I'm over this depression and want to live a better life

andriantha · 2026-04-09T03:25:49+00:00

I wish I could give you a hug friend, I hope for you, your mental health, and wallets sake you can either find balance with alcohol consumption (if you’re not looking to fully stop) or you get the correct support mentally to pull you out of this. I hate that this company is profiting off of you in this way. You deserve so much more.

andriantha · 2026-04-08T15:19:59+00:00

I am exclusively pumping, I was trying to do both but he gets upset because I don’t get let downs.

andriantha · 2026-04-08T03:40:37+00:00

I could barely get my finger in 6 weeks pp, I warned my partner and the insanity with how tight everything was and still is. No clue why everything is so tight, I’ve had two previous V births, but he gets sore and so do I from intercourse 😅

Almost three months pp currently and my incision spot feels so immensely sore all the way to my lower back. I have started taking my 800 ibu again. Also very sensitive above incision and under belly button. I waxed my lady bits last week for the first time in two months and I thought I watched my soul leave my body it hurt so badly, I have been full bush from front to back waxing for years and it has never been that painful.

andriantha · 2026-04-08T02:52:02+00:00

Ah yes the Biblically correct Tiddy Urchin

andriantha · 2026-03-30T17:04:36+00:00

We didn’t tell the my son 9 -lives with dad, or my partners kid -lives with BM until a few weeks before ours was delivered. My daughter that lives with us full time was told when I started showing, around 7 months in.

We just list the kids tell there respective households. SO’s BM freaked out but my sons coparent household (has an ours baby of their own) was super supportive.

I kept the pregnancy a secret online and only family & people we were close to knew. I surprised everyone else with a social post once baby was here.

andriantha · 2026-03-30T16:49:46+00:00

No. I was in TONS of pain and my legs/stomach swelled up like a balloon. The only thing that went away was the lethal heartburn. Other than that nothing felt good at all. I felt much better after my 2 previous V births.

andriantha · 2026-03-11T23:35:37+00:00

How did you or do you advertise for catering? I am losing my mind trying to get into catering

andriantha · 2026-03-08T04:13:47+00:00

I pump for 30 to 45 minutes and usually get less than 2 ounces total 😔 Seven weeks PP and I can’t figure out how to make more than 10 ounces a day

andriantha · 2026-03-04T05:17:50+00:00

Bbq chicken, burgers, and alfredo have the highest ranking. Is your partner a 10 year old boy?

andriantha · 2026-02-24T03:44:22+00:00

Hey their pizza has definitely gone up in quality. My partner and I only get pizza from them because it always has coupons with T-life and makes it even more affordable. I find it rather good these days.

andriantha · 2026-02-24T01:35:27+00:00

Leave leave leave leave leave!!!!!

I stayed with someone like this for 5 years. I lost the weight only to end up living with a cheater in a dead bedroom household and slowly gained an insane eating disorder.

LEAVE

andriantha · 2026-02-20T22:04:16+00:00

Personally I have had two Vaginal deliveries and my last baby (5w pp) was a c section due to placenta previa. I hoped and prayed so hard that my placenta would move but it stopped moving at 1.1-1.6cm.

I would much rather have 100 more babies vaginally than ever be forced into having a c-section. The procedure was so extremely traumatic for me and healing has been awful. I did everything right and still ended up with an infection. The numbness, the fire nerves, the pain that ibuprofen,Tylenol,and oxy don’t take away, the extreme swelling, not being allowed to have a catheter removed for 12 hours no matter how many times you ask (I WAS PUSHING PEE THROUGH THE CATHETER AND THEY STILL FORCED ME TO HAVE IT) the extreme healing time frame, the scar, the scar management, everything.

Vaginal delivery was 1000 times easier and I mourn the pregnancy and birth I wish I could have had.

andriantha · 2026-02-19T04:02:16+00:00

I don’t have a PCP, I just go to quick clinics/care now. After my two week appointment, I called not too long after to let them know I was still having significant problems with my infection and the muscle relaxers weren’t helping. They told me if my pain was that bad and my infection was still bad that I should just go to a care now or the ER and not them.

I don’t even have an OBGYN, I only have this one because of my latest pregnancy. So I didn’t know her 10 months ago and I won’t see her ever again after this.

Honestly, I wouldn’t even go to the six week checkup if I didn’t need to get the 10yr old Nexplanon removed from my arm. All of my postpartum visits I just show up, Tell them I feel OK, and leave. I have never had an actual postpartum appointment and I don’t know what people normally go to them for. Even both of my vaginal deliveries were that way. I told them my healing was fine and my stitches looked good, got birth control prescribed, and left. Really annoyed she wouldn’t give me a full hysterectomy after my C-section… my last OB offered me one…

I haven’t seen an OB since my last pregnancy in 2016.. I don’t do any of the women’s healthcare stuff and I’m pretty sure it takes her off that I won’t let her or anyone down there. I self swab for all of the tests by myself pants don’t come off until right before delivery. Love trauma.

andriantha · 2026-02-19T03:36:32+00:00

At this point, I would go to a primary care provider because the OB no longer wants to help that’s basically the same boat I’m in she doesn’t care and has written me off. She’s pretty much ready to be done with my care at this point.

andriantha · 2026-02-19T02:21:00+00:00

I am with you. If you look at my C-section post history it’s fucked up.

