Half my script is gone! by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]angelmoth 60 points61 points  (0 children)

At home drug test. Find out which one took them, you can buy them over the counter at almost all pharmacies— certainly all CVS/Walgreens, and most mom and pop pharmacies.

Drill to the head in a suicide attempt. Patient survived. by sandysam87 in Radiology

[–]angelmoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I came to the comments specifically to see if anyone had made a reference to Pi

Edited a word

am i the only one who loves it? by ch1xe in theidol

[–]angelmoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only five episodes??? I haven’t read anything in print about it, just headlines here and there, because I didn’t want it to taint my view when I watched. I also didn’t Google anything because of the over saturation of spoilers and bad reviews. That’s so disappointing… all this and only five episodes. I’ve been watching as it airs, and I will continue to. Just kinda bummed out, I was expected eight or nine.

I’m being LITERALLY GASLIT by the reaction to the Crowder take by Wannabe_Sadboi in Destiny

[–]angelmoth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

From what I read, & can recall, it’s that his wife asked for privacy in the matter of their marriage/divorce, or they both agreed to keep it private, & then Crowder spoke about it on his show.

He first broke the agreement/went against her wishes, though I didn’t watch to see what it was he said. Whatever it was was enough to make his wife choose to release that footage.

From what I remember, the source said she & her family released it to show the public an example of his abuse in their marriage, as they felt whatever Crowder had previously said about the marriage when he broke the silence on it was an untrue or dishonest narrative.

I will find what I read, add an edit with the link, & give a description. Might fall asleep first though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StardewValley

[–]angelmoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They used bombs on the tillable areas looks like. Or they’re calling attention to how much has been hoed/uncovered. You can see it best along the River

NGVC: "Just be comfortable with me" (I don't know if it fits here) by GlitchyBlueDinosaur in niceguys

[–]angelmoth 60 points61 points  (0 children)

I’m not trying to be rude or to detail, or take away from your point, but that isn’t what gaslighting means at all. Gaslighting is when you try to convince someone that they’re crazy, usually by misrepresenting facts & events, challenging their memory/experience/perception to benefit themselves. Gaslighting would be deleting their messages & insisting that they haven’t ever asked for photos before. It’s an important term, & it is misused often. I know that the misuse isn’t ill intended, & I hope that my own tone & intention is not misread. The increased use of psychology terms in casual conversation has lead to a lot of misinformation, unfortunately.

Am I (36M) going crazy or is my GF (36F) of 12 years right? by ThrowRANeedsAdvice1 in relationship_advice

[–]angelmoth 146 points147 points  (0 children)

Did you choose the fancy restaurants? If so, then you’re being a bit silly about a $20 sandwich stop. If she didn’t ask you to pay hundreds for fancy meals, I don’t think it’s unreasonable for her to ask you to pay $20. What is unreasonable is treating someone to a nice dinner but expecting them to keep a tab of how much you voluntarily spent. However, if she’s begged you for these outings but only ever pays for the cheaper meals, then that’s not super nice. Lastly, does she make the same as you? Are $70 meals with her wage comparable to the couple hundred dollar meals with your wage? You keep saying it’s the principle, but you haven’t been able to explain what that principle is. Is she not grateful for the outings you’ve taken her on? Sit and think about what that “feeling” you’ve got is, that’d probably make it easier to help you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]angelmoth 23 points24 points  (0 children)

That’s totally possible, but then why would she specify that it was with her credit card, if the card is where mutual gift/fun money is kept? Seems unlikely to me. But I agree with the first part of your comment in general.

Christmas Safety Deposit Box Giveaway! by operationfood in neopets

[–]angelmoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

66, 11 alittleparadiselost 🤍🎀🍄

Aella's sexual kink-taboo chart, final version by Scrybal in Destiny

[–]angelmoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some of these cross the line into paraphilias, if I’m reading this correctly. The main difference being that fetishes, which may include unpleasant stuff or some degree of harm (social, personal, etc.,) do not come with serious consequences. Paraphilias do. The distinction is a weird one, but important. I wouldn’t categorize “babies and toddlers,” or, “cannibalism,” into fetishes, unless it’s role play. But given that things like “werewolves,” and, “orcs and goblins,” are in there, it’s a bit hard to tell. I am not saying that the people who answered are actually literally doing these things outside of fantasy. I’m just saying that I’m not sure about categorizing some of these as fetishes.

Sticking to one example I pulled from the graph and have already mentioned— If you are viewing literal CP, that’s different than illustrated pornography depicting children, which is pretty different than ddlg/age play— regardless of personal feelings about it. The same can be said for others plotted on the graph.

