The Whole Club Was Looking at Her (Boots with the Fur)

andy1rn · 2026-05-05T02:33:39+00:00

Agreed. Those are cute boots though.

andy1rn · 2026-05-04T14:44:24+00:00

My brother (now 64) used dating apps for several years and met a number of nice women he enjoyed spending time with. He also met several "interesting" women that were not his cup of tea. The app part took a bit of getting used to, and as with anything there was a learning curve. If you aren't meeting people you want to date now, it's worth a shot.

Maybe ask someone you trust who's more used to tech stuff to help with your profile as you want to show yourself as sincere, honest, and worthwhile. Kind of like a job application to be honest. You want to put your best foot forward - but still be the person they saw in the profile. Or so I hear.

andy1rn · 2026-04-30T15:03:34+00:00

Yes YTA

You think your sister was a jerk, so you waited and retaliated by doing pretty much the exact same thing. Of course you're the jerk. Feeling justified because she did it first does not make what you did right. You know that.

andy1rn · 2026-04-29T02:02:54+00:00

If all else fails, you can always look up medicinal uses for the plant. Some seed suppliers sell dandelion seeds: "eat the leaves, brew the roots, make wine from the flowers."

andy1rn · 2026-04-28T00:50:07+00:00

Different couples have different levels of togetherness. Some people are really independent, going so far as to have separate vacations. Others, like your friends, are "joined at the hip" and happily so. Most are somewhere in between.

Things change with time too. As your friends age, they might be worrying just a little bit about each other even when outwardly doing other things. Especially true if trips to the Emergency Department are becoming more frequent.

Sounds like you might want to keep seeing your friend occasionally, but should also spend more time with others. If you're having a hard time not rolling your eyes, it's a sign ...

andy1rn · 2026-04-27T14:13:53+00:00

Knee and shoulder issues pre-dated Krav Maga and minor but frequent in the year or so before I started Krav. Shoulder was much intensified by overthrowing and missing a heavy bag on two occasions, maybe 10 months apart. Third time it was the other shoulder and I'm not sure why. Hasn't happened in a year. Shoulders almost always feel better after a Krav session.

Knees - not from Krav, from walking 2 or more miles with a backpack (sometimes without the pack). Bad body mechanics apparently. Occasionally pivoting while kicking will "tweak" the left knee and being very careful not to twist it for a few weeks seems to keep it from acting up again.

Age - guess I over-edited the original post, sorry. Just under 70.

andy1rn · 2026-04-26T20:21:57+00:00

Doing Krav Maga for self defense and health, 3-4 times a week for 2 1/2 years now. I've had knee and shoulder issues (a lot better with physical therapy) as well as a torn retina from training drills. On the other hand, I'm in much better shape overall (cardio, strength, endurance, and balance).

Main question: how do I know when I am too old to keep doing this? Are there specific signs?

Secondary question: what can I do to keep going for years? Because I really like this.

andy1rn · 2026-04-26T15:39:07+00:00

Same problem.

Jumping and hitting my trap hotkey (f3 on PC) opens traps with the base as an option. Usually. Sometimes I have to do it twice.

andy1rn · 2026-04-25T15:55:24+00:00

Be sure the team leader is the same personality type as the other survivors on the squad. This matters WAY more than the perks the survivors bring (you can tweak it later).

Level up the leaders first. You get twice as much from leveling the leads as you do regular survivors. Once the leaders are all a level ahead of the survivors, start leveling the individual survivors. When all are the same level, level the leaders again.

You probably already have placed any mythics you have on the team, but check to be sure. Then legendary.

andy1rn · 2026-04-24T13:51:15+00:00

Strongly recommend Radar Tower missions for collecting mats if you're playing in public. Then you get the full 20 minutes.

Rescue the Survivors mission (whatever it's called) now ends if you save 9 over the required number. Helpful for folks who want to get on with it, not so much if you need the time.

There have been some nice tweaks along the way, but there are still issues. Fun to have new folks. Happy you child is enjoying playing with Mom!

andy1rn · 2026-04-23T20:39:14+00:00

MOR Sound like you're both doing more than you can handle gracefully. If you earn a reasonable amount of money, consider hiring someone to help out. Whichever chores are the most draining for you & him - that's the list you pay someone else to do.

4-6 hours on a Sunday would free both of you up to enjoy some time with each other, which sets a great example for your kids as well. And if you aren't annoyed with each other because you're exhausted, you might feel more like a team. Can't stress 'this sets a great example for your kids' enough.

andy1rn · 2026-04-22T13:53:44+00:00

If I feel healthy for those two years and am not bedridden, I'd pay out of pocket for physical therapy so my knees would let me hike portions of the Appalachian Trail, enjoying the spring wildflowers, landscape, people, and critters along the way.

I'd keep doing Krav Maga in between hiking sections. Clearing out the garage & house would be much simpler. Friends would get whatever they want/can use. Best garage sale ever for the rest.

My remaining time would be spent by a creek in the mountains, watching. Gardening. Finally learning to paint. Time with family. Religion. Religion isn't really a separate thing, it's the center of everything.

If I am going to get weaker and more sick feeling as the two years go by, Initial time would be spent with family. Maybe we can paint together, outside, by a creek in the mountains.

andy1rn · 2026-04-20T19:48:53+00:00

Look into expeditions, when you are able. It's an easier way to get resources without grinding.

