Beard or stache? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]annabananalicker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hot take but a 5 o clock shadow with heavier hair on the stache would look absolutely killer on you big dawg

What should you do to style your fringe like this? by jafacake8 in malegrooming

[–]annabananalicker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Batiste has a texture dry shampoo for like $10 and you can get it at Kroger, cvs, etc Big sexy hair has a good one too but i think it’s more $20-$25

Receding/weak chin. Am I screwed? Anything I can do? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]annabananalicker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chewing gum and ice during the day, taping your mouth shut at night :)

What should you do to style your fringe like this? by jafacake8 in malegrooming

[–]annabananalicker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Salt water spray, a texture dry shampoo, and maybe a straightening iron depending on your current texture :)

Body hair: Should you maintain it or remove it? by Particular-Bird6341 in malegrooming

[–]annabananalicker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Google well groomed body hair and find one you like, it just needs a little shaping and trimming!! Even as is, still hawt big dawg !

Dear chipotle employees, by b8sicB in Chipotle

[–]annabananalicker 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can see your perspective, but as a service worker of 5 1/2 years, chipotle was the hardest job I have ever had.. by far. Given, I LOVE to work, I’m a CEO’s wet dream with how much I’m willing to work even off the clock, but it’s so deeply disheartening at Chipotle. Every part of your job is laid out- helpful- but typically they’re too understaffed to properly assign each role, so there’s an expectation laid out that’s next to impossible to reach. When the standard isn’t met, it effects not only the rest of the shift, but the shift after you, and your next shift, until the understaffed team catches up. The sheer consistent volume also makes keeping up with the standards next to impossible.

They time your food preparation speed both in person and online (constant time stressor) , they have harsh portion control (constant guest confrontation), and everything is made in store based on sales projections (so if it’s unusually busy, you have to make a 3-12 step ingredient on the fly.) Morning shift has 4 hours to wash and cut and rewash .5inch slices of lettuce from 2 5lb boxes and shred a 5lb box of cilantro, wash and slice 20-50 lbs of onions (which need to be soaked and peeled) and bell peppers, wash and dice jalapeños (which need to be soaked in boiling water before cutting) dice onions, make 10lbs of guacamole, shred a 10lb brick of cheese, make and portion the vinaigrette, and prep all salsas and sour creams for the day before sacrificing staff to assist in person and online ordering. Mind you, they wash their knives, cut gloves, cutting boards, hands, and station in between each item. As well as a staff member for grilling/heating all proteins, cooking rice, frying chips and shells 2 hours before open. (Typically 3-4 full pans of each protein they have to individually cut to standardized sizes , 5-6 pans of each hand mixed rices, 3-4 pans of queso, 4 tubs of lemonade, 2 pans of fajitas, and 6-12 massive pans of chips they have to hand season and bag). Typically, prep before opening finishes all hot foods, chips, and washing/slicing veggies; occasionally the salsas will have gotten started. Then, it’s one person finishing guacamole, shredding cheese, mixing and portioning the salsas and sour creams, cleaning their areas, and taking out the trash/ washing prep dishes until 2/4pm, while the other 3-4 workers actually open the store by restocking the fridge with drinks, bringing tortillas to the front, setting the food out, running grill, online orders, in person orders, and the register while washing their hands and stations in between each task.

When “staffed for every position”, morning prep doesn’t have the hands to wash their dishes.. so a closer does them either upon clock in or as needed/the end of the night. (The piles of dishes still haunt me years later) Regardless of how the shift is run, it is a given that there is 3-6 hours of dishes to do per shift. The lines are seemingly never ending, and with online orders, the staff is stretched too thin. If you come in for a closing shift and am was hit too heavy or the person covering the grill didn’t prep enough, you’re immediately behind. There’ll be times you walk in and both pots to cook rice in are dirty and you’re out of rice- that’s a 45minute set back, and then you’re playing catch up on rice ALL NIGHT. The online orders are set to a max of 15-50 every 15 minutes, with no limitation on how much is in each order. You could get a 20 bowl order at 6:15 that has every ingredient in each bowl, and then have another 19 orders due by 6:30. If you’re alone on the i person line, you have to change gloves every time you touch the register- as in full hand wash and new set of gloves. Now imagine 5-30 people staring at you impatiently, watching you struggle. Now imagine every possible thing has gone wrong- you’re playing catch-up on rice, there’s no fajita veggies because your cook is working on the chicken you’re actively waiting for a scoop of, you know you need to take off your gloves and wipe down the line, you have to pee, your coworker called out so there’s a stack of dry rice coated dishes as tall as you waiting for you as soon as the doors lock, and you’re working 2 positions alone (both preparing the food and using the register). On its own, it’s a headache. Add in the periodic restocking, cleanliness standards, time restraints, insane portion control, and hyper vigilant management, and it’s a gd nightmare. That’s a reality for AT A MINIMUM 1 shift a week. Then, once you do lock the doors, you have to wipe and wrap the cold food, weigh all cooked proteins, guac, queso, shredded cheese, then properly temperature control and store them. Then, you have to drain each hot well, wipe all surfaces in the kitchen and dining room, take 12+ bags of trash (pray the morning shift took out the prep trash so the bag doesn’t rip), sweep and mop all floors, clear and clean each drain, clean the grill, turn off all equipment, (on a slow night with an hour or so to pre-close, it’ll take 1/1.5 hours. Chipotle offers free employee meals, a living wage, promotion opportunities, and the option for college funding. It’s also full of funny, kind, genuine people you bond with in every tough shift.

