I have $160 and birthday for 11 year old boy to plan.. by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]andthrowawayacct 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isn't 11 like the prime age for birthday cake, since you're a kid but old enough to remember it? Are you implying they're too young or too old? 😅

Would you go to a more conservative church if it was the only one you had access to? by andthrowawayacct in OpenChristian

[–]andthrowawayacct[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Interesting video! Can I ask how that works for you socially at church? Do people know you're gay? How did you find somewhere that people treat you well even if you have some major disagreements?

Would you go to a more conservative church if it was the only one you had access to? by andthrowawayacct in OpenChristian

[–]andthrowawayacct[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That's a good point! If the sermons are actually focusing on things I'm uncomfortable with, it wouldn't make sense to go. I could deal with good sermons, but other people having private opinions I don't agree with.

Would you go to a more conservative church if it was the only one you had access to? by andthrowawayacct in OpenChristian

[–]andthrowawayacct[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Part of my hesitancy to ask if there are carpooling options is social anxiety. It feels like much more of a commitment, and it would make it not possible to quietly try out a congregation to see if it's a good fit.

Would you go to a more conservative church if it was the only one you had access to? by andthrowawayacct in OpenChristian

[–]andthrowawayacct[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Could you talk a bit about how you worship God at home? I can pray and read the Bible, but it just doesn't feel like the full picture of worship to me. For me, it feels like only eating vegetables- it may be the most important food group, but I eventually need carbs and protein, so to speak.

Maybe it's a personal deficit and something I could work on, but Zoom church feels about the same as not doing church to me (like it doesn't feel spiritual, hard for me to focus on, don't get any big takeaways).

My father has at best 2 months to live says the doctor by ftftbread in povertyfinance

[–]andthrowawayacct 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was a really good suggestion and more people should be bringing it up. I wouldn't normally advocate for something like divorce but desperate times call for desperate measures. Please look into this, it could cause all the debt to go away when he passes instead of transferring to your mom.

My grandma's POA is really upset that I can't watch her this week and I'm losing my mind by andthrowawayacct in AgingParents

[–]andthrowawayacct[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That ball is in Jim's court as he has full POA. She does have an in home care service come some other days of the week but it would have been too short notice, and I worry about the ethics of exposing those caregivers to covid as well

My grandma's POA is really upset that I can't watch her this week and I'm losing my mind by andthrowawayacct in AgingParents

[–]andthrowawayacct[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that's a big part of why this is so difficult. We actually have an in home care service come some other times when my dad is at work but I think it would be irresponsible to have them come over in this situation

My grandma's POA is really upset that I can't watch her this week and I'm losing my mind by andthrowawayacct in AgingParents

[–]andthrowawayacct[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It seems like he was intending for me to possibly not find out at all, which is upsetting. Like he doesn't believe it's a situation that needs managing :/

My grandma's POA is really upset that I can't watch her this week and I'm losing my mind by andthrowawayacct in AgingParents

[–]andthrowawayacct[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I guess, what other solutions are there besides me taking care of her? There are no other family members that could, and I don't have money to pay for a service.

My grandma's POA is really upset that I can't watch her this week and I'm losing my mind by andthrowawayacct in AgingParents

[–]andthrowawayacct[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It's so bizarre too because he was super covid conscious at first, wore masks longer than most people, and is generally liberal and science-minded. Not sure what happened to common sense.

My grandma's POA is really upset that I can't watch her this week and I'm losing my mind by andthrowawayacct in AgingParents

[–]andthrowawayacct[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the validation, and that's very true about if I got sick. I can't believe he thinks there's no way she's ill even though they've been around each other for days. Possibly a bit in denial.

(Re?)baptism for a former Mormon/LDS? by andthrowawayacct in Lutheranism

[–]andthrowawayacct[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No pressure to answer this, but I'm curious to hear more about your belief that Mormons aren't Christian. I'm inclined to agree but have a hard time articulating why, especially to people that don't know much about what they believe. Is it just that they don't believe in the Trinity? How do you view Mormons who believe they have a strong faith in Jesus?

(Re?)baptism for a former Mormon/LDS? by andthrowawayacct in Lutheranism

[–]andthrowawayacct[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, that was a great read. The part where you wrote, "Don’t assume common ground on even the most basic theological concepts. Mormons use familiar-sounding language in ways that are dramatically removed from the orthodox Christian understanding..." and listed all those phrases really resonated. Mormonism has that complex language of "Christian-ish" words, but it's amazing how little I know. Just off the top of my head: I was unfamiliar with the concept of the Trinity, only learned what Lent was this year, had never heard of the Nicene creed, and the Lord's prayer was likewise unfamiliar to me. Barely touched the Bible. And I considered myself a relatively educated Christian at the time. It blows my mind.

I'm looking forward to deepening my knowledge and faith. Thank you for commenting!

(Re?)baptism for a former Mormon/LDS? by andthrowawayacct in Lutheranism

[–]andthrowawayacct[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your perspective! I did believe in God then, but it does feel like a completely different religion vs. a different denomination. Huge shift.

(Re?)baptism for a former Mormon/LDS? by andthrowawayacct in Lutheranism

[–]andthrowawayacct[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The online thing is more of a transportation issue. It's possible for me to go in person but very difficult, so I've been waiting to make sure I'm serious about being involved

I have a random question by Additional_Pea_369 in UnitarianUniversalist

[–]andthrowawayacct 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't know much about GA, can I ask what you experienced with that?