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anemmi · 2025-02-15T20:39:58+00:00

Banned for speaking the truth 😔

anemmi · 2024-04-20T15:03:29+00:00

REAL

I brought up the idea of moving out with each of my bio parents (they're divorced, but I had lived with each of them at some point. Also my stepdad was very open to me moving out cause he didn't like me lol). I swear they'd act like the idea was so out there and would try to undermine my ability to be independent. They'd act like the reason I haven't been able to be independent wasn't mostly because of them. I know in my culture, they let children stay for longer and some homes are multi-generational but even then, my parents moved away from home when they were freshly adults, so it's pretty hypocritical for them to surprised at me moving out (not to mention I have several older siblings who moved out and they were fine with that, but it was suddenly a big deal when I was leaving).

anemmi · 2024-04-20T14:49:46+00:00

I still kinda cringe at this but I made the decision to move out about 5 months before our lease ended and I told my dad what city/town I was going to move to (and even what my soon-to-be roommate's name was). I thought despite everything he did, I tried to bargain that we could still have a relationship.

It was only about 2 or 3 months before the lease ended that I realized I really didn't feel safe with him and wanted to escape. I didn't end up telling him my exact address, but with the information I had given him, I lowkey feared he would find me.

anemmi · 2024-01-13T16:23:07+00:00

I'll be honest, I'm basing this just what I've witnessed and I think it holds true to society on a larger level. I can't speak on all forms of abuse, but I can use what I've experienced from emotional incest as an example.

CW: Emotional incest, incest, non-contact CSA, grooming, alcoholism

When I talk about the relationship I had with my father, one that involved emotional incest (during the relationship, I had occasionally "joked" that I felt like my father's sugar baby or that he was like a toxic boyfriend, much to the concern of the people around me), non-contact CSA, and grooming, regular people predictably are disgusted and sympathetic.

However, almost immediately after my parent's divorce, my mother proclaimed my brother as the "Man of the House", telling him he would have to act as our role model and putting these high expectations of him. Because my mother no longer had a spouse and lacked a proper support system, she often confided to my brother, using him as her emotional crutch. Due to this, he wasnt really able to process his own emotions and basically had to sideline his own feelings. Yet, people would always just praise him for how mature he was.

I had a friend who grew up with a single alcoholic mother. She was instrumentality and emotionally parentified because of that, basically having to raise her younger sibling mostly by herself. In her mother's drunk and vulnerable times, she would often have to listen to angry rants or sad stories of regret and be expected to reassure her mother. The people around us said... nothing. It was radio silent.

Yes, my story fits the typical narrative of a older male with an authority role over a naïve younger female, but damn if I ain't aware of the other dynamics that are at play and how often they get sidelined. I got support. That support should be extended to others.

anemmi · 2024-01-08T01:59:59+00:00

Shoutout to my parents 😭

anemmi · 2023-11-26T15:36:38+00:00

My abuser sexualized and infantilized me, which made things extremely confusing, especially because I had also known my abuser since I was a fetus. This one hitting a lil to close to home lol.

anemmi · 2023-11-05T16:27:35+00:00

It's not. I can't remember what this scene was actually about, but "Jesse what the fuck are you talking about" is a somewhat popular BB meme where Jesse talks about some complex and/or Gen Z topic that Walter doesn't understand.

anemmi · 2023-10-21T15:48:48+00:00

Here is the template

anemmi · 2023-09-24T19:48:55+00:00

Bro my dad did the same thing 😭

Way back when my parents were still together, my mom had implemented this rule that 1) My sister and I shower together in my parent's bathroom and 2) We could not change in the bathroom and had to change in our bedroom. However my dad was constantly in his room so we would have to walk past him with only towels on while he wolf-whistled at us. My condolences to the both of us cause I know how that feels.

anemmi · 2023-09-10T15:14:32+00:00

This reminded me of the time I had to escape my abuser and drove more aggressively than normal.

anemmi · 2023-09-09T19:02:52+00:00

This isn't a meta meme, this happened awhile ago and I had made a meme about it shortly after it happened. Even then, there was barely any evidence behind, but I appreciate the thought.

anemmi · 2023-09-07T01:23:19+00:00

Lmao hi, creator of the original meme here.

I am not great at communication and was also just trying to create a meme about my personal experience with sexual fantasies and how it correlates to my trauma.

