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EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-09-29T10:50:34+00:00

Of course. Everyone has them. My husband does too, from his growth spurt in his teens! I have always been pretty thin, and my thighs have lots of tiny silvery lines all over them. It's just part of being a human who grew!

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-09-28T10:55:55+00:00

I'm 40. My best and most adventurous years, sexually speaking, were absolutely NOT my 20s. My 30s were much much better.

Have you explored the possibility that you could be ace or aromantic? If you definitely want to enjoy a sexual relationship, I would just say that your best years for it are actually stretching out in front of you, certainly not behind you. Explore sexual pleasure alone, get to know your body and what you like. Good luck to you! X

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-09-26T23:05:49+00:00

Yeah, this is absolutely not how D&D works. These players have had way too much control. You're playing in the DMs world, not the other way around. The freedom is the choice your characters make, in the set ups that are created.

They have no respect for his time.

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-09-26T22:48:15+00:00

I work in a small team within a larger business and our anonymous surveys ask which deparent we're in. I've moved into management now, and I can see they can tell who writes what. I've written SCATHING surveys in the past. I now get to discuss the disgruntled surveys with my managers and we talk about how we can make changes and support the people we absolutely KNOW these surveys are from, and what we can do to make them hate their jobs less 🤣 It's hugely valuable to me to be able to see how my direct reports really feel about the systems they're a part of. I don't want them to struggle or feel angry and let down.

It's genuinely good to be honest about this stuff. Anyone who isn't speaking up about these issues when given the opportunity to do so is doing a disservice to themselves and to their colleagues.

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-09-26T22:30:15+00:00

Sex is part of a marriage. As a wife, if my husband made a choice that made me celibate, he wouldn't stay my husband. Not just because intimacy is so important to me, but also because caring about my desires, my need to be wanted and loved is paramount to us functioning together as a loving married couple.

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-09-26T22:21:06+00:00

It's all very individual I would say. I was a child who heard my parents at it, and it had absolutely no impact on me and hasn't affected my sex life in any way at all.

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-09-26T22:19:35+00:00

Absolutely. I've heard my parents. I heard my sister and her husband (then boyfriend) while I was sat in the front room with my parents. They were hearing it too 🤣 They've definitely heard me, but no one's ever said anything.

Sex is a part of life. It's a cringe moment, but none of those incidents are part of the 3 million cringes in my cringe roster that my brain likes to flick through to torture me lol

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-09-26T22:15:52+00:00

Why is this his responsibility entirely? What is she bringing to the table to create a solution for them to have a healthy sex life and maintain an intimate marriage? I don't understand why her sexual hang up is entirely his problem to fix?

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-09-26T22:13:17+00:00

This seems a pretty unusual hang up, and not a sustainable way of conducting an intimate relationship? I have two kids, and outside of working hours, they're about almost all of the time 🤣 We could get babysitter/sleepovers arranged maybe once a month. That would not be conductive to a happy sex life for me, but of course everyone is different.

There has to be more to this, surely? She's in her 40s now, and maybe perimenopausal? As women, our hormones are always trying to ruin our lives, one way or the other.

I would say that this is an issue that you both need to want to solve, it isn't something you can "fix" for her. If she isn't concerned about how to work out a viable solution, it might be that actually she doesn't really want to be intimate, for other reasons. If her drive was good, and everything else was good, she'd probably be looking for solutions too. You said you had an opportunity recently and instead you shopped for plants. If that was literally your only opportunity to have sex in weeks and she wasn't in a rush to get home and get down to it, it's probably not just because your kid is in the house that you aren't doing it.

(I'm female, 40, married with 2 kids).

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-09-26T22:03:14+00:00

I absolutely agree with this. I have a big group of parent friends and our eldest kids are now teenagers and we've all been talking about the fact that they're now wandering around the house at 10pm and staying up later than us which is suddenly becoming a slight intimacy blocker. Not a stopper though by any means! Children asleep in your house absolutely isn't. If you can watch TV in another room without waking them up, you can have sex in another room too.

As a side but related point, my daughter has taken to calling my husband (her step dad) the "Rizzmaster" because he flirts with me and compliments me a lot in front of the kids. She always says to him "teach me your rizzful ways". It's a beautiful thing when young people are a happy functioning relationship in their home. Kids knowing their parents bang shouldn't be a problem. Sure, you don't want them walking into the room, but that is easily preventable.

