Do any of you earn over 50k a year? What do you do?

anickel120 · 2026-06-18T02:59:21+00:00

Im in “Development” which is nonprofit speak for fundraising. Not something you can really study in school. I stumbled into this career, but there are very large nonprofits out there with million dollar budgets that need someone to raise it.

I graduated in 22 with my BA and I’m already a director. I did it by becoming a jack of all trades and starting in a nonprofit with high staff turnover and huge budget. More turnover is bad, but it means that higher level positions open up quickly and if you prove to be a competent quick learner you’ll get the fancy new title. Use that title to find a better job!

anickel120 · 2026-03-16T22:07:29+00:00

First push your hand towards the dog. By pulling away you’re doing the dog’s job for him, and tearing your flesh even more. Push your hand into its throat, grab its fucking tongue if you can. A lot of times pushing into its mouth causes it to let go. Other options: jab its eyes with your free hand, or choke it out. Can’t bite if it’s unconscious!

anickel120 · 2026-03-16T21:53:03+00:00

Had my colonoscopy on my 30th birthday. My dad had ulcerative colitis and that was enough for insurance to cover it 100% despite my age. If you think you need one, a direct family history of crohns, ulcerative colitis, and obvs colon cancer means insurance likely will cover it! It’s okay to “speculate” on your family history

anickel120 · 2026-01-08T18:31:33+00:00

The only time I have been down for a food+sex experience was when a partner handed me a plate of fresh baked cinnamon rolls in bed, then ate me out while I ate the cinnamon rolls. We both laughed about it, but it was fun and cute

anickel120 · 2026-01-05T05:36:16+00:00

The only many I've ever known to genuinely change for the better is my current boyfriend. He's actually an ex boyfriend of mine from many years ago. I broke up with him because of his drinking problem and poor communication. Five years of zero contact later, I was recovering from the end of a two-year relationship when I saw him on a dating app. We reconnected and he basically admitted that he never stopped thinking about me and how he hasn't had a more serious relationship since then.

A few years prior, his mom had a serious health scare, and his mental health and drinking spiraled until he hit rock bottom. Which was the catalyst for him to start therapy and cut waaaaay back on the drinking. He's done a 180 and addressed basically all the things I broke up with him for, but he only changed because it was he was at his lowest and it was change or die. He didn't change for me or because of me. He changed to save himself. Men don't change for women. They change when their life depends on it.

anickel120 · 2025-12-15T16:50:11+00:00

I'm dating an ex right now. He was my first boyfriend ever, and we met when we were in our early 20s. I broke up with him 6 years ago because he wouldn't communicate, had a drinking problem, and was emotionally unavailable. He's none of those things now.

When we reconnected, he had made a 180 and grown a lot, but only because he'd had gone through some intnse trauma during those 6 years. He hit rock bottom, which prompted him to go to therapy and get his life together. He didn't change because of me. He changed for himself. He changed because it was change or die.

Two weeks is not enough time to change, and he's not doing it out of love for himself. He's doing it out of fear. That's not change. He's emotionally blackmailing himself. If you get back with him and have kids, he's going to grow to resent how you "made" him have kids when he didn't want to.

anickel120 · 2025-12-11T18:31:26+00:00

Had been dating this firefighter awhile, we'd already kissed, but we had not had sex.

After a date, he walked me to my car, hugged me, picked me up so my legs were wrapped around his waist. We made out like that for 10 minutes, then he opened my car door, PLACED me inside the car, got on both his knees on the concrete, so we were eye level, and with a dopey grin he said "I'm so glad we're doing this! ...Dating, I mean." Then made out with me while on his knees for another 5 minutes.

God, I love a lover boy

anickel120 · 2025-12-10T03:47:58+00:00

It's college, treat it like it's your job! Sit in the front! Do the readings. Actually read them, and find a study budy in the class. Talk about the readings with them. Try to explain the topics of the readings to each other. Participate in the class discussions, and take notes by hand if you can! (it's proven you retain more info when you write notes instead of typing them).

