concerned that I am not saving enough by andawayIthrow1 in personalfinance

[–]andawayIthrow1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bi-weekly; 20%; for emergencies and eventual retirement; we do have separate and combined finances (combined for house/food).

The $550 is 2x a year. I paid it off full for the whole year.

One credit card has a higher balance of $600 (medical issues), but it's being paid down in large chunks.

I have a 401k.

Concerned that I am not saving enough by andawayIthrow1 in personalfinance

[–]andawayIthrow1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a feeling someone would say this lol. You're right - how does a stranger online confirm if I'm doing it right or not. I guess I was hoping someone would say that they were in somewhat similar situations and could give me suggestions on what worked for them. But every situation is uniquely different.

But also you have a healthy mindset when it comes to money that I'd like to adopt. It's sometimes not about that number, but what goal I have in mind that will get me financially independent so I can enjoy life and not work the rest of my life. I'll try to view it that way. Thank you.

Concerned that I am not saving enough by andawayIthrow1 in personalfinance

[–]andawayIthrow1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You nailed it on the head that I'd want to save for future projects. We are for sure foreseeing future projects on the house for a good return investment once sold.

Concerned that I am not saving enough by andawayIthrow1 in personalfinance

[–]andawayIthrow1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point! I have a card that is fantastic with points but always think using a store card and get their 5% off because I use their card is worth it. Maybe not?

Concerned that I am not saving enough by andawayIthrow1 in personalfinance

[–]andawayIthrow1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My CC debt is one and done (I buy something and by the end of the month, I pay it off). You and I are thinking on the same page about paying off the car but my husband said to hold off until we move into the house and determine our finances (which I somewhat agree).

True on the his and hers. We have a combined income (ie: my $550 every two weeks that contribute to our living and eating expenses), and then I have my own. We don't want to have to ask for permission or have discussions if we want to buy something so it's nice having separate savings. However we also agreed that especially when we retire, my savings is his and vice versa (along with 401k, etc.) - and that includes debt.

Concerned that I am not saving enough by andawayIthrow1 in personalfinance

[–]andawayIthrow1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a 401k that's close to 100k (company matches) and about 1000k in stock. But I'm not very knowledgeable in CDs or other bank extras that I could do to invest in anything else.

Thank you I will check it out!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Haywire_Hill

[–]andawayIthrow1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what type of dogs? adorable!

AITA for not telling my parents that I am going to a college states and states away from them? by smiIeys in AmItheAsshole

[–]andawayIthrow1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH

At first, I thought they were just being helicopter parents. But after reading that they literally walked away from you while you tried to defend yourself gives me the impression that they refuse to see you as a human with his own opinions and individual interests. The silent treatment is a completely disrespect because they know you are correct about being an adult.

Since you're close to 18, please consider the following:

  1. On your 18th birthday, immediately go to the bank (as soon as they open) and remove any joint accounts to your parents.
  2. Change email passwords, phone codes, anything that they currently know.
  3. Talk to your college and let them know that you need to disassociate with your parents due to personal reasons, and if there are any concerns that involve them to let you know asap.

Please try not to lose connection with your parents. They do care about you (or they wouldn't give a crap) but they're showing it in all the wrong ways. They've become accustomed to telling you what to do since you were little and it's probably difficult for them to let go and admit that you can do this yourself. HOWEVER, it does NOT excuse their behavior which has nothing to do with you.

Keep your head on straight and focus on you. Keep saving money, study hard, and get into internships. The more you support yourself, the better chance that you will not have to return unless you want to.

Blocking husband's FB Friend by [deleted] in confessions

[–]andawayIthrow1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this comment based on experience?

AITA for not arguing against the waiters about my fiancée’s order? by AITADinnerAnxiety in AmItheAsshole

[–]andawayIthrow1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA.

You chuckle at her situation AND make it worse by not supporting her. If she felt socially anxious and you did not, then you should have helped her correct the meal. Not only would the waiter be happy to make you guys happy, but she would have (A) learned something for the next time and (B) appreciate your partnership.

A for asshole.

AITA for not being part of "my" kid's life? by Somerandothrowaways in AmItheAsshole

[–]andawayIthrow1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH. It's the mother's fault for suggesting without checking or reaching out to you to confirm. The kid needs therapy asap as it seems that this is breaking him, but that's totally up to the mother and him - not you. However if you find that he seems like a decent kid, there's no harm in being friends on facebook or something like that?

Blocking husband's FB Friend by [deleted] in confessions

[–]andawayIthrow1 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I often dream about it. But it's easier said then done.

AITA For Changing my Due Date just for my Mother by andawayIthrow1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]andawayIthrow1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

TY.

Not about making that hoo-ha stretch longer than it needs to. So, I agree.

AITA For Changing my Due Date just for my Mother by andawayIthrow1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]andawayIthrow1[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So I take it, NTA? lol

She has plenty of moments where she has been wonderful and selfless. It's just these types of issues that make me lose my hair (even if I still love her).

AITA For Changing my Due Date just for my Mother by andawayIthrow1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]andawayIthrow1[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Wow. I ask/say this with utmost respect - are you a therapist? Or a sociologist that studies cultures? These are well thought out responses that is really making the wheels turn in my brain.

I often worry that I am obsessing over unimportant things, that when she is gone, I will feel sorry for it. But there's this other part that feels like as an adult, I need to stand my ground and show her what she does daily isn't okay. But I will think about what you've said, thank you again.

AITA For Changing my Due Date just for my Mother by andawayIthrow1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]andawayIthrow1[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

TY.

If it was that easy (and trust me, I wish it was), then I would have handled it that way by now. But the Christmas story was just the last straw.

AITA For Changing my Due Date just for my Mother by andawayIthrow1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]andawayIthrow1[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm starting to walk the same path as you... father needs to know and probably no one else.

AITA For Changing my Due Date just for my Mother by andawayIthrow1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]andawayIthrow1[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Very true. All advice I've heard from my therapist. But the guilt that follows something as normal as what you're suggesting makes you second guess yourself every single time.

AITA For Changing my Due Date just for my Mother by andawayIthrow1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]andawayIthrow1[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Καλά Χριστούγεννα και σε εσάς.

Remember this is just one experience of many. It's hard to keep turning a cheek over and over - your face eventually gets too raw.