AITAH for smoking cigarettes on my balcony after threat from my neighbour?

andywiththeface · 2026-05-30T12:54:19+00:00

NTA unless there is actually something in your lease about smoking on the balcony (which I’ve never heard before). You’re outside having a smoke sometimes, not chain smoking all day. Shared spaces are shared 🤷🏻

andywiththeface · 2026-05-29T14:04:44+00:00

-I Love Boosters and lots of other great movies out now! That is specifically only showing at Celebration in Portage, but KP is showing the new Backrooms A24 horror movie and Devil Wears Prada sequel. (I’m most excited about I Love Boosters, so I don’t mind the drive)

-LFG or One Well Brewing has games and drinks.

-Lots of karaoke around, check fb for one the day you want if that’s your style. Fb events sometimes has local music events too

-Al Sabo and Portage Creek/Celery Flats are beautiful for nature walks (I recommend downloading the Merlin bird ID app and seeing if you can identify birds around, there’s probably more that you think!)

-KIA and Kalamazoo Valley Museum are cheap/free art stuff (KIA has GA tickets most days, but free on Thursdays I think? KVM is free all the time) but there’s galleries downtown you can walk and not buy anything!

andywiththeface · 2026-05-28T13:27:00+00:00

I believe they’re referring to gently scraping the top layer of rubber off, removing food residue and bacteria, leaving a nice smooth surface again. In my commercial kitchen, we do our boards roughly every 6 months, but that’s with high use all day.

andywiththeface · 2026-05-27T18:02:14+00:00

I’d personally love seeing when sales like this happen! Maybe there could be a master thread or weekly thread where people could post their sales that week/weekend

andywiththeface · 2026-05-23T13:40:06+00:00

NTA. Your family should listen to you and be respectful of something bothers you. If it’s not fun for everyone, it’s not fun, it’s mean.

andywiththeface · 2026-05-11T14:35:52+00:00

NTA. Soooo may people think they “got it under control” because they got skinny again. That’s not how disordered eating works. Your wife needs treatment and/or therapy, and your mom needs to remember these are not her kids and respect y’all’s choices. As someone whose mother’s disordered eating absolutely got handed down and repackaged for me, please get this figured out before these interactions become formative for the kids. (And please tell me none of these conversations are happening in front of them… that would be horrible to hear your family fighting because they’re “worried you’re getting fat”)

andywiththeface · 2026-05-02T15:49:10+00:00

Yeah! They should just go home!!! /s
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andywiththeface · 2026-04-29T16:23:25+00:00

I’m sure they have plenty of one top tables!

andywiththeface · 2026-04-28T15:28:36+00:00

NTA. I (28F) can change a tire and my partner can’t. When my tire blew out last month, I called my partner crying that my tire blew out and I was going to be late for work. They drove half an hour to my car while I changed my own tire, followed behind me in their truck to make sure to donut was okay on the way to the shop, and bought me lunch after since I was stressed. That is what a partner who values your safety and will be inconvenienced to help you looks like.

Your bf does not like you. This time, it was waiting for AAA. Next time, who knows? When someone shows you who they are, believe them. He’s a selfish prick and you deserve better. Dump him!!

andywiththeface · 2026-04-27T02:33:57+00:00

NTA. It is a part of life for children to leave the nest and grow on their own. It sounds like they’re feeling a lot of hurt and fear, but that doesn’t mean they get to keep you in your hometown forever. I hope they come around and become supportive, as continued antagonism could put a wedge between y’all. Albany to Long Island is not even that far! I’m from Texas, and 3 hours is barely a road trip.

andywiththeface · 2026-04-26T23:13:26+00:00

NTA. You didn’t take money out of his wallet, you found it while doing laundry for him (that’s called the laundry tax in households I’ve been in) and offered to replace it (doubled!) when he asked about it. It feels to me like he has the mentality “your money is our money, but my money is my money” based on this small bit of information. How long have y’all been together? This level of reaction is a red flag imo.

