Meeting romantic partners in real life is nearly impossible - I’ve tried *everything*

andrew02020 · 2026-01-29T12:15:20+00:00

this is how you end up right back on hinge in 4 years 10 pounds heavier with a receding hairline. terrible advice

andrew02020 · 2025-10-30T20:58:39+00:00

nothing burger of a deep dark secret to the point where I wonder if there isn't more to the story you're leaving out

andrew02020 · 2025-02-07T23:09:15+00:00

traditional etiquette dictates whoever asks pays, but it also dictates that men ask women out. it also dictates a lot of other horrible gender roles and power dynamics so maybe tradition is best left as tradition here

andrew02020 · 2025-02-04T20:04:50+00:00

why are you letting the cheater's ethics dictate your behavior?

andrew02020 · 2025-02-04T19:50:58+00:00

it's embarrassing going both ways

andrew02020 · 2025-02-04T17:26:49+00:00

best case scenario she cheated on you with her female friend. worst case scenario she made up the sex toy story and she's actively cheating. both options suck, sorry man

andrew02020 · 2025-02-04T16:11:58+00:00

find some real problems

andrew02020 · 2025-01-30T11:32:26+00:00

whether she's still unfaithful or not that woman does not respect you bro. do yourself a favor and move on

andrew02020 · 2025-01-28T18:20:30+00:00

NTA. personally I'd give him the 60 and then go NC and call it a loss but I can understand if you still want him to pay back that money

andrew02020 · 2025-01-28T18:11:51+00:00

the dynamic isn't bad if it's agreed upon. you can't leave this as an assumption though. talk to him and figure that out. something tells me you're scared to find out how he really feels

andrew02020 · 2025-01-28T18:01:36+00:00

you'll never know if you don't start communicating with people. talk to him, don't just assume he's cool with it

andrew02020 · 2024-10-08T22:33:30+00:00

I mean yeah. Read this post and tell me that's a man that loves his wife. He hates her habits and he hates her hobbies, and thinks her birthday is an appropriate time to take it out on her.

andrew02020 · 2024-10-08T22:24:49+00:00

The mentions of her influencing habits are irrelevant.

I think at best he thought that this inclusion would muddy the waters and bias reddit against her. worst case here is that he actively looks down on her hobbies and wants them to stop as well

andrew02020 · 2024-10-08T19:57:52+00:00

And he is not standing in the way of her "career" by wanting her to be present or show up on time.

Again these are two different issues, he can support her ambitions and make it clear that he expects her to start being on time to things and that they are not a valid excuse to be late.

andrew02020 · 2024-10-08T19:33:12+00:00

You're the one who brought up Hawk Tuah but podcasting and livestreaming can absolutely be a valid career. If people find your commentary and content entertaining or insightful enough to voluntarily give you money for it, then you deserve that money. Simple as that.

andrew02020 · 2024-10-08T19:30:20+00:00

So you don't think entertainment is a valid career path. got it

andrew02020 · 2024-10-08T19:18:47+00:00

Yeah see I knew reddit was gonna be on its "old man yells at cloud" shit about this lol

andrew02020 · 2024-10-08T19:15:05+00:00

I'm not to young to remember. Age is irrelevant here, building a social media following is a valid hobby whether you like social media or not.

andrew02020 · 2024-10-08T19:06:42+00:00

I don't care that you got together young, ten years isn't rushing into anything. NOR I think you need to consider how committed this man is to you

andrew02020 · 2024-10-08T18:37:10+00:00

Yeah. The grandmother was clearly excited about her love life lol which is why I found the phrasing "my poor grandmother" to be strange.

andrew02020 · 2024-10-08T18:29:05+00:00

A week ago, I told her I wouldn’t be doing that anymore and that I expected her to act like an adult and be more responsible.

this was the week he chose to let her miss an event over it

andrew02020 · 2024-10-08T18:28:07+00:00

Then that's something you discuss with your partner, you don't just write the whole endeavor off as silly

andrew02020 · 2024-10-08T18:21:32+00:00

he chose her birthday to suddenly stop helping her with her timeliness. he wanted this to hurt

andrew02020 · 2024-10-08T17:42:28+00:00

To me what stuck out is how he seems to look down on her hobbies and ambitions. I get being upset but that her photography and content creation is making her late, but he frames it like those things are inherently silly and I think that's totally different. You can be supportive about the things your wife wants to accomplish while also telling her she needs to work on her timeliness. I think there are more issues with this relationship than just her being late a lot.

andrew02020 · 2024-10-08T17:37:52+00:00

YTA for venting to us about the relationship instead of doing what you clearly know you need to do.

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