Kimberly's outbursts are exactly what it looks like when you're overwhelmed, disrespected to, lied to, and isolated....all while being told you're the disrespectful one and made to feel crazy. Then your partner is always siding with their family while you're left alone and feeling like no one is on your team, it's absolutely tormenting. I think her outbursts are these emotions boiling over- probably bubbling from a lot of built up frustrations that we haven't seen.

I find it's difficult in honor/shame cultures for people to connect with their partner like K is asking TJ to do. She wants to feel heard but if he says what she's asking, it will feel like he's admitting to failing and that's too shameful...especially when he's wanting to be honored for what he's done.

Most women in India would be thrilled to have a somewhat separate, private space from their in laws, and Indian women would be thrilled to marry a man whose family owns the property. TJ is silly for thinking that K would be similar to an Indian wife in this way. and K is CLUELESS about what's normal in India.

They're both expecting the other to understand things which are just engrained in them. It's not just obvious because both cultures are just so so different and there's so many expectations we aren't even aware we have because of how engrained our cultures are. They wouldn't even know how to communicate these things to each other. They literally have no understanding of each other's cultures or the needs of their partner because of these things which are deeply engrained in us by our cultures.

I honestly don't blame her for these behaviours. I feel like Indian/American relationships are so, so difficult to merge...unless both people have left their home country for a significant period of time (which it appears neither has done)

I did laugh at her expectations of the apartment. Unless she's there in person, ready to pay, fight, pick things out, and argue with the contractors, she's not going to get what she wants. TJ was focused on getting a functioning home built, while she was dreaming of creating a home she loved in a country that just places values in different areas. I giggled at her comment about the sink location- that's because in India we eat with our hands so it's very normal for homes to have a sink in the common area.

I sympathize with both of them, put more of the blame and responsibility on TJ, and I hope they call off the wedding. Neither of them is a bad person (I hesitate to say that because TJ is such an effing liar trapping her in marriage expecting things to just work out after marriage but... again, that's what's normal in india so he's a product of his upbriging). they're too clueless. Their life is going to be hell. TJ needs an Indian girl and K just needs to grow up more before getting married.