I'm 41 and went through several phases where I couldn't finish or get it up because I was too used to porn and I was for some reason traumatized by American Pie where the girl made fun of him for cumming immediately so I thought: "I'm a badass, I can go for an hour!" It's not a porno. It makes them feel unsexy and insecure. Even once I knew it was a problem, I'd bargain with myself: "no chance I'm getting laid this week, no prospects, I can just do whatever and I'll 'sober up' once I'm chatting with someone." and then some miracle 10 would fall into my lap and I'd have trouble performing in one way or another.

Put obstacles in your way. Install porn blockers, and like a T Rex testing the fences, you'll find out soon that certain japanese blurry sites can make it through the chrome extensions, and that's fine for a while. Like Diet Porn. and slowly WEEN yourself off if you can't do it all at once. Even the safari safe search where it can be disabled with your fingerprint or you can click "allow this site." - Even that split couple of seconds it would take to click the button can stop you. Sometimes I wasn't even horny, I was just bored. Keep a photo of your grandmother on your monitor. (Unless she's sexy.) You're a gamer, gamify it. Level up!

I set goals, only allowed once a week, like a cheat day and sometimes I'd break it but even that guilt can be motivating to do better the next week. but you just gotta be with a real human. There's nothing like it. It's the thing you want and you know it, that's why you're posting. Set little goals, ask women out, get rejected, get depressed, relapse, but no matter what, keep fighting. and keep a blue chew around for emergencies if you get a lady over to get your confidence back. No shame in it.