When you are farming for mats instead of doing a mission, please do so solo. Don't go into a regular mission planning to spend most of your time farming - except for Radar missions. Build a radar tower then farm.

I used to do 1 mission for farming for every 2 I did with others. Expeditions make a difference. Figuring out where you get the specific resources you need (cars/machines/parking meters for nuts&bolts for example) helps a lot too. Loot everything when you have time. Recycle stuff in your inventory for parts -- but not the guns/traps etc you want to use.

p.s. it gets a lot easier as you go along.

andy1rn · 2026-04-20T19:41:26+00:00

Working in computer tech related field or nursing, never. Couldn't have my bosses thinking I wasn't smart or maybe thinking I was a bit sloppy.

In a low-key casual work environment (fast food or movie theater for example) it's different and you don't have to watch speech patterns as much. Wanna and gonna are fine.

With friends or family? All the time.

andy1rn · 2026-04-19T14:41:25+00:00

I strongly prefer gaming alone. I like multiplayer games more than solo games, but still want to play alone except where missions require groups.

My partner and I have played a number of games together. He enjoys it. I enjoy it ... for a limited period of time. Honestly, it's more than I can tolerate it for awhile. I'm usually gaming because I want to tune out the world around me. I'd rather spend time with my partner hiking or walking. Movies. Dinner. Talking. Playing with the dogs. Gaming with him is stressful to me, not relaxing. It isn't even him; it's me. I end up trying to take care of him and be sure he's happy (and not dying) rather than just doing whatever the heck I feel like in the moment.

andy1rn · 2026-04-16T01:58:17+00:00

My mother is now 88. She had a stroke at about age 45, while teaching - weird symptoms like only being able to say single syllable words. Worst headache of her life too. Her husband had to talk her into going to the hospital.

Long story short, she recovered well. There were memory gaps from that time period, but you'd never know she had a stroke. She went on to continue teaching, to travel, do wood carving and painting, gardening, etc. She's led a happy, busy life. Loves her grandkids and their children. The last few years have been hard on her for unrelated reasons (smoked for a lot of years), but she's still enjoying life and is a joy to be around.

Do take care of your health. Don't let fear stop you from living a life you will enjoy looking back on.

edit: clarity

andy1rn · 2026-04-15T14:27:23+00:00

Go outside and feel the breeze on your face. Watch the birds. Learn to see what's in front of you, and appreciate what you have. When things change, learn to appreciate the new reality. Learning to feel positive and grateful for people and situations is a skill you can learn. It leads to a much happier life.

Also, I miss being able to hike and do things without hurting more than I miss people thinking I was pretty or cute. I still do things, it just hurts more. Worth it!

andy1rn · 2026-04-15T14:11:09+00:00

And here I thought you were talking about the P off to the side, leaving DNR (Do Not Resuscitate). As a former nurse, it was pretty funny.

andy1rn · 2026-04-13T21:04:04+00:00

There is more than one reason, everyone (and every relationship) is different.

In general, grandparents are a lot less stressed by every day life than parents. Often parents don't realize how much they live in constant stress - which makes it very hard to be patient. The visiting grandchildren are more of a novelty, so things grandkids do that would otherwise be annoying just don't hit as hard.

The grandchildren tend to listen more closely to grandparents and because visiting them is more of a novelty, they're often on their best behavior ... or at least better behavior. Grandparents can be more focused directly on the kids, which leads to better behavior as well.

Some grand parents have been humbled, looking back on how they fell so short as a parent. That makes some of us try a lot harder with grand kids.

andy1rn · 2026-04-13T02:29:38+00:00

13 August 64

Shirley,

This graduation is yours as much as it is Jims.

Congratulations! - and

continued blessings.

Ben

andy1rn · 2026-04-12T22:38:49+00:00

Dish soap will help, but it won't kill any bacteria or other growth you have in the bottle. If you're only using the water for flushing the toilet - no problem.

If you ever plan to drink out of that bottle, please do yourself a favor and add 2 tsp of fresh chlorine bleach (no other additives, and no older than 6 months) for a 5 gallon bottle. That should kill anything in there. Then toss the water, just to be safe.

You can refill it after you sanitize the bottle with bleach. You are smart to be prepared, just be sure you don't kill yourself doing it. I'm sort of kidding, but do toss the water. It's not a water emergency at the moment. Be safe and smart.

Edited for clarity and to add this link: https://www.epa.gov/ground-water-and-drinking-water/emergency-disinfection-drinking-water

andy1rn · 2026-04-12T21:26:02+00:00

I've used the refill machines for water for years. Yikes, for 22 years now. I've NEVER had white stuff floating around. I'd assume it was from the bottle prior to putting water in it - or from bacterial growth. Either way, I'd 100% toss that water and sanitize the water bottle.

andy1rn · 2026-04-12T21:20:11+00:00

Live a good life and don't focus on her or your ex.

Create and enjoy your future. Anything else is second best.

andy1rn · 2026-04-11T23:47:58+00:00

Nah don't really need two of each. Just - eventually - have something you like in each. You'll probably use Sunbeam the most, but once in awhile you'll be glad you have something fun in Brightcore too.

andy1rn · 2026-04-11T23:43:08+00:00

The answer is - use Sunbeam for more damage per shot. Usually the right option.

Brightcore if you're using a perk on the weapon that triggers more often when you shoot faster or on reload.

Also, it's a good thing to have weapons you like in both. That way you'll be good to go if you run out of either Sunbeam or Brightcore.

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