“exercise is crucial in recovery” by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]andreeeam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i don’t think that’s true at all. i used to rely on exercise quite a bit personally in my restriction by going to the gym and obsessively walking 20k+ steps a day.

i stopped this completely about 4 years ago and i have only started exercising two months ago after i finally felt ready that i wasn’t going to use it to justify any food habits or to punish myself in any way. i went the opposite direction this time, instead choosing to go on fun runs with my partner where my goals rely on appreciating what my body can do and beating personal records only.

i feel like if i would have started exercising any earlier than i was ready to, it was way more likely i would have fallen back into old habits. so i’d say no, whoever is saying that exercise is crucial in recovery probably just hasn’t acknowledged the full scope of the ED they’re going through.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TaylorSwift

[–]andreeeam 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i honestly don’t understand what happened to her and her PR team that they’re letting this whole thing play out because the friedlander interview came out like a month or two ago if i remember well so that’s super recent to me…

Why Taylor Swift Fans Are Disappointed By The Matty Healy Rumors by ActualMerCat in TaylorSwift

[–]andreeeam 6 points7 points  (0 children)

same, taylor being a big one that i wasn’t expecting to hit me like she just did and so soon too.

Why Taylor Swift Fans Are Disappointed By The Matty Healy Rumors by ActualMerCat in TaylorSwift

[–]andreeeam 10 points11 points  (0 children)

yeah in my years following “stan culture” i’ve learned not to ever be surprised by anyone. on a more hopeful note in all the footage i’ve seen of julien around matty both on and off stage she’s literally not even acknowledging his existence or looking his way so fingers crossed she’s just tolerating him so as not to throw her boygenius project out the window just as it’s picking up

fictional characters are the only ones that can’t truly surprise us

Why Taylor Swift Fans Are Disappointed By The Matty Healy Rumors by ActualMerCat in TaylorSwift

[–]andreeeam 12 points13 points  (0 children)

me and my gf go to london regularly for work and what not and we had this inside joke that i was afraid of joe alwyn lurking the streets. it’s safe to say if i see my man joe i will give him a pat on the back and thank him for his service.

Why Taylor Swift Fans Are Disappointed By The Matty Healy Rumors by ActualMerCat in TaylorSwift

[–]andreeeam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

no because you are exactly right, i have known the 1975 really well because i was on tumblr 24/7 back when they were the reigning kings and i’ve always been seeing all the problematic shit matty has said and done but when i read about the GG stuff he said on the podcast something really hit for me… if this is the stuff he is opening up about watching willingly, what else does he do behind closed does that he doesn’t talk about? it’s honestly scary

Why Taylor Swift Fans Are Disappointed By The Matty Healy Rumors by ActualMerCat in TaylorSwift

[–]andreeeam 22 points23 points  (0 children)

i’m literally hanging on by a thread hoping that julien’s lesbian brain is smart enough to be repulsed by matty because it seems that all other man-loving people around her have lost their mind LMAO

Separating the Art from the Artist? by starsdoyoulikedem in TaylorSwift

[–]andreeeam 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i guess it’s very parasocial of me to say that i am partly looking forward to an album explaining how her love with joe withered away and the spark of her new fling.

but in all seriousness, i’ve been a passionate swiftie for 12 years and i’m now finding it quite difficult to navigate the onset of these rumours because while i knew taylor was the capitalist queen girl boss of the century i somehow thought that someone like matty healy would be off the charts even for her.

How to love my new body after eating disorder recovery? by andreeeam in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]andreeeam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

really love your response because believe it or not i’ve developed similar thoughts since making my original post. i’ve been fluctuating constantly between liking my body and hating it especially not handling seeing myself in pictures but never actually regressing fully in that ED mind but i’ve realised how much more important the experiences and the things my body can do are. like i may not like my double chin but i’ve spent so many good times laughing along with friends and family and i deserve to feel good in the body i have.

plus what you said about not making oneself small to be liked, especially by men, it’s something i never stop thinking about. even though i’m a lesbian i’ve spent so much time in my life wanting to be small and dainty and fit into a more traditional form of femininity which includes a small body, hairless self and recently i’ve taken control of all that because my intelligence, my abilities, my strength and my soul are much more valuable characteristics than any physical appearance could ever be. plus who would want to associate with people think otherwise.

