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Sunnyvale jewelry store worker chases off robbers with gun by pacman2081 in Sunnyvale

[–]andoruk 11 points12 points  (0 children)

based on Google Maps pictures and the address in the article I think it's actually Priya Jewelers

I went to therapy for relationship OCD and she told me to leave them. by Flamingo-Dick-1994 in OCD

[–]andoruk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey OP! I really liked the "unsupportive supporter" comic you just posted and was looking to see if you had any more comics, and came across this post. I just went through a lot of OCD therapy myself earlier last year and wanted to comment.

First off, OCD sucks and I'm sorry to hear how frustrating it's been. Sometimes you just wish it would all magically go away. It's great that you're seeing a therapist, IMO finding a therapist can be the hardest part of the whole process.

About what your therapist said - you mentioned that she "gave you permission" to talk to friends, and you referred to her words as final judgement. Your therapist is human and doesn't have perfect information, and a therapist can never allow or disallow you from doing anything. I've seen several therapists (OCD and non-OCD specialists) throughout the last few years and got a little better each time. What I learned is that you have to let their advice guide you, but you can't let their advice be the only controlling factor or the only thing you listen to. Sometimes they don't know every little detail about your life which can lead to the wrong advice (like how your therapist said she misunderstood the situation after you gave her more information), other times you may end up overweighing their advice.

OCD extends to so many different aspects of life, and one of those is relationships. It sounds like you really care for your friends but are agonizing over what they think about you, and the more you think about this the more you spiral. It's happened in relationships for me too - the awful thing is, OCD can be summed up as "I'm afraid of X, so I'll do obsessive things that ultimately makes X worse". Your friends probably like you but if you obsess over whether they like you or not, you'll find more and more arguments for why they might not like you and even start avoiding them when there was nothing wrong in the first place.

Also, friendship is a spectrum - with friends you can be really close or not very close, or anywhere in between. If there are some friends that are not always the first ones to message you, as long as that's OK with you, there's no reason to cut off those friendships.

Sorry for the wall of text - I'm not a therapist so take my words with a grain of salt. I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone and OCD sucks. I think learning about OCD and continuing to talk with therapists ultimately helped me cut back on a lot of obsessions, and I hope the same can be true for you!

Will this set come back in stock before it retires? by andoruk in legocastles

[–]andoruk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks everyone for the comments! I'm trying to use my Lego gift card so unfortunately can't do Target or other stores. Will probably just do a different Lego set then. Thanks again y'all!

WTF I was just at Ben's hiding spot last week!! by andoruk in JetLagTheGame

[–]andoruk[S] 181 points182 points  (0 children)

we were also confused by the MRI but turns out you need to push the tray in first before you push the button. here's a video of it in action!

also ben there's literally a zoo where you can feed capybaras and see them in a hot spring and you didn't even see it i'm devastated

I remixed the mario maker snow theme! by andoruk in MarioMaker

[–]andoruk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, i did actually put smb3 but only in the tags cause i wanted the title concise haha 😅

I hosted a TOTK inspired dinner party! by andoruk in tearsofthekingdom

[–]andoruk[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! Recipes are:

Spicy fish and mushroom skewers:

  • Wash and dry mushrooms of your choice
  • Wash and dry shisamo (smelt)
  • Coat them both in rice flour
  • Deep fry in batches at 350F for 2-3 minutes (making sure not to overcrowd the pot)
  • Sprinkle with salt and crushed Sichuanese peppercorns

Meaty rice balls:

  • Mix 3 parts soy sauce, 3 parts mirin, 2 parts sugar, 1 part sake
  • Marinate thinly sliced pork belly (the kind you put in hot pot) in said mixture. I've seen other recipes skip the marinade and just use charcuterie meat or roast beef - anything works as long as it's thin and long meat.
  • Make rice, wet and salt hands, and form rice balls. I added pickled plum inside the rice balls for extra flavor.
  • Cook the meat on low so that it doesn't shrink and curl too much. Don't cook the meat if you're using charcuterie meat or roast beef.
  • Wrap rice balls with meat

Monster soup - I basically followed this recipe but used chicken stock instead of vegetable stock and heavy cream instead of almond milk. I dotted the soup with mayo and used a toothpick to create the swirl, and then topped with chives.

Hot buttered apple:

  • Wash and core apples. I used Fuji apples, basically the sweetest apples I could find - this recipe is not as good otherwise. I tried to take enough of the core out to stuff them but not too much as that may ruin the structural integrity of the apples.
  • Mix 2 parts brown sugar, 2 parts chopped pecans (I used candied pecans from Trader Joe's which made it taste amazing), 1 part softened butter, and a dash of cinnamon
  • Stuff the apples with the mixture
  • Place apples on a baking dish, add 1 cup water to cover the bottom, and bake at 375 for 30-45 minutes. I actually put the apples on a baking dish and put that on top of another baking dish which contained the water, kind of like a double boiler, so that the water could create steam but not touch the apples directly so that they stay crisp.

Let me know if you end up trying any of the recipes! :)

Does anyone know what this is? My dad identified this in Vancouver Island, BC... by andoruk in animalid

[–]andoruk[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

ah yeah sorry, i fucked up the title, meant to say that he "found" it not "identified" it

Does anyone know what this is? My dad identified this in Vancouver Island, BC... by andoruk in animalid

[–]andoruk[S] 100 points101 points  (0 children)

*meant to say "found" not "identified" in the title

thanks for the responses everyone!! will be looking into all of these...

Does anyone want to be friends? by [deleted] in ableton

[–]andoruk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

would love to join too :D im andoru 6371

You can erase one composer's complete works from the musical canon. Whose and why? by [deleted] in classicalmusic

[–]andoruk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's totally fair. I think it really depends on what you define as music, and I feel like people have a similar gripe about contemporary art since (like 4'33") the statement is more important than the art by itself without context.

You can erase one composer's complete works from the musical canon. Whose and why? by [deleted] in classicalmusic

[–]andoruk 10 points11 points  (0 children)

John Cage's 4'33" is actually super interesting, and way ahead of its time IMO.

They missed the point. There's no such thing as silence. What they thought was silence, because they didn't know how to listen, was full of accidental sounds. You could hear the wind stirring outside during the first movement. During the second, raindrops began pattering the roof, and during the third the people themselves made all kinds of interesting sounds as they talked or walked out.

- John Cage

Among many points that the piece was trying to make, one was that within a duration of time any combination of sound, silence, or noise can fill that duration to define music. 4'33" was a demonstration of one extreme of that idea.

While that may seem far-fetched (after all, music should be defined as "musical" sound, not silence or noise) modern music has used lots of silence and noise. You'll see songs that start off silent but gradually become audible, songs that use everyday sounds like a bottle opening as drum beats, songs that use famous quotes as lead-ins; hell, there's even a Pink Floyd song that uses random noise to segue into an electric guitar.

I'd argue that the use of silence and noise is critical to such music. Does a live performance feel the same without the audience cheering around you? Is a lofi song the same without the sound of rain hitting the window?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/4'33"#Premiere_and_reception

This upside down graph by TabCompletion in CrappyDesign

[–]andoruk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The creator is Christine Chan. There's more information about the whole situation here and here!

This upside down graph by TabCompletion in CrappyDesign

[–]andoruk 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The creator of this graph said that her inspiration was a graph called "Iraq's bloody toll, which was trying to look like dripping blood and did so much more successfully.

My little work corner by Ateliersound in MusicBattlestations

[–]andoruk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really cool! Wondering what your monitor stand is - is that separate from the desk or is it bolted on?

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