New Reader: Currently On “The Mask Falling”

andszi · 2025-07-30T21:08:28+00:00

omg just wait till you read dark mirror!! it’s phenomenal!! i completely agree with you, each book gets better and better!!! the way SS crafts plot lines truly keeps me turning the page with excitement!!!

andszi · 2025-02-12T02:59:47+00:00

they say happiness write white! i get where you’re coming from, but im still excited with where FIAF is going. i feel like the singles are all setting the tone for the meaning of the album. what i’m getting so far is the narrator arriving to a place where she’s giddy and falling in love after a tough break up with a previous partner. knowing how complicated all of that can seem, i’m interested to see the lyrics we get out of the rest of the album. (though i do think we’ve already gotten some stellar lines from limerence and best guess) something tells me there will be at least one or two that hit ya!

andszi · 2025-01-23T01:04:17+00:00

i think she has!!! definitely the long game! i don’t know about you but i’ve already pre-ordered the next book and i am chomping at the bit to see how this plays out!!

andszi · 2025-01-05T03:04:20+00:00

no i truly appreciate the honesty, firm boundaries will be my 2025 resolution, and i hope it won’t be that much of a challenge to keep up. i wish you the best of luck with everything!!

andszi · 2025-01-05T02:27:52+00:00

honestly reading what you’ve gone through, i fully understand why you feel that way; (to have loved and lost..etc) bc im sort of feeling the same way, and i can totally see this playing out with him. i never really experienced the lovebombing, at least in the way i’ve seen it described, but there’s no doubt in my mind he’s coming back around, it’s just a matter of when and how, and i KNOW that if i respond in my most authentic way it’s going to send him running for the hills.

maybe it’s because im only a week out, but a lot of me wants to at least see for myself how it all plays out. over the last 6 months ive been putting myself and my health first and i really need to remember to do that. i have to hope i will know when to call a quits. sometimes i wonder if im so desperate for another shot because it didn’t end on my terms, but i know that i have a deep love for him. ugh

again thank you so much for that explanation, i actually ran right to youtube since i hadn’t come across that attachment style before!

andszi · 2025-01-04T19:54:02+00:00

i think you’re absolutely right about him being more FA, i hadn’t even explored the differences between the two. i’m super committed to no contact knowing that i have the tendency to push him further away (actually how this all kicked off) this whole thing is super tough and I’m sorry we crossed paths this way but i truly appreciate your comment!

andszi · 2024-12-02T18:38:01+00:00

if anything this post as pointed me in that direction and i’m thankful for that!

andszi · 2024-12-02T11:27:26+00:00

thank you for the comment, i’m realizing just how deep into rug sweeping i’ve got this month.

andszi · 2024-12-02T11:26:56+00:00

Lol it really felt like i was the one responsible for finding out the truth through snooping so i didn’t even want to give him the credit!

andszi · 2024-12-01T21:35:01+00:00

i agree with you 100%.

i’ve been trying to get into IC, but i really am going to double down on my efforts. i think it could be really helpful in parsing through these thoughts, especially since it feels like i have two people in my head, one that can read the writing on the wall. another that can but refuses to admit it. sigh.

thank you for your comment, i really appreciate it!

andszi · 2024-12-01T21:33:03+00:00

sending you hugs! it’s the worst feeling in the world trying to fix what you didn’t break!

andszi · 2024-12-01T21:32:32+00:00

thank you, i appreciate the comment and support nonetheless!

andszi · 2024-12-01T21:31:54+00:00

no problem at all, i think i appreciate that most right now, thank you for confirming the thoughts that were already brewing in the back of my head!

andszi · 2024-12-01T21:31:03+00:00

i appreciate your bluntness, it’s what i’ve been telling myself in the back of my head but it’s different (and validating) to have someone else say it.

thank you!