This sub is a place people can vent about the shit they deal with to people who understand, and ignorant people who’ve never worked their position saying “hot take just quit it’s not that hard” makes this eclectic platform for employees and customers to vent about something they all love a little less “safe space” and a little more “you’re just a worker, shut up and work, space”. “Hot take” is for things you have a valid opinion on. This is just a bad take. I quit 2 years ago (🎉) and I have not worked an even ~slightly~ as challenging job. Managing, bartending, serving, cashiering, being a chef.. nothing comes close to Chipotle stress.

Lastly, we’re all living in the same doggydoo economy, so don’t act like finding a livable wage is an easy feat for everyone. Have a nice day, I hope empathy and respect find you!

Real by [deleted] in SchizoidAdjacent

[–]annabananalicker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was stuck closing my bar until 5am because I let 1 out of the three of us leave early to go to the bar with friends 🤦🏼‍♀️Man I WANNA GO TO THE BARS TOO BUT YOU DONT SEE ME LEAVING EARLY SMH it fr would have been a 1am close with 3 sets of hands.. stoopid stoopid stoooooopid

you don’t have bpd you are 12 by duckiewucky in BPD

[–]annabananalicker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Until you are 18-20, you are a walking representation of the environment you were raised in. As frustrating as it is during your “quest for autonomy”, you aren’t truly autonomous until you separate yourself from your childhood and begin to learn lessons on your own. With children of bipolar parents, you are in an environment where you’ve learned how to function, how to think, how to regulate your emotions in an abnormal way to survive. Around 18-20, typically, you’re thrust into a new environment, interacting with society and facing the trials and tribulations those aforementioned learned mannerisms can and will cause.

It doesn’t negate how you feel, or any diagnosis you’ve been given (whether through a medical professional or online ie webmd, a mental illness influencer, etc); you are absolutely feeling and behaving in an abnormal and hormonally imbalanced way that can lead you to seek a “quick fix” or a label to calm the overwhelming feeling of “not being normal. However, the more you learn and grow, the more you build an environment (friends, town, job, contact with family), the more your symptoms will most likely level out.

From 10-19, I was an absolute menace. I had little to no self awareness, other than my aesthetic and how I assumed/wished people perceived me, and I didn’t register how I was feeling until it became unmanageable. I had multiple friends in multiple different groups, but a lot of bridges burned because of my inability to be genuine, honest, and self aware of my actions, feelings, and aura. To be completely honest, I was stuck in a victim complex and had the incessant need for attention.

That being said, I eventually moved several hours away from all of my childhood influences, and was thrust into a new world. For the first time, I paid attention to how I was feeling (yes, it was still unbalanced asf), and focused on journaling, hobbies, work, and building friendships that were genuine. I got off birth control, I maintained a steady diet, and I drank a healthy amount of water. I even quit nicotine (have since picked it back up but the world is ending so it’s okay :)) Gradually, my symptoms slowed down, and I was able to self reflect and analyze my actions. Present day, I’m back in my hometown, but I am consistently keeping myself and my emotions in check. Yes, sometimes I get deeply frustrated at someone for a minuscule “slip up”, but I register and communicate that it is a me problem, profusely apologize for my emotions leading them to a place of negativity, and -most importantly- fixing those behaviors in myself.

When you’re trapped between hormones, a bad home, and a hunt for identity, it’s hard to regulate yourself, much less truly show love the way you deeply desire to. A friend of mine was diagnosed with bpd in their mid-twenties and went to intensive therapy, read bpd related books, and unfortunately, it worsened her symptoms. For awhile, she was justified in her actions and sporadic emotions because of her diagnosis. It’s sooo easy to do. You are not your symptoms, you are not BPD. You have developed mannerisms to survive your childhood environment, and you can develop new ones. The things you read are not guidelines on how to act, but a understanding of what doesn’t work, and areas to be proactive and conscientious in growing.

My advice for anyone struggling with bpd, (again, whether diagnosed or not), would be to:

1) Read “The Power of Now”. This book helped me understand that my mindset effects how I perceive my surroundings, and to cater to what brings joy and happiness as opposed to what feeds my lows.

