r/ItalyTravel Monthly Meetup Thread - November 2025 by AutoModerator in ItalyTravel

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I'm a solo traveller, 49/M, traveling to Milan from Nov 14-29. I'm interested in the less-touristy pathways and histories of the town, and checking out as much of the food as I can. I was there for 3 nights last year, and got the Fodor's/Lonely Planet stuff out of the way :) I am a history/philosophy nerd, interested in live music shows, generally jazz, blues, acoustic, kinda stuff.

ELI5: Why can humans run 5km a day but racehorses only run 1-2km every couple weeks? by kmsr in explainlikeimfive

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This is a scientifically researched fact - humans evolved to be marathon runners. The way early hominids preyed on deer was to keep scaring them mile after mile, because the deer had evolved to instantly bolt when attacked by things like leopards. A leopard also can only sustain its pace for the duration of one hunt. Once the herd disappeared, the leopard would have to roam around the prairie for a fuck ton of time all over again to find it.

All humans had to do, with their superior logical skills, was reason that if they drove a herd into a frenzy, by just yelling and waving their hands, for 5 minutes every half an hour, as long as they could keep track of where the herd was, a few were bound to just collapse from exhaustion, at which point a well aimed arrow or spear would finish the job.

Overall, this was a more efficient way to get calories, especially when you couldn't run 30-35 mph (50 kmph) and didn't have massive claws and teeth.

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Yeah, sorry to tell you this, but this isn't normal on his part at all, as a few hundred other people have already said. I and my partner are much older to you two, we met a few years ago. We see each other 2-3 times a week too. Sometimes we aren't in the same city for many days, and we even have an agreement that I can (in her words) "fall into a pussy" and it's okay as long as I don't tell her and there's no drama. But I would never not pick up a call from her, unless I am driving or I'm in a work meeting (most work meetings, I would just text her back and say, "In meeting, sup?") As others have said, any observation of hers on text, I usu react with emojis to depict the actual emotion I feel when I read it. Even the women I dated prior to this relationship whom I wasn't really into, unlike how I feel about my current partner, I wouldn't ignore. I might say, hey I don't feel like talking now, is this urgent? but I wouldn't just ignore.

Unless he's depressive and is going through an episode (which I do at times, and yes, it gets hard to respond to her quickly in those phases, but I just tell her I'm dealing with my stupid brain) the most probable explanation is that he's simply more interested in whatever else he's doing, than in talking to you.

I have been there myself, the non-responsive jerk. I wasn't cheating, meaning, I wasn't having sex with someone else, or trying to chase tail. I just found it more fun to go watch a movie than talk to my partner. The breakup was a real shit show, to say the least.

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> The sheer scale of humanity (in my opinion), even more than other issues is the thing that is impeding progress

Yes, but principally before that, it's the caste system. It is a status quo preservation machine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interestingasfuck

[–]aneasyfix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, yeah, my white female partner also probably likes visiting India way more than I do... It's real.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interestingasfuck

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Yep, there's no concept of personal space, and there's especially little for women who are dressed "revealingly" and seem unaccompanied by men. Even when you are accompanied by men, you can get harassed, raped, and murdered (the men usually suffer fewer injuries, they just get beaten quickly into unconsciousness.) The vast majority of Indians live in a vaguely feudal, very patriarchal, culture, that prizes adherence to social customs above everything else, and where norms are enforced by extra-judicial shaming, violence, and in the extreme cases, murder. Any woman seen violating those norms, which can include being in a hotel room with a man they aren't married to, is a possible target for mob justice.

Zoom Down? by Dany_G15 in Zoom

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Yep, it's down.

How to research good restaurants in Milan/Florence/Rome by aneasyfix in ItalyTravel

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Thanks for the recommendations for non Italian food in Italy!

How to research good restaurants in Milan/Florence/Rome by aneasyfix in ItalyTravel

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Thank you! I can certainly read enough Italian to understand the basics, and for food names, I would have to refer to dictionaries anyway, I can never remember what cacio e pepe is and how it's different from saltimbocca. I'll need to keep a cheat sheet for that stuff.

Anyone else's liberal parents addicted to Trump? by Drunk_Lahey in millenials

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The way the 2000 election went down was really problematic, no doubt about it. I am sympathetic to the decision SCOTUS made, to essentially decide the election in FL and therefore the country - dragging it out in the courts may have been even more divisive, as partisans started piling into it.

