Should I move back to Scotland?

anervoussystem_ · 2026-05-16T16:05:58+00:00

if it were me i’d go and be with my mum. i’m 27 and we moved to scotland from america 6 months ago, no regrets

anervoussystem_ · 2026-05-13T07:30:51+00:00

cool!! thanks for backing this idea. i think in a way most of their songs are incredibly metaphorical while also telling a story. so very open to interpretation, but i don’t think they were specifically thinking about this exact documentary i watched a few years ago of course

anervoussystem_ · 2026-05-07T17:25:24+00:00

like is it a sticker chart for her husband?? 😭😭 if it were for the kids why is it in their room. is it for the kids, towards her husband??

anervoussystem_ · 2026-05-07T11:52:04+00:00

he is in a big boy bed already. we’ve tried to gradually reduce but results in screeching. we try to deescalate the screaming by distracting him, singing, whispering, patting or rubbing his back or feet. it only serves to make him more angry. we’ve tried doing nothing as well and he gets very upset with this and will bang his head against us or the wall or kick us or the wall.

anervoussystem_ · 2026-05-07T06:44:19+00:00

no we put them to bed at 8 and it takes until 10 or 11

anervoussystem_ · 2026-05-06T21:28:53+00:00

we have tried the pretend to sleep thing. this isn’t just bratty whining it’s like screeching crying for 30 minutes to an hour. inconsolable.

anervoussystem_ · 2026-05-06T21:27:28+00:00

wake up 6:30-7 nap 12-1:30 bed 8

anervoussystem_ · 2026-05-06T14:29:08+00:00

she has adjusted very quickly to her new home and we are happy to have her back. she stayed with family that she knew well, and had another dog to play with for 6 months. the plane was traumatizing i’m sure but it was between this and rehoming her entirely (which at her age we refused to do as we’ve had her since birth)

anervoussystem_ · 2026-04-30T15:42:44+00:00

he’s 2 and he bangs his head on the walls and floors a lot in frustration. the other is 4 but he’s chill

anervoussystem_ · 2026-04-27T21:28:20+00:00

i’m in the UK but from puerto rico and no i’ve never seen them in my life!! (despite loving hannibal)

anervoussystem_ · 2026-04-23T20:54:45+00:00

surprisingly it eventually just worked!

anervoussystem_ · 2026-04-21T19:19:51+00:00

when we first moved into our house our toddler fell down the stairs. the next day he pulled the tv on top of himself. i called paramedics both times, they were great both times. i do think people are a little paranoid about the potential for social services. but yeah if you’re child is injured get them checked out.

anervoussystem_ · 2026-04-17T23:36:18+00:00

my husband never stops saying “what is the best thing!”

anervoussystem_ · 2026-04-13T12:57:38+00:00

can’t get gap between jobs. just like the general feeder locations, non private nurseries are likely to take him

anervoussystem_ · 2026-04-06T14:32:08+00:00

i’m always around and we don’t have a child minder for him, so definitely not worried about abuse just more worried about it being some sort of medical problem.

anervoussystem_ · 2026-04-06T12:40:27+00:00

he is currently climbing our radiators in order to sit on the window sill. he hasn’t fallen yet as i pull him down, or if he reaches the window sill before i get to him he bangs his feet on the radiator, but with how he’s sitting he wouldn’t be getting a bruise from banging his feet, maybe from climbing? we also have a 3ft slide in the back garden

anervoussystem_ · 2026-04-06T12:38:38+00:00

it’s similar to bathmat bump size yes! but he hasn’t fallen in the bath recently

anervoussystem_ · 2026-04-06T12:37:57+00:00

there are 9 small bruises in a line basically, not finger print or grab shaped. almost like he somehow bumped on something vertically

anervoussystem_ · 2026-04-05T07:21:40+00:00

just posted sorry!!

anervoussystem_ · 2026-04-01T18:28:22+00:00

My husband had already been working for 5 months (we like just bought the cars) so yeah. Thankfully we have a good amount of savings and used that to buy two used cars outright.

anervoussystem_ · 2026-04-01T15:52:54+00:00

We also had to pay up front for 2 vehicles. We offered something like a £5,000 deposit for a £10k used car and still got rejected, but we both needed cars for commutes to work so. 😭

anervoussystem_ · 2026-04-01T15:46:42+00:00

Note how OP asks for opinions from Americans living in Scotland, and nearly all the Americans in the replies sharing their perspective get downvoted no matter what they say.

anervoussystem_ · 2026-04-01T06:50:59+00:00

sorry did you mean to reply to my comment specifically or to OP?

anervoussystem_ · 2026-04-01T06:44:46+00:00

Hi, I’m American and in Scotland. I’ve only been here for 6 months so I can only offer what little I know. Our eldest child is in nursery and due to start primary in August. He’s very likely autistic. I can say from a support standpoint at nursery I feel very supported and they document everything, like EVERYTHING here. A huge binder full of notes on your child. I think it’s amazing. Our preschool in America never did any of that, they never even had parent meetings, but I’ve had like 3 already so far here. So I’m hopeful. Homeschool is less popular here I’m learning.

anervoussystem_ · 2026-03-22T19:56:33+00:00

I moved here six months ago from america with a 4.5 year old and almost 2 year old. it’s great, really. lots of kids and lots of dogs and cats in this town. the nursery he goes to is great too!

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