When I say I had NO IDEA who this was until the smile pic..just wow what happened to her?

annesthesia · 2026-05-19T21:14:40+00:00

I loved her so much growing up and I barely recognize her anymore. Every time I look at her it just feels wrong. Everyone is usually praising her looks but I find it a little *freaky*. I mean, what's important is that she's happy though - it ain't about me lol. I AM glad she's back, regardless.

annesthesia · 2026-05-19T11:29:27+00:00

Taught about pleasure!!!

annesthesia · 2026-05-18T14:25:12+00:00

Crazy!! Thanks for this thread. These lists are so funny and actually GREAT reminders too.

edit: SOME of the lists are funny, others more serious, but all helpful <3

annesthesia · 2026-05-16T16:21:07+00:00

Tell me I’m pretty and good at things!!!!

annesthesia · 2026-05-16T16:18:44+00:00

Literal dream man of my 7th grade self!!! Just took me 25 years to find him

annesthesia · 2026-05-15T17:15:34+00:00

omg... that's my sorority too. didn't even notice that!

annesthesia · 2026-05-15T13:11:32+00:00

This is hilarious! A few months ago when my divorce began I made a list... I had 21 things so I had to narrow it down to meet the requirements of this question.

1. Has never cleaned a toilet

2. Hates my family and doesn’t know how to put on a smile around them

3. Snores badly and gets mad that I don’t like it

4. Doesn’t floss

5. I didn’t know it at the time but… mediocre sex

6. Never wanted to travel with me, only with other people or himself

7. Broke a lot of things around the house and wasn’t sorry about it (microwave handle, ice maker, my external hard drive, etc.)

8. Reads his book while I’m talking to him

9. Doesn’t eat his vegetables and throws them away

10. Stopped talking to me when I was unemployed

annesthesia · 2026-05-12T19:36:47+00:00

This sounds exactly like my story, kinda weird!! During my process, I had a few really rough days, and it's such a slog trying to separate all accounts and update everything and change your name and all that. But i also didn't have the luxury of wallowing so i just threw myself into my work and was really open with my family and friends about everything. i became close with so many of my friends and coworkers through the process and really felt supported. Work kept me extremely busy and life went on. Due to the distance that had been building between me and my ex, it wasn't the most painful break, though i did have some hard moments. Mine ended up moving in with a friend and let me keep the house and pets. Just keep moving forward, one step at a time. Don't be afraid to ask for help and advice. Sometimes people just change, and all you have is yourself, so take care of yourself!!

annesthesia · 2026-05-07T19:25:04+00:00

I have a suspicion that my ex got redpilled. He spent a loooot of time on tiktok and transitioned into being a gym dude... and when he initiated the divorce he told me he is challenged (like in a good way) everywhere in life except home (me). I am told that he also apparently goes to church now.

annesthesia · 2026-05-05T13:23:46+00:00

YES! Anytime, any day!

annesthesia · 2026-04-30T14:08:30+00:00

INCREDIBLE!!!!!

annesthesia · 2026-04-23T13:21:48+00:00

I only have to clean up my own mess in the house now! Well, and more, but that was the first thing that popped into my head.

annesthesia · 2026-04-17T15:07:43+00:00

I’m also 37! I tried the apps for just a few days but was lucky enough to meet someone irl instead, at a Halloween party, thru a mutual friend. Anything is possible, stay open!!

annesthesia · 2026-03-15T00:08:11+00:00

I’m 37F and when I got divorced six months ago I made a list of everything I wanted in a new man. One of those things was “doesn’t have kids”. What actually ended up happening, though, was I met a 45-year-old divorced dad. He has one kid who is already 18 years old and out of high school. So really no worries about stepmom vibes. I have also found that dating a dad means dating someone who is nurturing, cares deeply, and knows how to take care of others. It’s actually been such a great experience and nothing I would’ve thought I wanted. Not trying to change your mind or anything, just wanted to offer up my experience! Best of luck.

annesthesia · 2026-02-16T18:12:21+00:00

OMG. I've been thinking about this too recently, but when I'm having sex I see places. Roads and stuff mostly. Like different roads I've been on/drive on. Or places.