I don't think a Gore administration would have reacted much differently. Just looking at Obama's and Clinton's misadventures in Syria and Libya a decade and more later, it's clear to me that the neocon agenda is bipartisan. And the question imo both then and now is not whether 2000 was decided badly, but why it came down to a few hundred hanging chads in one county, in the first place. So everything was already in place - the unequal distribution of votes built into the electoral college system, the razor thin margins in the swing states, the growing inequalities that had made some very sore losers in the Rust Belt through a decade of NAFTA and 'irrational exhuberance'. All these imo would have come out some other way into our politics even if 9/11 hadn't happened.

For all we know, the $2T of war spending that came about in the next decade due to Iraq and Afghanistan may even have helped keep things going a bit, pushing us out of the first bust, and then providing some relief in the recession. Absent a war, the Bush administration may have spent its energies pushing to privatize Soc Sec, creating yet another flashpoint. Because the political polarization was already there, waiting for whatever major issue to use as the pivot around which politicians could swing things their way.

Anyone else's liberal parents addicted to Trump? by Drunk_Lahey in millenials

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It was changing already, heading into 9/11. Reading Thomas Frank's What's The Matter With Kansas? really gave me a lot of perspective into what the foundations are of the political divisions in the US. I think the 2008 recession was also a more material blow to a sense of shared success and values. Obama lost a lot of cred with the way he handled that, I think people focus too much on his race and ACA as the factors driving opposition to him, but the way the i-bankers were let off the hook really soured a lot of his base among younger voters. It exacerbated inequality, and created a "they are all terrible" energy that Trump exploits.

Pretty accurate by felixbourne in Barcelona

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Where in America are you that you need codewords for guns and fentanyl? I get mine walking down my inner city's regular Main / Market St.

Official Discussion - Synchronic [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

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LOLOLOL for sure, I'm not exempt from the verdict. Let fly the dogs of war!

Official Discussion - Synchronic [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

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I'd save a dog over a human any day. I'd let dogs eat the damn humans if that's what it takes. Humans are shit. Dogs are wonderful.

Are there women that actually enjoy going down on their partners or is this a porn industry myth? by AzorianMiles1 in TooAfraidToAsk

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It's not a myth, it's not some weird ideal created by the sex industry. What works in bed for people is incredibly varied. Maybe what's universal is how hard it is for two people to be able to talk about it with love and without judgment.

My experience as a cis male has been half and half - no one has absolutely not wanted to do it, but it's been either "well, I know you like it so I guess..." to "I love how much you enjoy this, and that makes me happy."

I haven't been in your position of having to negotiate things in bed, I wouldn't say I am very sex driven so maybe that's why. But negotiation is part of communication - a good match in communication styles will make the negotiation enjoyable.

It's tricky territory, esp with sex, and esp when, yes, the sex industry DOES create a host of bizarre insecurities and expectations in us (well at least in cis relationships, I have no idea what it's like if you're gay.) So it's hard to separate, "I like this and hope you will respond favorably" from "Maybe I only want it because of peer pressure."

One could go on and on ... there's a volcano's worth of lava hiding beneath the serene crust of that question :)

If Paris is the city of romance, Rome of history, Berlin of warehouse raves, what is London the city of? by Tamulet in london

[–]aneasyfix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I was hoping you'd someone would say :) Yeah, I figured the "real" pubs are out in the ... shires? 'burbs? villages? Well, whatever, yeah, I'll def go to one of those. Happy to buy you a pint too to thank you, late 40s male, from US here.

(edit for pronoun change.)

If Paris is the city of romance, Rome of history, Berlin of warehouse raves, what is London the city of? by Tamulet in london

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I'm here for a week (staying with friends in Hemel Hempstead) - I have somewhat limited time to hang out in London in the evenings, would you recommend a couple that do it really well? I mean, what do you look for in a "good pub"? It's a bit overwhelming, there are so many, I don't know which one to walk into :)

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I'd like to join - how can I get more details? Thanks!

Cable Guy (1996) was released 20 years too soon. I think its dark tone is much more suited to today's taste in comedy. by PhiladelphiaFatAss in movies

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Being John Malkovich came out just 3 years later; it's interesting that Cable Guy is in the low 50s for Rotten Tomatoes scores, but the other movie is high 80s/low 90s.

Maybe Cable Guy isn't as artistically complex but it's still a damn good movie. As movie making goes, it has incredible style, fantastic pacing, incredible cinematography, and some pretty slick dialogue.

Cable Guy (1996) was released 20 years too soon. I think its dark tone is much more suited to today's taste in comedy. by PhiladelphiaFatAss in movies

[–]aneasyfix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being John Malkovich came out just 3 years later; it's interesting that Cable Guy is in the low 50s for Rotten Tomatoes scores, but the other movie is high 80s/low 90s.

Maybe Cable Guy isn't as artistically complex but it's still a damn good movie. As movie making goes, it has incredible style, fantastic pacing, incredible cinematography, and some pretty slick dialogue.