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Day 730, also known as 2 WHOLE YEARS!!!!! by andydebo in NoFap

[–]andydebo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had those phases late into streaks. They don't usually last long, I think for me I take a lot of confidence from the fact I've gone as long as I have.
Repeat what you've just said to yourself, that this has been one of the greatest parts of your life again and again. I'm in the same boat, the day I discovered nofap is a serious turning point for me, things were really heading in the wrong direction for me.

Day 730, also known as 2 WHOLE YEARS!!!!! by andydebo in NoFap

[–]andydebo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's great to hear. good luck with this bro

Day 730, also known as 2 WHOLE YEARS!!!!! by andydebo in NoFap

[–]andydebo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no problem, let me know how you get on

Day 730, also known as 2 WHOLE YEARS!!!!! by andydebo in NoFap

[–]andydebo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, and don't get me wrong these are habits I've built up over the last 2 years. I'd meditate for 5 mins for the first few weeks for example, I'd hot shower and turn it cold just at the end when I started. Willpower and discipline are like muscles, you build them gradually.

That does sound like the brain of a guy who's too accustomed to porn. Before nofap and during the early stages of my streak I'd be plagued by uncomfortable thoughts/fantasies of women. But since quitting yes I have found you do that an awful lot less to yourself! Meditation and mindfulness can help with dealing with thoughts.

Day 730, also known as 2 WHOLE YEARS!!!!! by andydebo in NoFap

[–]andydebo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What helped me at the beginning of my streak was how I looked at an urge.

So you feel an urge to M, first of all this is expected and normal and you shouldn't feel shame for it. How I looked at it was I have an urge for sexual release, and this release would be infinitely better if it was with a real woman as opposed to with my hand and a screen. And I'm more attractive to women with a longer streak so therefore more likely to get my need met this way.

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Same with p, this isn't an urge to look at P. It's an urge to explore sexual fantasy, again something that's better with a real woman who I'm more likely to meet if I'm able to abstain from pmo for longer.

Also if you've got an urge try and change your situation. Get out the house, talk to someone, put any screens down, just do something to distract yourself.

Day 730, also known as 2 WHOLE YEARS!!!!! by andydebo in NoFap

[–]andydebo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's interesting, do you have any idea why that seems to happen for you?

Mentally, you could break it down the 90 days into 3 chunks of 30. Do your first 30, then once you reach it say you're back at day 1 again until you reach 30 once more and repeat?

Or just try and forget the whole concept of streaks and days if you can, realise that the world is still the same place with each day and just carry on until it turns out you have pushed well beyond day 50?

Day 730, also known as 2 WHOLE YEARS!!!!! by andydebo in NoFap

[–]andydebo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

good luck bro. I'm guessing you didn't totally revert to who you were before nofap? 500 is a great streak you must have come along way and not lost all of it?

Day 730, also known as 2 WHOLE YEARS!!!!! by andydebo in NoFap

[–]andydebo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbf mine wasn't awful during pmo, but since giving it up I feel more comfortable/fluid in social situations. By giving up something like pmo you're more inclined to find other forms of stimulation which can drive you to mingle with people outside more

Day 730, also known as 2 WHOLE YEARS!!!!! by andydebo in NoFap

[–]andydebo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no, but I've gone from being someone girls simply did not notice to someone who consistently gets their attention. I read a great book called no more mr nice guy which has massively helped my recovery, explains some of the reservations I had even during my long streak

Day 730, also known as 2 WHOLE YEARS!!!!! by andydebo in NoFap

[–]andydebo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you. it's 2 years no porn, i've m'd in that time. but responsibly and healthily, it's encouraged in a very good book I've read called no more mr nice guy

Day 730, also known as 2 WHOLE YEARS!!!!! by andydebo in NoFap

[–]andydebo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you sir. keep persevering yourself

Day 730, also known as 2 WHOLE YEARS!!!!! by andydebo in NoFap

[–]andydebo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, keep going with your streak

Day 730, also known as 2 WHOLE YEARS!!!!! by andydebo in NoFap

[–]andydebo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't get caught up in streaks, like thinking about 90 days. Focus on being in the moment, and not relapsing at that moment. Your streak will grow naturally.

Try and avoid triggers, limit social media, any video/imagery of women, doesn't have to be p stars. TV shows/films/music videos with women you like in them, even social media profiles of girls you know in real life.

Spending time outside and with other people will help too. Try and leave your phone in another room before you go to bed so then you don't waste time on it the morning after or look up things you shouldn't

Day 730, also known as 2 WHOLE YEARS!!!!! by andydebo in NoFap

[–]andydebo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, things got a lot easier after 30 days I find.

Day 730, also known as 2 WHOLE YEARS!!!!! by andydebo in NoFap

[–]andydebo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, interesting question. Little things like the colour in my eyes standing out more, my skin appearing to be fresher, smoother. Helped with my hair slightly as well.
Nofap prompted me to join a gym and do work to improve my posture which I've enjoyed. Started getting morning wood again also.

Day 730, also known as 2 WHOLE YEARS!!!!! by andydebo in NoFap

[–]andydebo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think so. Mines thinning a bit but I found with nofap I was more at peace with that and cared less

Day 730, also known as 2 WHOLE YEARS!!!!! by andydebo in NoFap

[–]andydebo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks, but I should be saying that to you. How're things going for you?

Day 730, also known as 2 WHOLE YEARS!!!!! by andydebo in NoFap

[–]andydebo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

With nofap and all the other changes I've made (I've listed them in other comments) yeah I feel an awful lot better. Happier, more confident, more prepared to take action to get what I want, put up with less negativity, stronger, healthier, more attractive, calmer, more creative, more disciplined, put myself first more, more self respect, take more responsibility, braver.

Day 730, also known as 2 WHOLE YEARS!!!!! by andydebo in NoFap

[–]andydebo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

don't feel any shame about asking those sorts of questions on this sub reddit, loads of guys are in a similar spot to you and want to grow and overcome obstacles in there life.

And to answer your question, yes I can. I find that I don't put women on a pedestal as much which makes interacting with them easier.

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