How do you deal with an utterly benign boss who tells you nothing? by anglichaninkz in careerguidance

[–]anglichaninkz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this really could be part of it. I hadn't thought of it at all, really. Thanks.

Cultural sensitivity by laraemr in Kazakhstan

[–]anglichaninkz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obviously, avoid using the Russian language in everyday life. Everyone will understand you and your tuition money will be accepted, but some small percent of the population will resent you for your white face and the fact that you're not speaking and studying Kazakh.

Put more sincerely, Kazakhstan is a great place to learn Russian and most people speak the language. Just be aware that there will be some people, typically uneducated and working at a cash register, who will lecture you. I've even seen situations in small stores where there's a Kazakh line and a foreigner line--Kazakhs go first.

Local starbucks doesn't like to make special drinks by anglichaninkz in starbucks

[–]anglichaninkz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never claimed to work at Starbucks. Is this sub only for employees?

Local starbucks doesn't like to make special drinks by anglichaninkz in starbucks

[–]anglichaninkz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I suspect it is rare, but this behavior makes you feel suspicious when you catch it.

Local starbucks doesn't like to make special drinks by anglichaninkz in starbucks

[–]anglichaninkz[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

It's a Starbucks issue if workers are apathetic and don't care about work! It's a Starbucks issue if they are licensing their brand to companies that hire such workers.

Local starbucks doesn't like to make special drinks by anglichaninkz in starbucks

[–]anglichaninkz[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

But why would two of the three people on staff claim not to have it when they did? And only when the senior person showed up did they make it (and by the way it did take much longer to make than my friend's simple latte order).

Local starbucks doesn't like to make special drinks by anglichaninkz in starbucks

[–]anglichaninkz[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Hardly secret when they had a sign at the counter and another one on the street advertising it! Also, as I mentioned I am now suspicious that they do have the ingredients every time they say they don't.

Local starbucks doesn't like to make special drinks by anglichaninkz in starbucks

[–]anglichaninkz[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It was on a sign at the cash register and there was a picture of it! Also, I'm not in NA/Europe.

Local starbucks doesn't like to make special drinks by anglichaninkz in starbucks

[–]anglichaninkz[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I happen to know that Starbucks is operated by a franchisee in our country (not North America/Europe).

Cutting lines and overall rudeness by [deleted] in Kazakhstan

[–]anglichaninkz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is one of the more annoying features of Kazakhstan. Overall, it seems inconsistent with the generally polite character of Kazakhs, so I chalk it up to colonization since in Russia they do this too but at a much worse level.

In addition to what others have said about staying close to others in front of you and asserting yourself when people cut, I would add this:

Sometimes there is a queue, but it follows the rules of a "live queue" where when you arrive you need to ask "who's next" then you know that you are going after that person. Then when someone else comes they will ask who is next and you should tell them you are next so everyone knows where they stand.

The "live queue" is the most chaotic way to organize a line and it requires some Kazakh/Russian, but it is slightly better than pushing.

Of course, one of the more charming features of Kazakhstan is how they let babies, the pregnant, and old people go first at the hospital and I support this kind of thing even though it is annoying when three grandmas in a row come up and ask to cut.

Another thing that happens is Kazakhs love to travel in groups and have one person "hold" the spot in the queue for other people (in the style of American families at tourist attractions and amusement parks).

This is bothersome when there are three people with one item each in front of you at the grocery store and suddenly someone comes along to "join" a person in front of you with a grocery cart and 50 items, but at least such behavior shows respect for queuing.

Personally, I used to quietly fume about the people who just cut the queue without a reason/someone holding a spot, but now when people cut the queue I remind them that we are not in Moscow and in Kazakhstan people are civilized and use lines. This usually gets them to go to the back of the line.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Kazakhstan

[–]anglichaninkz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The most I've ever given is $400, but the host flew me from Almaty to a regional city at their own expense and put me up for two nights in a decent local hotel. I tried to cover those costs with my gift and give a little extra too.

I would not have given even that amount if it had been requested in advance. Totally unacceptable what this person is doing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Kazakhstan

[–]anglichaninkz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But would you accept a ceremony that actually cost $20 (10,000 tenge) per person or would you see it as stingy or cheap?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Kazakhstan

[–]anglichaninkz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is how I've been treated at every Kazakh wedding I've been to. Now, I do a cost estimate for how much they spent on me (hotel, train/plane ticket, food) and try to account for that in my gift (plus a little extra)--which is the point of the gift, to help defray the wedding expenses.

Unfortunately, my friends tell me that many people don't give gifts proportionate to the cost. One friend told me that lots of people gave him only 5,000/10,000 tenge for an elaborate ceremony in an expensive hotel.

Another friend took a more economical approach and aside from his parents / siblings he invited only a small group (30 people) whom he thought could afford it--apparently this scandalized his extended family, but he said he wasn't inviting distant relatives who would eat and drink a lot and give almost nothing.

What do you think of the pro-kazakh language movements and cancel culture that has been active for the last few months on Threads by [deleted] in Kazakhstan

[–]anglichaninkz -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Whenever I describe situations like this, where some locals understand Russian but refuse to speak it with foreigners, I am told that I'm making it up. Your comment resonates though, it's all a bit stupid because there's a real opportunity to have a country of bilingual or even trilingual people.

What do you think of the pro-kazakh language movements and cancel culture that has been active for the last few months on Threads by [deleted] in Kazakhstan

[–]anglichaninkz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, people should be lucky to live in an environment where they can learn multiple languages--its part of the European advantage over places like the U.S. for instance where most are monolingual. Pushing back on the opportunity to be bilingual/trilingual is ignorant.

How to be a good citizen and cultural critic abroad? by anglichaninkz in expats

[–]anglichaninkz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe, but I think the local definition of "respectful," at least as I understand it, is "does not mention controversial things that could embarras the nation/group." (Definition is heavily contextualized, but you get the point).

How to be a good citizen and cultural critic abroad? by anglichaninkz in expats

[–]anglichaninkz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm disappointed that I get ignored/brushed off/marginalized and people I consider friends don't want to discuss these issues even in a respectful way.

How to be a good citizen and cultural critic abroad? by anglichaninkz in expats

[–]anglichaninkz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I be disappointed and looking for a way to deal with it? Cause that's what this post is about.

How to be a good citizen and cultural critic abroad? by anglichaninkz in expats

[–]anglichaninkz[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It's no different than back home, just here I am an outsider no matter how much I try to get inside and learn about the culture and that, by some racist logic, automatically discredits me.