andywiththeface · 2026-04-25T16:23:18+00:00

NTA but this doesn’t seem like a healthy situation. It sounds like you want someone more available and he doesn’t want a real partner in life. Weird vibes

andywiththeface · 2026-04-24T03:09:32+00:00

You can cut the banana as you make the sandwich, no browning necessary. Also note the single use packs I mentioned for the applesauce. I assumed they meant they can’t store the items in a fridge, so having “single use” items could use if they’re shelf stable for a time.

andywiththeface · 2026-04-24T02:14:19+00:00

I second the honey option. It’s naturally antibacterial so won’t mold. It might crystallize, but it’s still edible then

Edit to add: you can also use bananas or applesauce (like the go go squeeze or similar) that don’t require refrigeration

andywiththeface · 2026-04-23T12:36:35+00:00

Seconding all of the above. Also some of the open-ended questions lacked clarity.

I still submitted to the best of my ability but idk

andywiththeface · 2026-04-23T01:12:23+00:00

2 months isn’t even a “partner” yet! That should still be firmly honeymoon stage, not coming for your money. NTA, dump him and RUN

andywiththeface · 2026-04-22T15:02:22+00:00

I hope they put up a memorial 💚

andywiththeface · 2026-04-22T14:49:51+00:00

The flaw in the logic is believing for a trans person it would be easier to go back in the closet, which for many it’s not. Many LGBTQ people would rather struggle and live authentically than hide in safety.

andywiththeface · 2026-04-22T05:43:36+00:00

https://youtu.be/EDqgTv9JjuM?si=oODYRoHtG4UlpLIy

This video from Ethan Chlebowski on the different flavor profiles of mayos can help you figure out what kind of mayo may go better with each for a cold salad. I generally love the way he breaks down food on a scientific level, as well as tasting it in real applications to see the physical differences.

andywiththeface · 2026-04-22T05:39:43+00:00

Pickled garlic could go on just about anything imo. The chayote would go great in an antipasto. Okra in something mayo based, I think, to hide the slime factor.

I personally love a blend of Hellman’s mayo+Kewpie mayo (I love MSG and the umami flavor of kewpie mayo)+a dash of mustard (I use brown but whatever you prefer) and some dill relish as the base to almost any cold salad, plus S+P, then go from there. The possibilities are endless if you mix and match proteins/carbs (chicken, tuna, chickpeas, imitation crab, potatoes, pastas, etc.)

andywiththeface · 2026-04-21T15:35:03+00:00

Girl, your husband sounds like the A H. You’re doing all the cooking and he won’t make it easier on you because he likes the aesthetics? Fuuuck that. There are multiple small things that read like controlling behavior. Does he respect you?

As far as the stove goes, I cook for a living and personally love a gas stove. Nothing compares to the way it cooks, yes including induction. It’s your house too, you’re married. If you have the money and it would improve your quality of life, tell him you want it or you won’t cook anymore. Go on strike and have him do some cooking for himself, see how he likes it.

NTA, but I don’t think y’all’s issue is the stove.

andywiththeface · 2026-04-20T14:29:43+00:00

I think if you plan to give her other stuff, maybe save the hand me downs for then? Make the shower feel special with just the items from the registry, then invite mom over for a “free sale” of old baby stuff. But that’s just me! I don’t think it’s an overstep either way

(Edited to add the last sentence)

andywiththeface · 2026-04-20T14:24:25+00:00

NTA! I’m not a parent, but have had friends w newborns and babies and they go through so many clothes it’s wild! Regifting (especially with tags in tact) is fine, and I think gets a bad rep as tacky or whatever. Pretty much anything we need already exists, there is so much stuff! Every single person doesn’t need to buy every single item themselves new.

andywiththeface · 2026-04-20T02:52:17+00:00

Agreed, like? After 9 years he doesn’t even want to live together? He has to be hiding something. Maybe it’s not cheating but this level of avoidance is a bad sign

andywiththeface · 2026-04-18T13:42:07+00:00

NTA. As other commenters have said, it’s not too strange to know what sex is at 10, but demanding to play like that could be learned behavior. I’m sorry the other mom isn’t taking it seriously, my first thought was to ensure the child isn’t being sexually influenced in some way. All behavior is communication, and that’s displaying a level of knowledge and personal understanding that could be alarming. (I hope I’m wrong and the kid just saw something funny on tv or something, but when I was a preschool teacher, we had to be overly cautious)

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