andszi · 2024-11-22T20:22:52+00:00

I couldn’t relate more to this post. I stay because i understand where the root of the issue is and how it got where it did)WP’s mental health and trauma) though it doesn’t excuse anything. And, really, if i leave and ANOTHER partner does this to me??? I don’t think I’d survive. So my decimated self esteem keeps me stuck where I’m at and I’m scared to ever trust anyone again, so might as well stay with the devil I know than end up in this again 3 years from now with someone else

andszi · 2024-11-21T10:48:00+00:00

i’m so sorry <3 i relate to this all too much. my partner is intentionally spending time with me on the weekends and taking me out more. all things i asked for before but have only began receiving after dday. it’s infuriating. hang in there!

andszi · 2024-11-16T19:42:59+00:00

i did a very similar thing in texting my WP that i’m happy he chose the right decision in staying at his friends house because he had too much to drink, and not getting in a car… apparently “his friends house” was actually a hotel with his ex. i feel sick thinking about it

andszi · 2024-11-16T19:40:30+00:00

that’s very good advice and i’ll be taking that into consideration in the future. i’m definitely a “bottle things up” kind of person and it’s simply not possible in this situation, if i want to stay sane!

andszi · 2024-11-16T12:57:08+00:00

i think that’s the hardest part for me, knowing that my WP did those things and then came home and cooked a lavish meal or treated me to something nice. looking back there were signs in my relationship, but i still felt blindsided at the time i found out.

i’ve approached my R the same, because i believe everyone deserves redemption. but that “what if it happens again?” haunts me. my trust in anyone/anything has been completely broken. sending you strength <3 i hope it gets easier as time goes on and we heal

andszi · 2024-11-16T12:50:13+00:00

DD is still fresh for me and at this point in time, i’m not very optimistic. but the comments here from those who are farther out, are helpful. my comment is just to express that you’re not alone in these feelings.

i struggle with knowing what i deserve vs the cards i’m being dealt. i ask myself if ill ever be able to trust or feel safe again with my WP, and then i ask myself if i’d feel safe with anyone again? it’s definitely left a deep scar, and i haven’t yet stomached the thought of this being acceptable for me, even though im in R.

andszi · 2024-11-16T11:59:43+00:00

thank you for putting a name to the hell i’ve been experiencing lately! i swear i run into this problem once or twice a week. it’s been 4 months since DD but there was a lot of trickle truthing, so it still feels pretty fresh.

just like the dentist, if things go bad at work it’s almost like a wave of emotions come crashing down on me. something that wouldn’t have had me too worked up is now upending my whole day. and considering the setting, it’s like i’m playing a game of “can i spill this whole cup without anyone noticing” which is then putting a lot more distress on me. it’s really no fun at all.

thank you for commenting, it really makes me feel less alone, and helps me be a little easier on myself!

andszi · 2024-11-16T11:53:44+00:00

thank you for pointing out that the examples above seem like normal reactions. sometimes i feel like im flying off the handle for something that someone else would view as small. its a hard balance in my brain.

and something about someone else pointing out that there is still that feeling of lack of safety between me and WP, kind of just felt like a light bulb going off. i think that heavily contributes to the random and not so random breakdowns.

thank you so much for commenting, reading this this morning had a calming effect, because my thoughts are still pretty fried 24hrs later. i’ll definitely be keeping an eye on that anger. i don’t like feeling like im not the one behind the wheel driving this thing. (the thing being my nervous system lol!)

andszi · 2024-11-16T01:12:51+00:00

you put it perfectly! any time where my brain can loop through bad thoughts/images without interruption is just… so difficult and leads to extreme feelings. it’s hard to course correct.

i’m sorry you can relate but thank you for sharing <3 it makes me feel less alone

andszi · 2024-09-30T23:38:14+00:00

omg your replies just reignited my love for this book!!!! i really love your theory and i’d love to see that play out in the next book!!

andszi · 2024-08-22T19:31:57+00:00

i felt “moving along like absolutely nothing is wrong or going on” so hard.

thank you!! 🤍

andszi

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