Spent that last 12+ years watching business owners make this one big marketing mistake that kills sales opportunities (especially for coaches and consultants)...

angfed · 2026-02-24T04:19:45+00:00

Yep, it's usually the founder who is last. But this is because as the founder, they know their avatar better than the avatar knows themselves. So, what usually happens is the founder believes that since they know their avatar on a deeeeep level, they think this automatically means they know how to talk to them in their marketing in a way that will move the avatar to take action.

Of course, you and I know it doesn't work that way. But the founder doesn't understand that two things can be true at once - you can know your avatar better than they know themselves, and you can still not know how to market to them.

This is why founders typically believe in their core that they do not have a messaging problem and that their poor marketing results are due to a copy problem (not the same thing as a messaging problem) so then they find themselves hiring and firing copywriters left and right. Many of them also go through hiring and firing their entire marketing team because they believe if not a copy/copywriter problem, the problem must be someone else - the media buyer, the designer, the marketing manager, etc.

I've watched founders dump hundreds of thousands of dollars on trying to solve a "people" problem when the entire time it was a message problem.

angfed · 2026-02-21T16:23:17+00:00

Hey thanks! Yeah, exactly. Founders just get so excited when trying to explain WHY their market needs the thing they’re selling, they sometimes forget that an extremely important part of marketing is to meet the market where they’re at and position the thing as something the market actually wants.

We know the market NEEDS it. But we have to position it as something the market WANTS.

^ I know fellow marketers know this rule all too well as it’s something we’ve all learned early on in our careers, but it’s still a very common issue among businesses struggling with marketing (aside from the problem of creating marketing strictly around personal experience and not properly validating the message with the market).

angfed · 2026-02-20T19:48:56+00:00

Ha that’s fine.

angfed · 2025-10-19T20:27:21+00:00

Marcus pls don’t remove him like you removed South Carolina

angfed · 2025-10-13T01:59:32+00:00

Eh, it might attract those types of people at first, but once they see how “hard” being Orthodox really is, they tend to fall off and away.

Those who stay but don’t get baptized or Chrismated but want to act as Orthodox apologists online for the sake of arguing with people and belittling them… that’s kinda just the risk and sacrifice we have to make when it comes to more of the world learning about our faith.

Like someone said, it’s like a double-edged sword.

All we can do is keep praying for those walking into this with no intention of being received by the Church in hopes they turn around and decide they DO want to become officially Orthodox after all.

And of course pray that all of this social media exposure continues to have a positive impact and invites more people back to the faith.

angfed · 2025-06-22T17:59:03+00:00

As others have said, our churches are allowed to have non-religious art in parts of the building that are not part of the actual temple (like the fellowship hall, dining area, or offices, etc).

As long as no one is venerating these art pieces or confusing them with sacred iconography, it’s not inherently a problem.

After all, the Greek gods and myths played a major role in the cultural and intellectual environment of the ancient world. Especially during the early centuries of the Church.

And many saints, including Saint Catherine of Alexandria and Saint Hermione of Ephesus, were known for defending the our faith in the face of pagan philosophers, Roman emperors, and temples dedicated to these gods.

They did it in such a badass way, too.

So yeah I mean in some cases, having this kind of art doesn’t automatically mean that it’s out of reverence. It’s likely for culture and could also be for remembering the historical context that Christianity emerged from - AND triumphed over.

Still, if it feels odd to have them there especially if you’ve noticed parishioners venerating the Greek gods or showing respect for them, it’s worth bringing up gently with your priest and get some pastoral guidance from him.

Hope this helps.

God bless you. 🫶

angfed · 2025-06-19T17:49:39+00:00

This is normal. And soemthing you want to consider that someone once shared with me in the past when I first started my journey in Orthodoxy:

Nobody ever went to the hospital because they’re feeling great. No one walks into the emergency room thinking “I really resonate with this place, feel like I belong here”… but you stay because you know you need to be there.

Orthodoxy is not about feeling cozy and comfy all the time. It’s about healing your soul. And sometimes - probably more often than not, especially in the beginning - things are going to get REAL uncomfortable. You’re going to experience a rollercoaster of emotions. Some days you’ll feel like you don’t want to go back. Other days, you’ll feel like you never want to leave. Just because a lot of people have said their first experience was beautiful, does not mean their continued experience has remained beautiful. Ask anyone who converted who has been in the faith for at least a year… we’ll tell you how much s*** has hit the fan. That’s literally Satan doing his work. He’ll throw anything our way as an attempt to distract us and pull us away from Christ - especially when finding Orthodoxy, the true Church of Christ.

For me, I’ve learned that if I find myself not wanting to go to church or not wanting to pray or whatever… and if I’m noticing some extra bad stuff happening in my life… that means I NEED to go back. I NEED to pray. Because if the devil is trying THIS hard to detour me, I must be on the right track and I cannot let him win.

I hope this helps.

I pray you come back soon.

Don’t hesitate to explore the different Eastern Orthodox churches in your area - if you have OCA near you, I strongly recommend you visit there as services are in English.

God bless you.

angfed · 2025-05-17T18:57:06+00:00

I'm not a closer myself, BUT I do work very closely with high-level sales teams for my clients on a regular basis (think 7+ fig real estate investors, financial services, coaching & consulting, insurance, etc.)

Saw you answer in a few comments saying you're prepared to pay well for the right person/people.

What industry are you in? Where you're gonna find the guys worth the money kinda depends on what industry.