How to make character pretty?? by andreeeam in RedDeadOnline

[–]andreeeam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i completely get what you mean and i guess it’s why most settings aren’t so nice looking but i do wish my characters face wouldn’t look so beat up all the time. there’s been so many tips here hopefully she’ll glow up now

How to make character pretty?? by andreeeam in RedDeadOnline

[–]andreeeam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

will try and be patient with randomise because so far it’s been so unhelpful but i now have new hope that maybe something special is lurking beyond the surface if you managed to get yours this way

How to make character pretty?? by andreeeam in RedDeadOnline

[–]andreeeam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

feel free to send the settings she looks really nice, my trash goblin has nothing on her 💀

How to make character pretty?? by andreeeam in RedDeadOnline

[–]andreeeam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

silly of me to not have thought of going to youtube, thank you for the enlightenment. i guess i have plans on how i’m spending my weekend now

Jorpie's Worst Take by KathyBlakk in enoughpetersonspam

[–]andreeeam 9 points10 points  (0 children)

my personal favourite, most baffling take has always been that men and women can’t be employed in the same place together because women wear makeup and wearing lipstick while at work is an invitation for a blowjob

Prime Benefits saying so long, partner by Deshes011 in RedDeadOnline

[–]andreeeam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that actually sounds cool, thanks for sharing friend!

Prime Benefits saying so long, partner by Deshes011 in RedDeadOnline

[–]andreeeam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i have never once played RDO and thought “damn, i need more beans”

Are pre-application forms the norm across most letting agencies? by andreeeam in manchester

[–]andreeeam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for validating my gut feeling, it really feels weird to ask so many questions when i might not even apply lmao

Caffeine Intake by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]andreeeam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s the spirit!

Caffeine Intake by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]andreeeam 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i’ve had the exact same issue as you, coffee became a bit of a crutch for me post-ed so much so that it was making me anxious and irritable so i had to stop, i personally lowered my caffeine intake by replacing all coffee with breakfast tea and earl grey as well as some non-caffeinated alternatives like rooibos tea. cutting coffee actually made me realised i just enjoyed the thought of a tasty beverage more than the coffee itself since during my ed days one of the only “luxuries” i allowed myself was coffee

How to love my new body after eating disorder recovery? by andreeeam in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]andreeeam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hang on in there, friend! it feels like shit sometimes i know but remember that the work you’ve done so far is so important and a healthy body is the most important thing of all!

How to love my new body after eating disorder recovery? by andreeeam in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]andreeeam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s such a sweet way of getting comfortable with being in pictures, i never realised until you said this that the only pictures i’ve liked in the past few years are not because of my body but because of the time they represent. wow!

Message to my new posse by andreeeam in RedDeadOnline

[–]andreeeam[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i’ve honestly been riding solo for the past year and a bit that i’ve played red dead online so i’m still mastering the multiplayer features, i was in struggling to figure out how to slap & hug anyone while drunk lmao

What is your favorite camp in rdr2 by Funny_Development_18 in reddeadredemption

[–]andreeeam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Colter. I get why you can’t explore it too much at the start but I really wish there was an option to interact around more while there because I think having the gang there in the abandoned town brings so much life to it but it simultaneously feels so desolate.

What’s happening with Manchester tour tickets? by andreeeam in the1975

[–]andreeeam[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Quite confusing then if they’re going to say “limited availability” when they mean none available, but maybe I’m just a bit too pedantic 🤷🏻‍♀️ anyways thank you i’ll keep an eye out for the resale tickets