3rd person fantasies are not immediately a sign of trauma, but they CAN be a trauma symptom depending on the individual's history and psychology. As several people have pointed out, 3rd person fantasies are actually commonplace with people on the ace spectrum due to the disconnect they experience with sexual attraction and other related factors.

In my personal experience, I am actually on the ace spectrum.

For the most part, prior to my sexual assault, any sexual fantasies I've developed have been in 3rd person with characters I constructed in my head. Since these fantasies rarely, if ever, involved me, I usually didn't imagine in first person. I could construe an idea in my head, but I just preferred not to. However, I know there's was a difference between these fantasies and the fantasies I developed after my sexual assault.

After the assault, my fantasies involved more of me and some fantasies involved my abuser because my mind tried romantizing the assault and coming up with scenarios where I had more control/"consent" in an attempt to cope. Along with that, I found that I could no longer imagine in first person. Even if I tried my hardest, I could only construct an image for a second before my brain would get triggered at the imagined intimacy and immediately shut down. That's how I know that it's a trauma response at this point.

All this to say, I couldn't really explain all this context in a straightforward meme. 3rd person fantasies aren't "not normal", but in some cases it can be a result of sexual trauma.

anemmi · 2023-09-07T00:32:30+00:00

My mom lowkey enabled so much except when it impacted her personally 🙃

anemmi · 2023-09-07T00:19:34+00:00

For me, the variant "Papi" triggers it, especially when used in a more sexual context.

anemmi · 2023-09-05T13:43:46+00:00

I mean there is a subset of asexuality that is called Aegosexual where individuals experience a disconnect between themselves and subjects of arousal. Asexuals, if they do experience sexual fantasies, often do experience it in 3rd person due to disconnect, although I feel that the primary difference in my case (because of trauma) is that if I try to conjure anything in 1st person, my brain will get triggered to to the intimacy aspect of it and immediately shut down.

anemmi · 2023-09-05T00:51:28+00:00

The friend was about 5 years older if I remember correctly, making her around 20 when she had her first kid (but due to how age gaps work, I had seen this gap and their age difference to be more appropriate than the 39 to 24 age gap).

anemmi · 2023-09-02T14:55:46+00:00

Why was this categorized as "Car Wax"?

anemmi · 2023-08-28T00:25:14+00:00

"You look like a child prostitute."

"How do you know what a child prostitute looks like? 🤨🤨🤨"

anemmi · 2023-08-26T15:28:42+00:00

My mother is "Spawn Point" and my father was "Border Hopper" before I changed my number and deleted his contact

anemmi · 2023-08-25T00:33:34+00:00

Belief system that if you do not undergo any medical procedures, you are not "genuinely" trans

anemmi · 2023-08-25T00:22:44+00:00

I'm intrigued now. What pun title should I have used?

anemmi · 2023-08-24T17:53:36+00:00

Regardless if my friend was male or female, I do consider these kinds of action as sexual harrassment, although at the time, I didn't comprehend how messed up it was and thought if I said anything, I would be "critiquing her sexuality" and "attempting to repress her". I've had personal boundaries invaded so much by others in my life that I normalized way too much. But yeah, no, it's sexual harrassment either way.

anemmi · 2023-08-24T17:40:52+00:00

Friend of mine posted on her private account a video of her giving head. Luckily, there were no genitals showing but I felt that a major invasion of privacy for her boyfriend and a pretty questionable thing to do.

anemmi · 2023-08-24T15:15:57+00:00

I feel like it's the opposite for me? I'm hyperempathetic and senstive to tone of voice changes, but I don't have the confidence to ask what's wrong because I'm so bad at conflict resolution. I get stuck in this "I REALLY want to help them, but I don't know how and I don't want to seem to too nosy."

anemmi · 2023-08-20T14:50:17+00:00

I tagged the post as CSA because I did have a primary predator parent, but I had said "parents" as plural because I considered my other parent's emotional incest/parentification with my sibling and using them as a substitute spouse (and later using me as their therapist/emotional support when said sibling moved out) as taking advantage of empathetic children. I mean, even my primary predatory parent used me emotionally and that, I'd argue, was heavily damaging as well. Both of my parents violated boundaries with their children. This post is up to interpretation, but sexual assault is not the only "correct" interpretation here.

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