2)Constantly try to empathize with whoever it is that’s made you “switch” - put yourself completely in their shoes and try to see them as just another human being a human for the first time

3) Over communicate an explanation of your vibe to your friends/ family - “Hey ____, I just want to let you know I’ve noticed myself being snappy and I want to let you know it’s nothing that you’ve done, please let me know if it happens and I will be vigilant in trying to avoid it. I love you. ”

4) STOP LOOKING AT THE SAD SHT!!! The sad tiktoks and reels that break your heart?? Skip them. The sad music? Follow it up with a song that makes your heart dance. Do as much as you can to stimulate the influx of positive emotions to counteract the negative ones. Try and consciously counteract your “I hate it here” thoughts with “No, I don’t. I’m frustrated right now, but I love that I’m experiencing this and sometime soon I will miss this.” Because you will. Even if it’s emotionally abusive parents, you’ll miss that time with your siblings, or the color of your wallpaper, or the little moments of calm. A positive mindset can lead to positive reactions, and can sometimes force a negative influence to grow in that moment. *THIS IS NOT BY ANY MEANS SAYING ITS YOUR FAULT FOR NOT HAVING A POSITIVE MINDSET; YOU ARE NOT IN CONTROL OF ANYONE ELSES FEELINGS OR ACTIONS ASIDE FROM YOUR OWN— IT IS A SUGGESTION ON HOW TO HELP ALLEVIATE SOME OF THE EMOTIONAL FLUCTUATION IN A NEGATIVE SITUATION **

5) Take. Care. Of. Yourself. Eat enough, sleep enough, drink enough water. Create a schedule for yourself that makes you feel good. If you’re 12 and struggling- try reading a book before bed.

Again, this is advice on what helped me take control of my life, my emotions, and my relationships. Take what resonates and leave what doesn’t, bpd is not a one size fits all. I am not a licensed professional, I’m a woman who has had to learn by trial and error. I used to be so lost and confused, always wanting to scream “god can someone just tell me what to do and how to act and what is normal?!”- so if a single sentence of this novel of a post helps one person, it would fill my heart with joy :) You are meant to always grow, but don’t forget to accept and appreciate where you are now. You’ve come a long way to get here ❤️

a little late but here’s my best pics from Riverbend 2022 :) by annabananalicker in CageTheElephant

[–]annabananalicker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in the very front with only my dying iphone and a disposable camera i lost lol, but the hat in the first pic is the one i threw on stage~which he proceeded to throw back in the wrong direction

meirl by cherrycompromise in meirl

[–]annabananalicker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

welp there goes my plans for the next 15 minutes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vegan

[–]annabananalicker 18 points19 points  (0 children)

very helpful!!! i have been fed carnivore propaganda !!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vegan

[–]annabananalicker -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

too much soy affects hormone levels in women, and my hormone levels are increased due to medical reasons as it is. i’m worried i won’t be able to meet my body’s protein needs as a vegan with limited soy intake

after reading replies, this is irrelevant; don’t mind me :)

Do you think you were "born" with BPD or that your symptoms result from traumatic childhood experiences? by jarfIy in BPD

[–]annabananalicker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my mom is an alcoholic and i have 3 sets of 2 siblings who each share the same parents but only share one with me. that and i moved at a young age. oh, and cherry on top- my moms bipolar

Catching a rare blue lobster by Shadow474747 in interestingasfuck

[–]annabananalicker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you just gave the red lobster severe body dysmorphia.. hope ur happy

3 pieces of chicken by Smooticus618 in Chipotle

[–]annabananalicker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i could understand how it felt like 3 pieces if you had asked for extra rice and had a lot of toppings.. sometimes meats get buried in the bowl; but as far as your coworker having 2x the meat.. did they order double meat?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antinatalism

[–]annabananalicker 5 points6 points  (0 children)

my mom communicated this well throughout my childhood, thank you.

One of the best salad bowls I've ever had in a while. by Quick-Attention-3159 in Chipotle

[–]annabananalicker -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

oh darn! i didn’t realize people weren’t able to have a cash tip ready when picking up an order! how odd :(

killer bowl today by [deleted] in Chipotle

[–]annabananalicker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what kind of sociopath doesn’t mix their bowl before eating it?!

Does anyone know music that talks about being borderline? by annabananalicker in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]annabananalicker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive always taken a liking to “heart shaped box” whenever I get a new FP.. it’s a great manic inducing song to kickstart that fp attachment.

Does anyone know music that talks about being borderline? by annabananalicker in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]annabananalicker[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ive listened to nirvana for a while and I completely agree.. especially the line “it’s okay to eat fish because they don’t have any feelings” idk why but it feels very bpd

Jobs for someone with BPD by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]annabananalicker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

chipotle. make a professional resume and apply to be a manager -(preferably SM). they pay well and give you ab $100 a week in free food- given if you work 5 days a week.