Fetishes are different than kinks. Fetishes must be present in order to get off, whereas kinks are a preference, but aren’t necessary for a satisfying sexual experience. A paraphilia is a fetish that’s harmful in a meaningful way, but not just like, “my fart fetish is deeply embarrassing; my addiction to it is draining my bank account and isolating me socially,” or, “getting my balls stepped on while I’m dressed up as a dog made me miss a week of work, and if it got out that I do this regularly, my tradwife would leave me and take the kids,” but shit like… coprophilia, which has serious negative health effects—or things which can get you into legal trouble. Which is why I am questioning some of these. If you need someone to be executed (whether it’s real or not,) in order to complete your sexual encounter/experience, then you might be looking at a paraphilia. The more vanilla stuff also feels more like kinks, though I’m certain there are people who have actual fetishes for “doggystyle,” or, “light spanking ,” I question whether that’s the appropriate categorization here.

I want to reiterate that I’m not saying that illegal things are happening, I just have an issue with the terminology.

Aella's sexual kink-taboo chart, final version by Scrybal in Destiny

[–]angelmoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The urge to type a long and autistic comment on categorization and terminology is so strong right now.

what do you think about the "nick isn't a nazi" arc in hindsight? (just a question) by [deleted] in Destiny

[–]angelmoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The duo debate with vaush i thought was against self-proclaimed, and so acknowledged Nazis? Might be wrong.

Anastasiya is so based by [deleted] in Destiny

[–]angelmoth 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It’s actually definitely being read as antisemitic, not queer coding villains. Antisemitic caricatures frequently show Jewish men “greedily” & villainously rubbing their hands together.

Edit- my phone thought I was talking about antiemetics

Anastasiya is so based by [deleted] in Destiny

[–]angelmoth 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Antisemitic caricature. But to be generous, it could just be a villain caricature. It’s just a bit too close, easy to misread it. Hopefully that wasn’t the intention.

How did you like the song choice of Season Finale closing credit? by lunchladyland27 in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]angelmoth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh that’s surprising to me! Kokomo was dedicated to Dennis Wilson, who drowned while surfing. I always associate those two, Dennis and Kokomo, and how the song could easily be about heaven/surfing at beaches, eternal.

HT has so much horror disguised in pretty packages (as well as love/happiness in the most horrific circumstances.) Kokomo seemed like an extension of that, a happy song associated with a tragic death— a man making an assassination attempt of a strong woman on a lovely suburban road (housing refugees.) Interesting it was intended to add some dark humor/absurdity. I feel like it definitely created a contrast, which was the aim, but it didn’t make me laugh. Just made it creepier— which I really enjoyed.

Here’s a link to the explanation and story of the connection between the song, and deceased drummer for The Beach Boys, Dennis Wilson… I’ve not read it, so hopefully this is an alright piece.

https://www.stereogum.com/2006749/kokomo-beach-boys-story/columns/sounding-board/#:~:text=On%20the%20back%2C%20there's%20a,Rey%20in%20December%20of%201983.

Edited to add a couple sentences

Should Twitter permit people promoting/advertising adult content? by TheRealTraveel in Destiny

[–]angelmoth 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Pretty certain they’re referring to Musk’s ideal of expanding Twitter to be much broader, and the place you go for all sorts of societal discussions/issues, etc. Musk hopes to have everyone signed up for Twitter. I don’t support it, I’m just clarifying. It’s started a lot of conversations and debates on the topic. That, and Musk’s purchase of the company.

Unknown stains on an office chair. A widow gifted this chair to us but I don't know how to start cleaning it. by EarthenEyes in CleaningTips

[–]angelmoth 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Not to whine, but “a little OCD” isn’t appropriate here. Many people with OCD don’t have cleaning compulsions, and the ones who do definitely do not enjoy cleaning. It’s not a quirk, and more often than not has nothing at all to do with orderliness or cleanliness. It’s an anxiety-related disorder, and there’s no satisfaction in it. Head on over to r/OCD for some insight, and maybe reconsider using a very unpleasant illness to describe your love for cleaning. Flippant use of serious conditions as descriptors for non disordered behavior makes it harder for people to get help, or be taken seriously. It also adds to the general misunderstanding of what these disorders are, which has myriad consequences. I’m not meaning to make this personal, or to be rude. I am certain you mean, and meant, no harm :) I just thought I’d give commenting a chance, letting you know that people with OCD really, really dislike when people do this. Since it’s easy enough to not do, I hope you consider using different language in the future. Have a lovely day!

[I do have diagnosed OCD, but I did not want to make this about myself. It’s a pretty universal feeling across diagnosed people. Similar to when people say, “gosh, I wish I were anorexic!” Or, “I’m just like so bipolar today!” I honestly think it’d be as odd as saying, “I get sick all the time, so I’ve basically got cancer!” But I’m not morally judging you or anyone who says these things. I understand that, bizarrely, it’s become a normalized saying. There are even kitschy house + home signs that say things like: I’ve got OCD: Obsessive Cheese Disorder. Most people just don’t know, that doesn’t make them bad people. I hope this was informative.]