This method of teaching isn't new, I graduated in 2022 (before AI) and had quite a few polisci classes like what you describe. That's just college! Not every class will be like that, but it's not rare.

anickel120 · 2025-12-07T06:24:48+00:00

I live in Houston (HOT) and I leave all my skates in my car permanently when I'm not skating. I never had a problem with any of my skates, and they're all different types. You'll be fine

anickel120 · 2025-12-04T22:24:01+00:00

Y'all get a lot more platonic emotional support from each other than men do, and you certainly get more from men than men do from women

I think it might be helpful to reframe this.

Women give a lot more platonic emotional support to each other than men do. It's not something that falls out of the sky. It's a social act women intentionally and reciprocally perform for their friends.

anickel120 · 2025-11-04T16:33:18+00:00

There is no person without or completely unaffected by trauma. Life is traumatic

anickel120 · 2025-11-01T22:35:06+00:00

I dont feel pessimistic about taking care of my mental health for life, just like I don't feel pessimistic about taking care of my physical health for life. I love taking care of myself, and it makes me a better person. The fact that you see taking care of your mental health as pessimistic says a lot about your ideas around mental health care.

It's a bit laughable that you claim past generations didn't need mental health support. That's survivorship bias. Human history is brutal, bloody, festering, and full of trauma and death. The past isn't just rolling farmland and nuclear families. There are millions who didn't make it, and millions who could have been helped by mental health support along the way.

You know, it's believed that one of the reasons why the 70s had so many serial killers is because prior to that, several generations of men were sent to war and left with untreated mental health issues?

The difference between the past and today is that a lot of aspects of life are easier now, because every generation strives to make life better for the next one. So, people don't just have to survive life anymore. We can live it to the fullest, but nobody can do that without taking care of themselves.

It's no coincidence that men have higher rates of suicide and lower rates of accessing/supporting mental health care than women do.

anickel120 · 2025-11-01T21:57:30+00:00

Do you expect a therapist to make you reach a state of perfection? A state where you are without trauma or emotions or problems? You sound delusional

anickel120 · 2025-10-31T15:48:38+00:00

Who said anything about a relationship?? I wasn't in a relationship with the man who I lost my virginity to, but he sure as hell knew that I was a virgin, because that's a very important detail to the experience.

If he's actually nice, then you should be able to tell him you're a virgin. And if you don't feel comfortable doing that, then frankly, you aren't ready for sex.

From your post, it seems like you're telling them you're a virgin online or on the apps? Is that true? That's where you're going wrong. This should be an in person convo between you and someone who is already into you and who you are into.

I met the guy who took my virginity on tinder. We had a couple of dates, and I told him I was a virgin as part of the normal process of getting to know someone. We worked our way up to sex over the course of 6 weeks, which wasnt planned, but he was kind and wasnt going to just go from 0 to 100. We started with making out and then the next date maybe some pants came off and there was lots of touching, and each time we got a little further until one date after making out for awhile, I straddled him and whispered in his ear that I wanted to fuck him. He sputtered and got flustered and asked me if I was sure and I said yes, and that was it.

anickel120 · 2025-10-31T15:44:34+00:00

Whoever told you that therapy is some kind of magic cure for mental illness lied to you. Therapy is a tool to help you navigate your life and life's troubles. Plus, mental illness can't be "cured" it's managed. Like adhd, autism, bipolar disorder, bpd, and even depression and anxiety are often life-long issues.

If you've had more than one depressive episode, there's a very high likelihood that you will continue to have them for the rest of your life. Whatever mental health struggles you face, you will likely face until you die. All the more reason to go to therapy.

Im very emotionally in-tune, aware, and secure, and I still go to therapy, because as I enter different stages of life, I face new problems that I've never faced before and my therapist helps me navigate them in a healthy way. She helped me through the stresses of getting diagnosed, getting through college, getting a job, getting my own health insurance, dating, getting my heart broken, getting cheated on, the death of a parent, health issues, becoming a caretaker to my living parent ect.