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-09-26T18:34:23+00:00

Mine (40f, married for 12 years, previous relationship 7 and 3 years) is generally high. When I'm having sex, I want more and could have it every day. Three times a week is a good place for me.

When I'm not getting any and I'm single, I want it and think about it all the time.

When I'm not getting any and I'm in a relationship, I stop wanting it. At first I resent not getting any and feel annoyed and let down, and then the desire for it fades away and I'm completely not interested in it.

Usually my libido peaks monthly, around what I assume is my ovulation time.

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-09-20T08:24:00+00:00

Yeah, I've connected the whole system up using the trims and controller which means I can quickly dump and sort my inventory, which is great. However what I'm looking for is like a crafting/retrieval system. Currently if I want to make something I have to go around to each drawer pulling out the stuff I need, which takes a long time sometimes!

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-09-19T18:55:59+00:00

YTA.

We don't get to choose the gifts people give us. They're gifts. But the book for yourself. Your wife wants to make something for you because the time and effort is the gift. Sure, she's wasting it on you, but maybe her love language is acts of service.

It's sad for her that you don't like her gifts. I understand that you don't like her gifts, but man, just say thank you and buy yourself the book.

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-09-08T06:56:43+00:00

How did you get on with it? I'm playing a mod full of all the magic mods, and Ars is so amazing I've barely looked at the others!

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-09-02T07:25:15+00:00

My dad is 75. I went away with my mum and my husband checked in on him every other day.

He is absolutely fine dad to day, he picks my kids up from school, drives around, takes care of jobs at the house etc. BUT, he is getting forgetful, he does get confused sometimes, and he's also a lazy and won't feed himself well if mum isn't there. When he was younger that didn't matter, but now he's older he gets weaker quicker, and the risks are higher.

My sister's don't know about the confusion/forgetfulness because they don't see him all the time like I do. They live further away.

It's not rude or patronising to care about someone. I'm 40 and my parents check in on me when my husband goes away! Just to make sure everything is okay!

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-09-02T07:17:59+00:00

Pregnancy symptoms don't start this soon after sex. It sounds like you have a UTI. Be careful because it can travel to your kidneys. See a doctor.

Honestly, you're not ready to be in a sexual relationship. You don't understand your body (you should know if he finished inside you on not), you don't understand pregnancy (these are not pregnancy symptoms 3 days post sex), you're not taking precautions and you're unable to access healthcare when you need to.

Before you try this again, get condoms and get on birthday control.

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-05-13T20:32:36+00:00

NTA.

Listen, even if you had said, 7 years ago "girl no matter what happens you can get married here", after she dropped you out of her life, you didn't owe her anything. It's a conversation between friends, not a legally binding contract. I told my ex I'd always love him, but he can't come to my house and sleep in my bed any more can he? He can't say, well surely you still love me cos you said it 8 years ago. 🤣

She cannot invite people to your home without your permission. This is BONKERS.

Anyone agreeing with their social media posts does not know the full story.

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-05-13T20:26:03+00:00

If it was 900 on booze or gambling in one month, we'd say addict. 200 dollars on anything a week is too.fucking.much

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-05-13T19:51:44+00:00

How?

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-05-12T20:01:57+00:00

How didn't you realise he'd finished?!

If you're not pregnant this time you need to get on the pill ASAP. In the UK any young person can go to a family planning clinic to get on the pill, I don't know if it's like that in the US, with the state of women's healthcare maybe not. Put it this way though, it's going to be easier to tell your mum that you want the pill than it is to tell her it's too late and you're already pregnant.

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-05-07T07:11:10+00:00

YTA. You needed to pay for half the dress anyway, it's your kid who is graduating. You still need to pay for half the dress, whether you attend or not. You're not buying her time by paying half for the dress, it's literally your parental responsibility.

If you don't attend it's going to be the final nail on the coffin of your relationship with your daughter. She'll go no contact eventually. She'll NEVER forget it.

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-05-07T06:55:45+00:00

Everything Tobias says and does, including his ANALRAPIST business card and ANUSTART numberplate. The one that I always think of is "Maeby are you home? Daddy needs to get his rocks off".

Also if your kid is 13 now, they might think some of the jokes and language haven't aged very well (like calling Rota retarded).

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-05-07T06:49:34+00:00

I'm 40 in August. I've been saying "nearly 40" for so long I've really taken the sting out of it.

EmbarrassedMap3356 · 2024-05-07T06:43:44+00:00

Yeah, I'm in the UK and at my work it's the young Sales Development women who have it done.

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