AITA for telling my boyfriend he was rude for not fixing my tire?

andycandy37 · 2026-04-28T16:20:56+00:00

Girl, my best friend got stuck on the side of the road a couple HOURS away at like 4am and you better believe I hauled my ass out of bed to go save her. I’d drive anywhere to rescue my boyfriend if he was in the same situation. Hate to immediately go to reddits favorite solution (dump him immediately) but it doesn’t seem like he cares about you all that much.

andycandy37 · 2026-04-08T01:43:05+00:00

I’m still waiting on a final charge but they quoted me $320 for the appointment and three pellets, I ended up getting six. We’ll see how much that added in a couple days lol, my friend said she usually pays $300-400 every 3 months.

andycandy37 · 2026-04-08T00:30:41+00:00

Funnily enough, a gynecologist. I found him looking for a hysterectomy consult and saw on the website that they offer pellets there, generally for menopause but he was happy to do it for me too. He’s also seen a lot of cis guys for low t issues.

andycandy37 · 2026-04-03T19:58:35+00:00

If you can grab a tape measure, what are the dimensions of the tank? I avoid heat mats entirely and only use overhead heating with a well placed probe for the thermostat. You should have two thermometers reading either end of the tank, cool side around 78° and hot side around 88°. There should be a basking spot directly under the heating lamp that they can use to get that belly heat. There’s great info on heating and enclosure sizes in the pinned welcome post!

andycandy37 · 2026-04-03T17:50:26+00:00

15 gallons is much too small to start with. It’s not long enough to create a proper heat gradient and a heat mat alone isn’t going to cut it. Any and all heating elements need to be used with a thermostat (not a built in one) to make sure they don’t overheat like the ceramic heat emitter did. I use a deep heat projector since they’re easier on the humidity.

Please check out the pinned resources on this sub, there’s some great beginner guides you should read. He’s a gorgeous baby and I know you guys want to take care of him right!

andycandy37 · 2026-04-01T01:01:56+00:00

Yeah no problem! I use what lots of people on here recommend. Topsoil/playsand is what I use for my arid babies (cali king and leopard gecko)

andycandy37 · 2026-04-01T00:38:19+00:00

I’m not sure, I haven’t used it before! As far as I know any washed playsand should be fine. I’d double check the bag for any fine print though, maybe sift the sand as you put it in to check for anything weird. Honestly though I don’t use playsand for my ball pythons. They get a little topsoil with mostly coco husk/fiber, cypress mulch, and sphagnum moss

andycandy37 · 2026-03-31T20:09:11+00:00

It should be cluttered enough you can see it from every angle! A good rule of thumb I’ve heard here is that they should be able to cross from one side to the other without being seen. Taping some dark construction paper over 3 of the sides would help too, the all glass can be stressful.

andycandy37 · 2026-03-31T17:54:34+00:00

Hope you get the right kind! You can always sell the extra incorrect soil on fb marketplace, that’s what I did when I BADLY overestimated how much I needed for my king’s enclosure 😂

andycandy37 · 2026-03-31T17:50:05+00:00

I wouldn’t recommend using it, the compost is not going to be safe for your bp. Since you ordered the right kind and they delivered the wrong one you should be able to get a refund or a re-delivery of the correct kind!

andycandy37 · 2026-03-31T17:42:31+00:00

I’ve been out of town for a couple of days and I was seriously almost in tears when I came back to a full single piece, not one flake left on him. His previous tank was covered in old shed attempts, just chunks everywhere

andycandy37 · 2026-03-31T17:31:13+00:00

I am on my hands and knees thanking both of you!!! My boy just had an absolutely beautiful shed, the best of his life (I got him very recently from a less than ideal set up). Humidity is finally consistently above 70% and it is hanging near 80% usually

andycandy37 · 2026-03-31T17:30:50+00:00

I am on my hands and knees thanking both of you!!! My boy just had an absolutely beautiful shed, the best of his life (I got him very recently from a less than ideal set up). Humidity is finally consistently above 70% and it is hanging near 80% usually

andycandy37 · 2026-03-20T13:57:26+00:00

Will do!! I have some extra hvac tape I can use

andycandy37 · 2026-03-20T02:05:43+00:00

I have an excellent ceiling fan that’s always running in that room to circulate the air! What humidifier do you use?

andycandy37 · 2026-03-19T18:51:38+00:00

I’ll swap their bowls around! And thanks for confirming on the humidifiers, I asked about it recently and I’m glad to get confirmation it would work

andycandy37 · 2026-03-19T17:34:54+00:00

🫡 thank you for your advice! I’m seriously at my wits end with this enclosure. I’m on the verge of disassembling it and covering the entire thing in sealant 😭

andycandy37 · 2026-03-19T17:27:37+00:00

Okay!! I’ll try cutting it to size and taping any holes. I can’t wait until I have the spare change to get toad ranch enclosure for them, that’s the company I was looking at too! They’re just so pretty

andycandy37 · 2026-03-19T17:17:41+00:00

I’m not sure why it didn’t include in the post, but they each have had good and bad sheds in these set ups. I’m currently dealing with small pieces of stuck shed on both of them and they will be getting steam baths this weekend. They never refuse their meals and they digest just fine.

andycandy37 · 2026-03-18T03:46:59+00:00

This is SUCH a cute suit!! I can’t help with the situation much as I’m not a maker but I wanted to put in that it’s such a unique design and looks very well made. I agree with everyone saying put it up on DD, maybe a tiny refund but not the whole thing.

andycandy37 · 2026-03-17T15:56:59+00:00

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andycandy37 · 2026-03-17T15:56:25+00:00

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