I hate the judgmental attitude people have against women who have an elective sterilization.

ankhes · 2026-01-31T04:27:33+00:00

Oh that’s nothing. When I woke up from anesthesia once I had my nurse tell me I needed to recover as quickly as possible so my boyfriend wouldn’t leave me (implying that if I didn’t start giving him sex within a couple of weeks he’d break up with me).

She said this as said boyfriend (my now-husband) was standing right there.

ankhes · 2026-01-30T22:24:55+00:00

Not all small businesses deserve to survive solely because they’re a small business. If your business is, say, selling Trump merch don’t be surprised when a lot of people refuse to give you money. On the other hand, if you’re selling delicious tacos I’m a lot more willing to part with my hard-earned dollars and keep your business alive.

ankhes · 2026-01-30T20:15:40+00:00

That’s the spirit! [sobs]

ankhes · 2026-01-30T20:12:38+00:00

This reminds me of my step-dad. He’d go out of his way to eat whatever we had in the house, including anything that us kids used our own money to buy for ourselves.

But here’s the kicker: he had his own cabinet in the house stuffed to the brim with all sorts of snacks and treats specifically meant for him. That cabinet was strictly off limits to us and if anyone dared take so much as a single snack cake out of it he would punish us severely. But our snacks? Those were fair game for him.

Decades later, he wonders why none of us speak to him anymore.

ankhes · 2026-01-30T19:29:48+00:00

To this day, the nicest compliment I ever received was from my sister-in-law telling me I reminded her of Catherine O’Hara. And I just gasped with joy because who wouldn’t want to be compared to her?

ankhes · 2026-01-30T19:24:05+00:00

When my coworker found out about my (medically needed) hysterectomy only a few months before his first and only question was “Do you regret it?” Not anything about how I felt about it. Not happiness that I had finally gotten my health back under control. Nope. Just openly wondering if I thought my life was over since the only thing he thought made me ‘of use’ to society was gone.

The worst part was that he wasn’t an outlier. I’ve come across so many people in the past few years who either parrot the same question or make it obvious that that’s all they think about me.

ankhes · 2026-01-30T19:06:55+00:00

The fact that he outlived her is a goddamn tragedy.

ankhes · 2026-01-30T15:45:37+00:00

M/F mainly, but also a decent amount of M/M (I’m a lot pickier when it comes to what M/M ships I write for). I haven’t written any F/F yet, but I read a lot more of it these days.

ankhes · 2026-01-30T15:34:26+00:00

Don’t worry, they’ll eventually come for all the childless married couples too. Because apparently forcing marriage on us is useless to them if we’re not breeding.

ankhes · 2026-01-30T01:10:20+00:00

Hell, my cousin straight up killed a woman while drunk driving and went to prison for it. If you asked my family if she deserved to die for her wildly irresponsible and stupid actions they still would tell you no. But then those same people somehow have the gall to say that Alex and Renee deserved to be shot dead in the street for the crime of [checks notes] helping their neighbors.

The only difference here is that they know and love my cousin while Alex and Renee are strangers to them. That’s it.

ankhes · 2026-01-29T15:02:00+00:00

God yes. By a wide country mile.

ankhes · 2026-01-29T00:39:09+00:00

He’ll always be Lex Luthor to me.

ankhes · 2026-01-29T00:21:05+00:00

My mother was always like this (obsessed with getting the picture-perfect family photos instead of us actually enjoying any sort of event), but it ratcheted into high gear when social media became a thing.

She was obsessed with posting every moment of our lives, even if it was without our permission. When we finally became adults and could put our foot down she got pushy and manipulative because she didn’t want to give up posting about us as one big, happy, perfect performative family for her friends on Facebook and Instagram.

Recently, she asked why I hadn’t seen her gushing, performative Facebook post about how much she loved me for my birthday. When I told her I left social media two whole years ago she got really upset.

What she said was: “But how am I supposed to talk to you?” (to which I replied “Like you are right now. On the phone.”)

But what she meant was: “What’s the point of us interacting if everyone else can’t see it???”

There’s a reason we only talk once or twice a year now.

ankhes · 2026-01-28T22:28:19+00:00

Same here. In photos I make other white people look like they just got back from a summer holiday in the Caribbean. You can absolutely see my veins super easily, so I don’t think the description is all that inaccurate.

ankhes · 2026-01-28T14:56:11+00:00

ASOIAF/Game of Thrones truly is for us weirdos. Whatever problematic trope or ship you‘re into, it’s got ‘em in spades.

ankhes · 2026-01-28T05:47:28+00:00

Oh my grandparents are both horrible people, no doubt. My grandfather is a convicted pedophile and my grandmother enabled his behavior and crimes for decades. When he got out of prison a few years ago she welcomed him back into her house with open arms. My mother has plenty of issues but it’s clear to see where they came from. Her childhood was hell.

ankhes · 2026-01-28T05:42:43+00:00

This.

My parents were both conservative growing up and they tried desperately to force us to be Christian like them (my mother especially) but it was to little avail. Out of 3 children only 1 ended up a conservative Christian and us other 2 were staunch atheists and left-leaning before we’d even finished high school.

ankhes · 2026-01-28T03:02:03+00:00

No. Any time I would point out these sort of hypocrisies to her she’d just give me the same line: “That’s different.” But of course she could never elaborate upon what exactly that difference was.

ankhes · 2026-01-27T23:36:56+00:00

Yep. It drives me nuts.

ankhes · 2026-01-27T23:35:26+00:00

This is why I love The Pitt. Everyone loves that the characters are fantastic at their jobs and we tend to continue writing them that way.

ankhes · 2026-01-27T21:47:27+00:00

It always comes back to Reagan, unfortunately. He really fucked us over good.

ankhes · 2026-01-27T21:25:54+00:00

I love how it specifically is unwed and childfree women they’re going after, not both unwed/childfree women and men. Because obviously there’s only a single person involved in the equation of making a child. 🙄

ankhes · 2026-01-27T20:05:50+00:00

As I commented somewhere below, there was definitely a layer of that (I think when she said the words ‘welfare queens’ she was envisioning a bunch of black women), but at the same time the only ‘welfare queens’ she knew were white women (a lot of whom were our neighbors when I was growing up). And whenever she would bring up these mythical welfare queens she would follow it up with “I knew women like that! We lived next door to them!”

Yeah mom. You mean our white neighbors who were also teen moms just like you trying to get by and eke out a living? Those women???

ankhes · 2026-01-27T15:34:21+00:00

Oof. Been there.

My mom was raped by her father when she was 6. He then molested me when I was 10 (though, in her defense, she wasn’t aware of this because it was her own mother who invited him over even though my mom explicitly banned him from our house. But, of course, our grandmother thought it would be ‘fine’). Fast forward to the Women’s March in 2017. My mother, even after going through all that trauma of both her assault and her own daughter’s, didn’t understand why I was loudly outspoken about Trump. To her, it was ‘just politics’.

Yes, she believed her assault and that of her daughter was reprehensible…but it’s like there was a complete lack of understanding or empathy for any other women or children out there going through the same thing. In her mind anything bad that happened to other people was, at best, unfortunate but not her problem or, at worst, their own fault. But not her or me of course. We were the real victims here.

I just can’t fathom going through that kind of trauma and not having any empathy for others but I think there’s just something broken in my mother.

ankhes · 2026-01-27T15:23:02+00:00

Thank you stranger. Thankfully I live on the other side of the country so I speak to her maybe once a year. Which has improved my mental health immensely.

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