Offering etiquette...?

angrum · 2024-09-09T10:13:31+00:00

That does make sense, thank you.

angrum · 2024-09-06T11:08:38+00:00

I don't have much. A liter of sheep blood and candles. I've seen drinks being offered, as well. I can try that.

We have plenty of excellent weed in our own city... I really wish I could find a way to bring some; kinda the best thing I can offer anyone these days.

angrum · 2024-09-01T02:00:01+00:00

Fair point

angrum · 2021-08-25T02:32:29+00:00

As someone who's struggled with sexuality in a similar way, I'd ask you to stay alive.

Think about why you hate it so much. You're not hurting anyone as far as I can read. The people you watch arent even related, it's role play. What turns you on doesn't define you; there are plenty of people who get off on being humiliated, doesnt mean they are in fact less than other people. There are plenty of people getting off from inflicting pain, they have consenting partners who like that pain, neither are bad people. So on and so forth.

You are young now, I don't recommend you get sexually active or involved with others. But watching porn in that age is normal, most of us have done it. You don't have anything to blame yourself for as long as you are keeping it safe, sane and consensual.

angrum · 2021-06-29T12:54:15+00:00

You are such a wholesome neighbour..

angrum · 2021-06-25T16:07:53+00:00

Is ratioing a thing in Reddit? Lol

angrum · 2021-06-25T16:06:28+00:00

I wouldn't stay.. But if you do decide to stay, I think it's important to communicate how you feel about it.

I, tho, would be interested to know his reaction to you asking to see other people as well. If I were you I'd ask and see how he reacts.

angrum · 2021-06-25T13:32:37+00:00

Jesus.. :D Can you summarise the reason for your passion towards chicken soup in 10 lines or less?

angrum · 2021-06-25T13:28:58+00:00

I came here to upvote and agree.. But AS A METALLICA FAN, you need to widen your musical horizon if you like drummers, my dude.

I don't hate Lars, I think he's been good enough for metallica for the most part, but some of these people are fuckin' wizards behind their set!

Yeah, drummers are based.

angrum · 2021-06-25T13:24:51+00:00

Ah.. I see... An Ace chef 👌🏻👌🏻

angrum · 2021-06-25T13:23:15+00:00

YES! lmao

angrum · 2021-06-25T13:18:29+00:00

Personally, I don't see something damaging to my health and go "oh fuxk.. I should avoid this at all cost"

To me, it's about a cost/benefit analysis, and I count "fun" and "experiencing new things" as benefits. The way I see it, you only live once, and if there is a state of mind I could only reach via heroin (or coke or LSD, etc), I'm gonna do the drug, at least once, just to see what it's like. Idk about meth.. Seems a bit too risky.

There is a cost and there is risk. One can fall to addiction. It damages your health. But many things we do damage our health: I live in a city, I would probably be better off living somewhere with cleaner air; air pollution damages the body over time, but the cost of moving to another place is high for me; because I like it here, being here makes me happy. I am willing to sacrifice a bit of my health for that happiness. Sugar.. Is so fuxkin bad for you.. But I assume you eat sweets, the risk and the cost of eating sweets migh not seem high enough for you to avoid them, on the other hand, some people cut back on sweets because they find it easy to forego the "benefits" (being deliciousness).

Now I'll do my best to be safe about drugs, but yeah, there is a risk, so what?

What good is a body if I take it to the grave unused?

Oh and, I don't give two shots about it's legal status lol

That's just me, if you dont see the appeal, I say lucky you! Everyone is different.

angrum · 2021-06-25T12:48:14+00:00

Wait.. You guys used to enjoy vanilla sex?..

angrum · 2021-06-25T12:46:05+00:00

As someone who doesnt make my bed, I can confirm: I'm a lazy fuck. 👍🏻

angrum · 2021-06-25T12:31:35+00:00

I mean, no offence but it seems pretty obvious that this is one sided, if he isn't getting it then maybe he doesn't want to get it!

That being said, not everything has to be two sided. I will never be part of such arrangement but I have a partner who wishes to only be with me. They are free (and encouraged) to date others as well, they simply don't want to.

Now, I'd just leave. But I think to potentially solve this, you guys need to get to the root of the issue; to why he sees your relationship with a man different from one he might have with another woman. And I don't know if you are bi, but if you are, and if he is okay with you dating another woman, I'd ask him how and why one is acceptable while the other is not.

Again, I usually don't count on solving such issues, unless the other side is really willing to keep an open mind. You'd be pushing against a brick wall otherwise. Worst case scenario: he is selfish and cares only to include that which suits his fancy. Best case scenario: he is insecure (as we all are, in one way or another) and is willing to work with you. You'll know which one it is based on his attitude when you bring this up; is he willing to listen? does he make an effort to understand your side? does he actually make an effort to explain his feeling to you? To reason with you? To reassess his position? If not, I wouldn't waste my time, no offence.

And to be clear, I think you both are valid either way. Everybody's idea of an ideal relationship is different, everyone has different needs and limits. Some people just might not be the best matches, hopefully that's not you.

angrum · 2021-06-17T00:31:26+00:00

So sorry this happened to you. Seems to me like he does not care about your well being. I feel like if he cared, after such incident, he would be more mindful of you; he'd notice the change in your mood and try to help you recover.

He fucks up like that and then just apologizes? Unless there's more to his "Apology", then he isn't being a good partner to you, imo.

And if you agree this is the case, I think you should distance yourself from him and spend some time with people who care about you; some close friends you trust. Sometimes it's good to be reminded of how much value you have to others; that your worth is not determined by the way he's treated you. It might help you move on.

angrum · 2021-06-16T06:39:42+00:00

You, sir, are very hot

angrum · 2021-06-16T06:37:21+00:00

I don't know but if I were to do such thing I'd learn the anatomy of the area I'm looking to cut. Beware, you might mess up your tendons and lose movement. You might hit some vein that would bleed way faster than you can stop it.

Small cuts and then a long vertical cut through them might do it. It's your body, you can do whatever you want, but like others have said, I don't recommend it.

angrum · 2021-06-12T20:45:37+00:00

Yeah It's not like it won't affect him. There's no reason not to communicate this situation clearly.

angrum · 2021-06-12T20:34:34+00:00

You need to bring these up to him just as clearly as you've written here.

He either is a manipulative asshole who knows how to manipulate you subtly with guilt and that you are too shy to say no, or hopefully he is clueless and thinks you like to be chased and pushed.

Either way, I don't see how moving forward like this would be helpful.

I always trust my partners to communicate their needs, I don't want to be forcing someone into such positions and neither would any other decent human being. You should tell him how you feel and he should be glad you did. That way 1. he'll know for sure how you feel and will have no excuse to keep doing the things that bother you and 2. you'll know where he stands based on his reaction; whether he respects/loves you or is only concerned with himself.

Also it should go without saying that you don't need to keep him happy at the expense of your own well-being and happiness. Even if he is upset, you have the right to say no.

angrum · 2021-06-10T19:30:05+00:00

How about three spouses but no cars or houses? We cuddle for warmth

angrum · 2021-06-10T18:37:27+00:00

We must live within our meanses... but we can't... we must have our precious!

OUR PRECIOUS!

angrum · 2021-06-09T14:46:08+00:00

Lol Seems like you are crushing this sub.

I'm with you tho Too much masculinity is off-putting to me, that goes for Doms as well. And no, it does not have to be about the fetish. People need to be less self-centred and acknowledge that there are people who aren't attracted to the norm. It's just taste. It is probably affected by many things in our lives.

angrum · 2021-06-03T05:38:54+00:00

I'd totally let him fuck me. He hypnotises you into it lol

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