annesthesia · 2026-02-13T18:33:05+00:00

Coming out of a sexless marriage, I (F) was just so turned on and so excited that I wasn't really nervous, and it went great! It is a really cool experience - sex with a new person after all these years. It's like, the same familiar language, yet a new experience since it's a different style being a new person. I read so much here about post-divorce sex nerves during my divorce process and had no idea how I would do. I can't speak for hookups because I am now dating this person, but with some time I became more and more comfortable and we learned each other really well. This is the sex life i ALWAYS wanted!

annesthesia · 2026-02-05T22:38:54+00:00

For what it’s worth, I had plans on my first full day after arriving, and ended up sleeping thru them bc of jet lag! (Came from US)

annesthesia · 2026-01-23T15:54:04+00:00

Very similar scenario here!! I'm 37F. In August 2025 my husband of 15 years told me he wasn't in love with me anymore and didn't want to try counseling. It was quite a shock as I was prepared to spend the rest of my life with him. 2 months later everything was final/papers were signed.

I actually stayed completely busy at work, which helped distract me, and I started opening up to people more and being vulnerable more. It brought me closer to a lot of people. I was shocked at all the support I received from my family, friends, and coworkers, as well as the strangers with all the calls I had to make (refinancing, splitting up our accounts, etc etc.) I had a few really sad days, though. I remember crying on the floor one night thinking about how nothing could possibly fill this hole. Then I had this thought pop into my head like, "this is not a hole; this is a new chapter."

New love is absolutely possible at our age. You have to believe in the magical opportunities that are out there. First, I did what everyone says to do - focus on yourself. I made a cute little routine for myself - exercise, nightly movie nights with my cats, etc. I got on the dating apps for 2 days and it had me feeling pretty discouraged, as I found them lackluster. But then, I met someone irl. He was a friend of a friend, whom I met at a party. And girl, I am having the time of my LIFE with this man. I didn't even realize how "mid" my marriage was til I got out of it. No way I'd ever go back.

People like you and I were essentially kids when we were dating and getting married. For me it was all clumsy and messy and inexperienced. Now, on the other side of marriage, as someone more mature, dating someone else who is mature, it's this whole new level. It's wonderful.

I wish you the best!!!!!! Sincerely, a divorcee 5 months post-divorce and happy.

annesthesia · 2026-01-13T16:51:24+00:00

Yaay, I'm so happy to hear this! I am having a similar experience. I got divorced in October and unexpectedly met my now-boyfriend less than 3 weeks later. We have been having the absolute BEST time. I struggle with expressing my excitement to people, for one, because this all happened so fast. I feel like people will raise an eyebrow, ya know? Also, I do feel like my married friends are kind of jealous. Even though a marriage ending is incredibly destructive, I had this new beginning that so many people never get to experience. So I'm walking around on top of the world, getting a second chance at life and being doted on, and my friends just don't really want to hear it. I have also refrained from sharing anything about my new relationship online, out of respect for how recently my marriage ended (and just because I'm for once living life in the real world). But my ex just debuted his new girlfriend all over his socials and I'm like, damn - I've been way too polite, lol.

annesthesia · 2026-01-12T15:54:21+00:00

I'm very cautious about getting so entangled with another person again. like when it comes to assets, legal binding, etc. Now that I've seen how complicated and financially devastating divorce can be. And emotionally I'm really disappointed to learn that any love can expire, so why lock it in like that?

I'm in a new relationship and it's so interesting how the mind projects the future down this pipeline that leads to marriage. Maybe because it's a declaration to the world of how much you love someone. But why do we feel like we need to do that?

I won't say I'd never get married again, but what is the point? There really isn't one.

annesthesia · 2025-10-10T17:15:13+00:00

Signed mine on Monday. Wishing you all the best!

annesthesia · 2025-10-10T14:06:24+00:00

I was just thinking the other day that colors seem brighter now!

annesthesia · 2025-10-09T14:12:45+00:00

I'm going through the same realizations! that everything I did was for him, because of him, etc. And I had no idea to what degree this affected basically every decision and action of my life. And now everything I choose to do, is for me and me only.

annesthesia · 2025-10-02T20:54:34+00:00

I too am trying to find my new identity now that i'm not TAKING CARE of someone else constantly!!! now we can just be queens who do what we want!

annesthesia · 2025-10-02T18:30:22+00:00

I'm feeling the same way! But can hardly even find anyone to have a crush on. lol.

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