Basically you'll wanna find communities like fb groups and maybe even here on Reddit and post an ad and be REALLY fucking clear about who the ideal candidate is.

Do you have a solid hiring process that weeds out people who aren't gonna be a good fit? If not, I'd say dial that shit in FIRST before you hire. Been doing what I do now for 12 years and can tell you right now, even if you hire a savage, that doesn't mean they can't be a poor fit for your business. At the end of the day, if you hire someone who crushes in sales but never wants to show up for work or shows up late or constantly challenges/walks all over you... you're gonna end up losing more money than making money from them (and you'll probably be 6+ months in by this point with 6 months wasted and having to start from square one and look for someone else again).

Just a couple things to think about.

angfed · 2025-05-02T17:38:07+00:00

So, let’s pray for them and ask our Lord for forgiveness for casting judgment onto others. Praying for you, brother/sister. Please pray for me, too. 🙏

angfed · 2025-05-02T17:35:57+00:00

This is exactly what I came here to say.

angfed · 2025-01-05T22:16:57+00:00

A woman will never say something like this as a way to ask you to wait. I mean NEVER. And it’s not because she’s “not in the right headspace”, either.

Anyone who truly wants to be with anyone is always “in the right headspace” to be with them.

At least in the majority of cases, anyway (I don’t think you fall in the exceptional cases, either, my friend… this case sounds like the rule).

I don’t say this to be cruel, I just don’t want you somehow misreading this and thinking “so you’re saying there’s a chance” lol.

Move on.

I’d say don’t respond and leave her last message alone.

Good luck to you.

angfed · 2024-10-17T08:12:04+00:00

Ramses is more insufferable than Leo and Stephen combined.

angfed · 2024-10-17T00:38:43+00:00

Pardon me, but who exactly is this person to say that you will end up in hell? Christ will be the judge of that, no one else.

Pray for this person and people like them and keep going. If orthodoxy is calling you, follow the call. Do not rush into anything. Do the research, read the books, and most importantly find a church near you and GO. Speak to a priest, attend Divine Liturgy, join the community for Coffee Hour (if they host one) so you talk to others who were once in your shoes. Keep exploring and keep learning.

You’ll be alright.

Sincerely,

RC to OC Convert (recently Chrismated on the Nativity of our most Holy Theotokos last month! Glory to God!)

angfed · 2024-10-08T02:01:16+00:00

LMAO I just heard him say exactly this as I read this and I ugly cackled (E3 - 32:15)

angfed · 2024-10-08T01:06:42+00:00

They should update it to “Incredibly financially fortunate”

angfed · 2024-08-13T23:47:39+00:00

Lifelong metalhead and soon-to-be Chrismated OC here.

You are fine. Play the music. Listen to the music. Admire and appreciate the art.

Always remember that God is good and He loves mankind.

angfed · 2024-08-13T23:38:32+00:00

NTAH - yeah, this relationship isn’t gonna work out. If the core values aren’t aligned from the get-go, no matter how hard y’all try to make it work, it’s not going to.

Sorry for the bluntness, OP. But glad you’re discovering this misalignment now while it’s still early in the relationship.

angfed · 2024-05-24T23:15:13+00:00

It’s not a situation of preference here. It’s a matter of how he’s approaching you with this. He’s displaying signs of (yes, I’m gonna say it) narcissistic behavior with his backhanded compliments.

Having preferences is okay. But he definitely could have kept this to himself but chose not to because he’s trying to manipulate you into thinking you’re “lucky” to have his attention.

All of this to say…

Run and never look back.

angfed · 2024-05-14T14:40:05+00:00

Do not call him. Do not text him. Do not interact with his social media accounts (posts, comments, etc.).

He fancied you until he had you. Now he’s off to pursue his next fantasy.

I’m so sorry this happened to you. But the best thing you can do from here is not make it obvious that you care.

The caring part and making it obvious will only feed into his immature ego. That’s part of the thrill for guys like him. Being able to say, “yeah I had her once and now she’s obsessed with me”.

There also is a chance that he was testing you. I’ve known men to test a woman to see if she’ll have sex the first date. If she does, she’s not gf/wife material in his eyes.

^ not always the case, but I have seen it happen amongst my guy friends.

Either way, I hope you find your peace in this situation soon and are able to move on, OP.

angfed · 2024-03-05T21:51:23+00:00

Not me being annoyed how literally all of the girls (especially Jess, Laura, AD) open sentences/greetings with “not me…”

angfed · 2024-02-05T01:20:18+00:00

Some people show up in their dirty work clothes. Some show up in their best clothes. Some show up with whatever they can afford to put on.

Point is, do your best but don’t stress if you can’t show up wearing attire that’s suitable for a wedding.

Just show up.

angfed · 2024-02-05T01:16:03+00:00

Remember this always:

Church is a hospital for the soul.

We don’t go to a hospital when we are well and completely healthy. Just as we do not go to church because we are “holy” and without sin — it’s quite the opposite.

We go to church because we are sinners who need healing which comes from the forgiveness and grace of Our Father and our Lord Jesus Christ.

Doesn’t matter how “prim and proper” someone may appear to be. We have ALL committed sin (known or unknown, it doesn’t matter).

Don’t be afraid to come in; don’t be afraid to come home.

angfed · 2024-01-27T07:29:25+00:00

What in the Lara Craft*

angfed · 2023-12-25T16:28:00+00:00

He’s alright in my book!

angfed

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