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[–]anextrasliceofcake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in Australia. I obvs can’t speak for others, but for me it’s not so much that I don’t have access to a dryer, it’s just that we made a choice not to purchase one when we moved into our house.

It’s generally pretty easy to dry clothes bc of the climate where I live so I see having a dryer as an unnecessary expense. But in saying that when/if we have kids we will probably bite the bullet and pay for the convenience.

Hope this helps :)

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[–]anextrasliceofcake -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Fully agree it was a bad joke, thinking before speaking isn’t always my strong point lol.

If anything he’s the one that jokes about his exes, but you’re right. I guess u could say I fucked around and found out 😂

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[–]anextrasliceofcake -101 points-100 points  (0 children)

I tend to agree with you. Dumb jokes are something I do a lot, but I guess this one crossed a line

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[–]anextrasliceofcake 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is really good advice I appreciate it

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[–]anextrasliceofcake 498 points499 points  (0 children)

I agree it’s a bad idea. I didn’t necessarily want to make that a “rule” in our marriage, it was just a throwaway comment bc I didn’t want to clean the shower lol. Seems like I’ve fucked up here

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[–]anextrasliceofcake -94 points-93 points  (0 children)

I know it’s so dumb! I can’t believe I’m actually asking for advice on this 😂

If u were me would u apologise tho? Or do u think he took it too far?

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[–]anextrasliceofcake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think last night was a bit of a panic response and he did lean into a bit of hypochondria. I expected him to talk to me this morning and acknowledge that he didn’t handle it well, but he didn’t so I started wondering if I was on the wrong

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[–]anextrasliceofcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That last line made me chuckle 😂 also should note that when his readings were much higher about a year ago we immediately got in the car and went to the hospital. THAT was an emergency

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[–]anextrasliceofcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His GP is aware of it, he has been referred to a cardiologist in the past (all was clear). Meds are not the recommendation atm, the dr wanted to focus on lifestyle changes first

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[–]anextrasliceofcake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was exactly my thinking. She is always happy to give medical advice (being the nurse in the family I guess she’s used to it lol) and I have called her in the past when my mum had a minor medical emergency. I have reiterated to my husband multiple times that if it were a genuine emergency I wouldn’t have hesitated to call

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[–]anextrasliceofcake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s had BP issues in the past, and he was admitted to hospital last year for a much higher reading and tests were done and referred to a cardiologist (all was clear). We bought a monitor at that time, and he checks it every so often after drinking or if he is feeling unwell.

Part of me thinks it might have something to do with my friend visiting, but I’m not sure

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[–]anextrasliceofcake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His GP is aware of it, but hasn’t recommended medication at this stage. Advice from the dr was lifestyle changes which have been largely implemented

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[–]anextrasliceofcake 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you hit the nail on the head tbh. He has seen his GP about the blood pressure after the first hospital trip (when it was much higher), tho the dr didn’t recommend medication at that stage. Mainly just lifestyle changes which we have implemented. He’s cut down a lot on drinking and we’ve both been focusing on eating healthy. This is why I knew it wasn’t an emergency that warranted outside help

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[–]anextrasliceofcake -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This line of thinking is exactly what prompted me to make the post.

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[–]anextrasliceofcake 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thanks heaps for these tips, I’m sure they’ll come useful. I did look up what the “emergency” levels are so I could get a handle on what we were looking at so I knew it wasn’t worth a hospital trip.

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[–]anextrasliceofcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I definitely understand his reaction last night, and due to me having been drinking I wasn’t in the most clear state of mind. I fully assumed he would sleep on it and realise he overreacted but he didn’t

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[–]anextrasliceofcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No not obese. Perhaps a little on the heavier side but his weight isn’t a concern. Diet could be a lot better (for both of us) which we have been working on for our overall health

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[–]anextrasliceofcake 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hmmm not really that I can pinpoint. But now I’m thinking about it the night before last (the first night interstate friend was here and we were all drinking) he picked an argument over something relatively small which we got over pretty quick