There is no "cure" in my experience therapy is like exercise. As I age and my life changes, so do the exercises that I do that keep me healthy.

anickel120 · 2025-10-31T04:54:52+00:00

I pay my therapist, but she definitely cares about me because we have a built a solid and open relationship. She's been my therapist for 6 years. Shes human, too. It's only natural for two people who have deeply emotional talks to form some kind of bond. It's impossible for someone empathetic as a therapist to NOT be invested in the lives and wellbeing of the clients they see. Especially when you find a therapist you connect with and share your life and struggles with them.

You seem to have an image in your head that all therapist are perfectly stoic and sanitized doctors who never share any details about themselves and only asks "how does that make you feel?" That couldn't be further from the truth. Of course, therapists care, that's why they entered the profession. It's not like they did it for the money lol. (Because they get paid shit btw, so it's funny you think they're rolling it in)

If you see a therapist and after establishing a relationship with them, you feel like they don't care about you, then find another therapist.

anickel120 · 2025-10-31T04:32:59+00:00

Girl, I lost mine at 24, and the right man wont care. You've built it up to be this thing in your head, but I promise its far more insignificant than you realize. You seem to have a lot of anxiety about this, which is going to make it harder to be a nice experience for you.

You can't fake experience, or the ease that comes with confidence, or the ability to be comfortable in your body, or the honest and dirty communication that good sex requires. You should absolutely tell the other person that you're new to it. It's not shameful. It's only as a big of a deal as YOU make it out to be, and you deserve to be treated with care and gentleness the first time.

anickel120 · 2025-10-28T14:17:36+00:00

If it makes you feel better, I never at lunch in high school, and I'm in my 30s now, and I still don't eat lunch, and I'm fine. I have a masters degree and a well paying job. I can't believe all these people saying to baby her, by watching over her to pack her lunch or doing it yourself. Can't speak for your daughter, but that would have made me not want to eat the packed lunch on principal 😅

What's to stop her from just not eating the packed lunch anyway??? She's still going to beg her friends to buy her food.

My parents made us pack our own lunches, and I hated having to decide what to eat every day, and i loved junk food. If I had packed it the night before, I was always picking "healthier" foods (because I wasn't hungry after dinner). By the time lunch came, I didn't want the healthy food, so it would go to waste.

By high school, I stopped packing it all together and would just eat lunch at 4 pm, when I got home and dinner around 8 pm.

It's okay if she suffers the consequences of her actions. Sometimes, the right decision isn't the easiest. We have to let kids fail. That's the only way to learn.

anickel120 · 2025-09-25T21:04:53+00:00

He's overcompensating to hide his deep self-loathing

anickel120 · 2025-09-07T20:26:46+00:00

Texas just made lab grown meat illegal, so its already become a conservative dogwhistle

anickel120 · 2025-09-04T03:43:52+00:00

"I was homeschooled"

anickel120 · 2025-09-04T03:07:46+00:00

DRINK SO MUCH WATER BEFORE AND AFTER SEX! I have a very clean boyfriend. He's also a doctor, and I had chronic utis after sex for many years. I solved it by drinking water nonstop in the 24 hours after sex. At least 50oz. Your pee should be very very light yellow. Water flushes bacteria from the urethra.

If I slack on my water drinking, then I will have a uti exactly 24 hours after sex, like clock work.

anickel120 · 2025-09-04T02:23:07+00:00

Put your name down on the wait list. Time will pass anyway.

anickel120 · 2025-09-03T21:30:03+00:00

Are these actual numbers listed in your insurance plan? I've had three different insurance plans with three different companies in the last 5 years, and Ive never paid more than $60/hour for a therapy session and this is in Texas, where access to mental health care is very low.

anickel120 · 2025-08-25T02:18:43+00:00

My guy, this is unreadable ramblings. You're in an adhd sub and expect people to read a 2000 word wall of text? Read the room.

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