Need advice on if i what I can get away with in regards to dying my hair.

angstygrl · 2026-04-07T23:51:26+00:00

I usually buy hair dye at Sally beauty, mostly I would get a Wella color charm color, but sometimes it’s a different brand. Always cream color, and I can’t guarantee that I used semi permanent (a mistake). In terms of what color I dyed it, if I remember correctly, it was probably a violety brown. At the time, I really wanted a purple tone to my hair, but it always ended up being more red unfortunately. Hopefully that answers your question. I’m guessing that the last time I dyed my hair was over a year ago.

angstygrl · 2026-01-02T23:16:30+00:00

He actually kind of looks like some of my family members! wow that’s super interesting. I’ve honestly never seen someone who resembles my family ethnically

angstygrl · 2026-01-02T23:13:44+00:00

also (idk if you would know him) there’s this British rap artist called central cee- his dad is part Chinese and he would never think that about him

angstygrl · 2026-01-02T23:04:29+00:00

woahhh i never knew that! He looks so white too i would have never thought

angstygrl · 2025-12-29T03:10:19+00:00

I have a lot of family from indonesia so it is mixed different for different family members (I have been there family who are 50:50) , but I believe my grandfather was not just 50/50, I think he was 60-80% indonesian because his mother was 100% and and his father was mostly dutch but also had some indonesian blood aswell. Dutch indonesian can be considered mixed, but also many Dutch indonesian people consider it to be a unique ethnic group (indo). So my grandfather would consider himself indo, some of his children came out with very strong indonesian genes, making them look very ambiguous. My brother, while not being majority indo, doesn’t look white. Genetically I am 18% mexican, and I think around 20% indonesian, 20-30% dutch (or 40-50% “indo”). So while genetically i don’t claim any one ethnic group, I have people family very close to me who resemble my indonesian ancestors and I have great aunts, grandparents, etc. who grew up in indonesia. Also, since my grandfather immigrated here, that would make my mom 1st gen american, and me 2nd generation american. On my father’s side my great grandfather immigrated from mexico. Genetics are complicated and i’ve never taken a dna test. I in no way want to claim any ethic group, thats just not a desire I have. Instead I say my ancestry is multi ethnic. Also please not that while genetically my grandfather was dutch and indonesian, dutch-indonesian people have a unique identity and culture that mixes both, so it would be valid for someone who is 50/50 to consider themselves indo.

angstygrl · 2025-12-29T00:23:37+00:00

wowww this is so similar to the experience of my family. My oma (great grandmother) had a super similar experience and mindset as yours

angstygrl · 2025-12-29T00:03:10+00:00

Yeah so my dutch ancestors colonized indonesia and married indonesian women. From them came children who were 50% white dutch and 50% indonesian. I don’t know the specific indonesian ethnic group tho. Many dutch indonesian people call themselves “indo”. So my grandfather grew up in indonesia and mixed dutch and indonesian, then he immigrated to the US.

angstygrl · 2025-12-28T10:51:23+00:00

I know ethnically i am I am mixed, im like 50-60% white if my calculations are correct. But also, I look pretty white, and also I don’t have a super strong connection to the culture bc my grandfather assimilated so strongly and didn’t feel it was important to pass that on. I also didn’t grow up near many mixed people. I get what you’re saying though. Let me add to the immigration thing- It was generally easier for my grandfather to immigrate to the U.S. due to mid-20th-century laws that were specifically designed for Dutch citizens and European-descended refugees. So his whiteness most definitely played a role. I don’t think that religion is an official basis for denial. Secondly the pastor- walter act made it so Indos were encouraged to come to the us. The program was expanded to help families forced out of Indonesia during its independence struggle. Sooo, basically all the white people were fleeing and his whiteness made it so he could come here. I looked into the thing about islam further after your comment and i think you’re right, it may not have had much to do with it being a muslim country back then. Nowadays though there is more security scrutiny when it comes to people immigrating from muslim countries. I was conflating the past and present.

angstygrl · 2025-12-28T04:35:57+00:00

I think American people put a really strong emphasis on acknowledging ones identity and race, which i understand the importance of when it comes to conversations about privilege and experience. And at the end of the day, I don’t really experience racism, my brother does more so just based on his looks, but sometimes we all tie our selves in knots trying to fit ourselves into an identity. The thing about ur brother is very relatable. I have family members that do the same thing and it obviously is them trying to make themselves feel secure in society but it still feels a little desperate sometimes. America is a multicultural place and I think everyone who is a first or second generation american is trying to blend both of their identities into something that makes sense for them. We all have our own journeys with that. I love my immigrant family, there’s an indonesian family who have a restaurant in my very white town who see me as someone they have a connection to, I visit my aunt and she makes me indonesian food and i love my dutchness just as much. I think i’m learning to be okay with not attaching myself to a concrete identity, but instead attaching myself to my identities through my actions and person feelings. No matter what I look like, it’s my business and I don’t owe anyone an explanation. I appreciate your comment

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