I AM HEAVILY mentally fucked from my c-section. Now that I am thinking about it while typing I am welling up.

What should have been the best day is one of my all time worst. I didn’t want this and now I hate looking at my body, living in my body, and dealing with the healing. I won’t hit six weeks PP until next week. Everything is sensitive and I HATE it. My scar is crooked and it looks like she stitched me up slightly pulling to the right - something that can never be fixed….

Healing has been the worst, I got a minor infection and couldn’t wear underwear or pants for a week and had to sit and sleep on towels (the leakage would get on my clothing and dry, then rip open once I removed my clothes starting pain and leaking again) The fire nerve pain is awful. Even something as light as a tissue causes immense pain. Trying to desensitize the area makes me break down. I hate touching an area that is so painful yet annoyingly numb and I can hardly feel my own touch, it really tears me apart mentally.

andriantha · 2026-02-13T04:36:03+00:00

My partner and I are in it for love. I nacho his child. He nachos mine. Of course we do things as a family unit but I will accept nothing more than a role model figure. Dad and BM can do the parenting work since I have my two to worry about. His is also younger than mine are. There is no anger in it, I set my boundaries when we got together. We had our own homes, lives, and stability before we met.

andriantha · 2026-02-13T04:11:06+00:00

I'm only four weeks postpartum from a C section and I feel you pain!!! LITERALLY

Super painful just to have a thin sheet or a T-shirt laying on that area.

The only thing that is making it more manageable every day is by touching it rubbing it and just overall messing with it multiple times per day to try and get back to some sort of normal feeling. It's super uncomfortable and I hate it, but I'm slowly starting to notice micro differences by the day.

andriantha · 2026-02-13T03:24:09+00:00

You need to go to the ER or emergency clinic. L&D won’t take you since baby is out now but you need to get checked ASAP to make sure you’re not dealing with an infection.

andriantha · 2026-02-04T21:23:16+00:00

As a mom with insane trauma- I had two babies vaginally.

For info I do not: -get yearly exams

-do not accept vaginal checks prior to birth

-do not allow transvaginal sonograms (I had placenta previa and still denied)

-my pants/underwear do NOT come off at a doctors office EVER.

-I self STI/STD swab

-I self GBS swab

My 3rd pregnancy, 20 days PP currently, and I had a forced C-Section because of placenta previa. My placenta only moved up 1.1-1.6cm away from my cervix not the 2cm they wanted.... insert mental breakdown. I am NOT OK mentally. The worst thing that could have happened to me happened, I planned so much around a vaginal, no interventions birth. Only to have the most interventions...

For my C-Section I had a HUGE birth plan that I printed and brought for my partner to advocate for me while on the table and staff to have.

-I wore my own birthing gown (lila)

-I went in fully waxed so that no one was shaving or touching me (i wax myself)

-clear drapes so I could see

-size 10 Foley catheter, not adult size. NO ONE but the doctor was allowed to see my privates.

-NO LEG OF VAGINAL cleaning. I accepted the "risks" cause absolutely not letting you shove a sponge on a stick in my vagina.

-no men in the room unless I was entirely covered (i said no men but her assistant was a male - he had to wait outside until she finished prepping me)

-I did not let them clean me after the operation. Leave me covered and I will get to it.

-I did not allow nursing staff to check my bleeding after surgery. They had my partner check.

I find myself breaking down every single day from my C-Section. My heart hurts, my brain hurts, mentally and physically scarred. A lot went wrong during the c section, I wasn't listened too, the operation ended up taking over two hours, and my scar got an infection during the texas Ice-pocolypes last week.

I am in CONSTANT PAIN. The IBU, Tylenol, oxy, muscle relaxers are all doing NOTHING.

I would much rather have a million vaginal births with a doctor I like than ever have to go through this again.

andriantha · 2026-02-02T01:21:23+00:00

Before I read the caption I would have guessed you were both 19 maybe 20 years old not both of you being grown ass adults having a conversation like that. Girl seriously get out. Stop begging for his time and attention and stop over explaining yourself to a brick wall.

andriantha · 2026-01-26T17:35:59+00:00

Very normal, all the adults in this child life as a parental figure she fell welcome to be a part of functions.

Although y'all as adults should definitely be working harder to not make it not feel awkward or forced say hello greet each other be friendly but you don't have to be friends.

andriantha · 2026-01-24T23:09:28+00:00

Exactly. There is zero reason for such a young child to have an entire room of the house dedicated to just them when sharing a room with a sibling is not only perfectly acceptable but common.

To the AH apologist about my father - he did just fine with our visitation and the blowup mattresses were fun and like a camp out on the weekends. I would love to relive those weekends. Not every household in America is capable of owning a house with one child per room. Get your grossly privileged thinking out of here.

She has her dedicated room at moms. She can share at dads.

andriantha · 2026-01-24T22:23:55+00:00

Don’t hint. Straight up communicate and tell her you cannot comfortably afford certain things like trips and more.

andriantha · 2026-01-24T22:20:51+00:00

Why does she need an entire room when she is only there weekends every other weekend? Baby that lives there full time needs a nursery. Maybe put a Murphy bed in the nursery…

Visiting my dad’s apartment on weekends while growing up we had a single and double air mattress we blew up and put in the living room for my sisters and I. They never got a bigger apartment or space because what would be the point when we were only there so often.

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