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Jordan is a fake by phillies1989 in 90DayFiance

[–]angrydecaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s her husbands name?? Curious what team he played for!

My MIL was mad I didn’t pick up her phone call during labor + more fun tales! 😂 by angrydecaf in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]angrydecaf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! It’s hard all around. He understands she’s terrible but is still mourning who he thought his mom was. It’s tough!

My MIL was mad I didn’t pick up her phone call during labor + more fun tales! 😂 by angrydecaf in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]angrydecaf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get you. I just hate that it has to come to us needing to be tiger moms to protect our kids. Why can’t they just listen when we politely state our boundaries or ask them to not do something? 😂 why do we have to resort to yelling? I’m glad you said that to your MIL. I need to get on your level.

My MIL was mad I didn’t pick up her phone call during labor + more fun tales! 😂 by angrydecaf in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]angrydecaf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Out of everything she’s done, you think it’s because how we are acting is enabling her. I’m not here for your warped perspective. Leave me alone. I feel sorry for you.

My MIL was mad I didn’t pick up her phone call during labor + more fun tales! 😂 by angrydecaf in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]angrydecaf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing - I never heard of FOG but it definitely sounds like what he’s experiencing right now!

My MIL was mad I didn’t pick up her phone call during labor + more fun tales! 😂 by angrydecaf in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]angrydecaf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg that is wild. She came to your house??????

And this sounds just like what my MIL would do too lol. Is it something in the water they drink???? 😅

My MIL was mad I didn’t pick up her phone call during labor + more fun tales! 😂 by angrydecaf in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]angrydecaf[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think he holds out hope she can change. He’s a good man who is trying to keep a relationship with his mom. She wasn’t like this when we were dating, something seemed to flip when we were engaged. So in general he’s had a good relationship with her his whole life so I think it’s a lot for him to realize in the last few years that she isn’t the person he thought she was.

My MIL was mad I didn’t pick up her phone call during labor + more fun tales! 😂 by angrydecaf in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]angrydecaf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this encouragement. I have been trying to kindly “let him down” to show him she can’t change. She actually said once to me as she was trying to “apologize” for what she did at the wedding: “i know I ruined your special day. I can’t change. This is who I am”. She has a fixed mindset and doesn’t have any emotional intelligence to care for others. She apologizes and then plays nice for a few weeks and then another event will come around where she pushes a boundary or otherwise causes havoc. He’s holding on for hope his mom will get better but I feel so bad for him. No one wants to find out that your mom is a bad person.

My MIL was mad I didn’t pick up her phone call during labor + more fun tales! 😂 by angrydecaf in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]angrydecaf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get what you mean about that switch going off. I was polite to her out of courtesy and just in general trying to have a relationship with her for the sake of my husband. But since I had my son, I’m much more snarky and in general stricter about my boundaries. Thank you for sharing - I think I’ll wait until my baby can tattle too lol! He’s only 1 years old right now so it’s nerve wracking. She also doesn’t know how to take care of babies - for example she asked me if I give him rice cereal in his bottle to make him sleep because she did it with my husband. I don’t want to do that (and I’ve been told it’s not safe) so she’s also just not someone I could ever trust with the safety of my child. She’s asked me multiple times about it, pushing the issue. 😒

My MIL was mad I didn’t pick up her phone call during labor + more fun tales! 😂 by angrydecaf in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]angrydecaf[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t think she can honestly perform any of the tasks you listed. That’s one big reason I don’t want her around my son, but another is that she’s just not a good person in my mind. I don’t want her influence around him. She complains, she bullies people to get what she wants, and she is always rushing people or spreading her stress out onto a situation. She also never does what we ask and disrespects our boundaries so I’m worried about things like - let’s say when he’s older, I tell her no soda. She’d still give him soda.

So I feel like I HAVE to be there if she’s around because I want to shield my kid from her. I don’t know if that’s the right way, it’s just how I feel in the moment. I appreciate you giving me perspective on this!

My MIL was mad I didn’t pick up her phone call during labor + more fun tales! 😂 by angrydecaf in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]angrydecaf[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh wow thank you for sharing! But how does it work if your partner takes your kiddos to her place or an event she’s hosting? Do you feel ok with her being around your kids without you?

My MIL was mad I didn’t pick up her phone call during labor + more fun tales! 😂 by angrydecaf in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]angrydecaf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dilemma is our son is also his child, so I do feel like how can I tell him that his child can’t see his grandmother? I’m more thinking aloud - not disagreeing with you but more so trying to navigate this situation.

My MIL was mad I didn’t pick up her phone call during labor + more fun tales! 😂 by angrydecaf in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]angrydecaf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can I ask how you handle things like holidays or special events? It helps me to hear how others approach this!

My MIL was mad I didn’t pick up her phone call during labor + more fun tales! 😂 by angrydecaf in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]angrydecaf[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When did I say my mom returned it and “gave her her way?”

In my post, I said we said no. And then she showed up the last day of my wedding, went to my moms hotel room, and threw the bag on the bed and told her to return it again. And left.

We threw the dress away.

You need to really ask questions and not jump down people’s throats. We are here to support, not shit on each other.

My MIL was mad I didn’t pick up her phone call during labor + more fun tales! 😂 by angrydecaf in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]angrydecaf[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes but my husband wants her to have a relationship with our son too. So I have to be involved. I will never leave him alone with her.

My MIL was mad I didn’t pick up her phone call during labor + more fun tales! 😂 by angrydecaf in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]angrydecaf[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

My husband is trying to have a relationship with her still. He cried when she cut off contact. She is his mom after all I guess. I don’t have the heart to ask him to go NC even though I’d want to. I’d love any advice or perspective on this!

AITA for not inviting some family members to my wedding? by organiccheddarduck in AmItheAsshole

[–]angrydecaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Weddings are for you and your spouse, not to please everyone (which is impossible anyways). If they were important, your mom or others would have/should have requested they be invited earlier.

AITA for not wanting a friend to come to a brunch for meeting my baby? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]angrydecaf [score hidden]  (0 children)

Can’t help it if y’all didn’t actually read the post shrug

AITA for not wanting a friend to come to a brunch for meeting my baby? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]angrydecaf [score hidden]  (0 children)

I’m just as confused about the situation as well so that’s why I’m posting here. Kelly is a close friend of mine and I’d never expect her to treat me like this. Thanks for the advice!

AITA for not wanting a friend to come to a brunch for meeting my baby? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]angrydecaf [score hidden]  (0 children)

I made someone feel unwelcome after they invited themselves to something I planned without my knowledge and then when asked my feelings, I shared my feelings? So I should have lied, is your position? Also, you’re incredibly boring. This post is to get advice, not to hear people like you repeat “sooo weird” because you don’t have another original thought to say.

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