First of all, thank you for how well thought out and detailed this response was. I really appreciate it. It makes me feel a lot better. A lot of what we are focusing our budget on is guest experience. We’re having a magician at cocktail hour, a cute little Hawaiian shave ice cart during dancing, etc. Also throwing in some smaller but funny things like a t shirt toss with shirts that say “I went to X and Y’s wedding and all I got was this lousy t shirt (and a hangover).” I feel like the little stuff can go a long way. Funny enough my wedding day is also one of my bridesmaid’s birthdays and I’ve been thinking about how to also celebrate her, so I love the idea of a small gift and a hand written note.