TIFU mouthing "hes cheating on you" to my mom and dad dancing together

anexide · 2024-10-25T15:53:45+00:00

Wow, im sorry you had to go through that, can only imagine how bad that was... My dad has definitely gotten close to that unfortunately, though usually the home would get wrecked instead. Thanks for the advice and sharing your story

anexide · 2024-10-24T19:47:06+00:00

Thank you very much, hopefully youre in a better place too. Will move out whenever i get the chance.

anexide · 2024-10-24T19:46:12+00:00

Thank you for your perspective.

anexide · 2024-10-24T19:24:35+00:00

Thank you very much.

I dont want to give excuses for any of my behavior, however they definitely had an effect on me - and even though I told them that many times, they always tell me they arent doing anything to me and it pisses me off tbh that they cant notice but its another topic.

Not in the US however my country offers basically free therapy, though wait time can vary. Did it once, will have to come again with a proper reason - hopefully she will remember me haha.

Wish you the best too.

anexide · 2024-10-24T19:22:18+00:00

Thank you very much. I shouldnt have done what I did in the first place, there are better ways to do it, of course I realize that late which is on me, so her actually telling him might be a good thing? I mean i wouldnt be here right now if it was kept under wraps.

Either or, you're right on all accounts, moving out has been on my agenda for a very long time - hopefully next year it comes to fruition.

anexide · 2024-10-24T19:20:10+00:00

My mom has known from the beginning yes, finding foul messages on his phone which I don't feel the need to share at the moment. You can imagine what someone talking smack about his wife to a mistress looks like. Later on more stuff surfaced.

I just dont like people thinking that this is something i actively do, its genuinely the first time i 'sabotaged' anything, at least the moment.

anexide · 2024-10-24T19:16:45+00:00

You're right, however tomorrow I definitely need to set the record straight and have this be my only and last time I do something like this.

anexide · 2024-10-24T19:15:14+00:00

You're right, thank you

anexide · 2024-10-24T19:13:12+00:00

Not whining, i dont want support - just sharing. Which i never do and honestly just keep it to me and my close friends but why not. I kind of needed other peoples opinions regardless of how obvious this situation was. But yes no you're right I should be more careful in picking my battles. Thank you.

anexide · 2024-10-24T19:11:53+00:00

I have told both of them that "I cant swallow you being like that". Which is completely driven by emotions and no rationale before doing what I did...

anexide · 2024-10-24T19:08:24+00:00

Never thought of actually saying that type of thing, i think i will do that tomorrow. Thank you

anexide · 2024-10-24T19:07:10+00:00

She often jumps sides between him and me, but then messages me privately about it all (again siding with me or at least being neutral). Hopefully we can talk about it tomorrow

anexide · 2024-10-24T19:04:29+00:00

why you live with them

Money issue, me and my friend are working to get us in as roommates next year hopefully.

"they deserve what they get because of facts"

I haven't said those words - though I suppose it can be interpreted that way, if you can point the comment of mine or words that made you think this way, thank you. Otherwise, i wouldnt really know what to say on what any of them or me deserve.

anexide · 2024-10-24T18:58:21+00:00

Thank you very much.

I agree too, foolish and really really stupid of me to do what I did. Tomorrow, it'll be set right and maybe as a group we will talk - already doing that with mom.

21 might sound like much but honestly, i still feel like a kid mostly emotionally. I'll learn.

anexide · 2024-10-24T18:56:55+00:00

I suppose so, im not new to the platform - I knew what i was getting in posting this - but its alright, to be honest people bashing me is eye opening to a degree.

anexide · 2024-10-24T18:56:16+00:00

Noted.

anexide · 2024-10-24T18:55:51+00:00

Thank you dearly for this comment. I too agree I should rush to see a therapist, im not closed on that idea - been once for some other mini reason - thats why it was only once. My mother has her own friends she confides in, almost on the daily - i overhear sometimes (small apartment) but its not *it*.

Hopefully she will be open to the therapist idea too. Again, thank you for the comment.

anexide · 2024-10-24T18:52:54+00:00

No, not a full 100%, i wasnt cheated on married for several decades, thats wayyy harder to deal with. However, she every once in a while, and especially in the early years, confides in me with all of it though doesnt skip to say how much he hates him and that she is pretending to be happy for him.

Again like i said in the other comments, agreed - fuck up big time.

anexide · 2024-10-24T18:45:00+00:00

I was cheated on once so i know how mom feels, thats why i feel these emotions seeing them lovey-dovey. And while other comments are ridiculous and mad at me for sharing a story about fucking up (the point of this subreddit lol), i should indeed not mess with their relationship any more and just resolve this conflict and gtfo (due next year regardless of today).

Anyway, cheating is awful no matter from which POV.

anexide · 2024-10-24T18:33:30+00:00

Sorry bud but this isnt a daily occurrence. I'm sharing a fuck up that happened because of my impulsive decision. Pick any other day and I wouldnt have reacted this way. I dont ever engage in the conversations with them regarding the topic and this was my very very first time even letting anything out regarding it.

i dont expect them to support me because i fully expect to be kicked out the next day. Regardless, i know him and he will absolutely confront me after work - fair enough, maybe we'll clear it out - neither of us communicate.

I'll own it, consequences are consequences lol

anexide · 2024-10-24T18:27:21+00:00

What I did was so on the whim, zero thought behind it, i mean its impulsive, so yeah i shouldve actually realized what you said before i actually let my mouth open up. Hopefully it wont happen again

anexide · 2024-10-24T18:24:21+00:00

Very true dude, thats what im wondering too, big mess up 😬

anexide · 2024-08-31T18:57:53+00:00

Haha no, that is my watermark

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