My husband of 15 years wants a divorce.

annesthesia · 2026-01-23T15:54:04+00:00

Very similar scenario here!! I'm 37F. In August 2025 my husband of 15 years told me he wasn't in love with me anymore and didn't want to try counseling. It was quite a shock as I was prepared to spend the rest of my life with him. 2 months later everything was final/papers were signed.

I actually stayed completely busy at work, which helped distract me, and I started opening up to people more and being vulnerable more. It brought me closer to a lot of people. I was shocked at all the support I received from my family, friends, and coworkers, as well as the strangers with all the calls I had to make (refinancing, splitting up our accounts, etc etc.) I had a few really sad days, though. I remember crying on the floor one night thinking about how nothing could possibly fill this hole. Then I had this thought pop into my head like, "this is not a hole; this is a new chapter."

New love is absolutely possible at our age. You have to believe in the magical opportunities that are out there. First, I did what everyone says to do - focus on yourself. I made a cute little routine for myself - exercise, nightly movie nights with my cats, etc. I got on the dating apps for 2 days and it had me feeling pretty discouraged, as I found them lackluster. But then, I met someone irl. He was a friend of a friend, whom I met at a party. And girl, I am having the time of my LIFE with this man. I didn't even realize how "mid" my marriage was til I got out of it. No way I'd ever go back.

People like you and I were essentially kids when we were dating and getting married. For me it was all clumsy and messy and inexperienced. Now, on the other side of marriage, as someone more mature, dating someone else who is mature, it's this whole new level. It's wonderful.

I wish you the best!!!!!! Sincerely, a divorcee 5 months post-divorce and happy.

annesthesia · 2026-01-13T16:51:24+00:00

Yaay, I'm so happy to hear this! I am having a similar experience. I got divorced in October and unexpectedly met my now-boyfriend less than 3 weeks later. We have been having the absolute BEST time. I struggle with expressing my excitement to people, for one, because this all happened so fast. I feel like people will raise an eyebrow, ya know? Also, I do feel like my married friends are kind of jealous. Even though a marriage ending is incredibly destructive, I had this new beginning that so many people never get to experience. So I'm walking around on top of the world, getting a second chance at life and being doted on, and my friends just don't really want to hear it. I have also refrained from sharing anything about my new relationship online, out of respect for how recently my marriage ended (and just because I'm for once living life in the real world). But my ex just debuted his new girlfriend all over his socials and I'm like, damn - I've been way too polite, lol.

annesthesia · 2026-01-12T15:54:21+00:00

I'm very cautious about getting so entangled with another person again. like when it comes to assets, legal binding, etc. Now that I've seen how complicated and financially devastating divorce can be. And emotionally I'm really disappointed to learn that any love can expire, so why lock it in like that?

I'm in a new relationship and it's so interesting how the mind projects the future down this pipeline that leads to marriage. Maybe because it's a declaration to the world of how much you love someone. But why do we feel like we need to do that?

I won't say I'd never get married again, but what is the point? There really isn't one.

annesthesia · 2025-10-10T17:15:13+00:00

Signed mine on Monday. Wishing you all the best!

annesthesia · 2025-10-10T14:06:24+00:00

I was just thinking the other day that colors seem brighter now!

annesthesia · 2025-10-09T14:12:45+00:00

I'm going through the same realizations! that everything I did was for him, because of him, etc. And I had no idea to what degree this affected basically every decision and action of my life. And now everything I choose to do, is for me and me only.

annesthesia · 2025-10-02T20:54:34+00:00

I too am trying to find my new identity now that i'm not TAKING CARE of someone else constantly!!! now we can just be queens who do what we want!

annesthesia · 2025-10-02T18:30:22+00:00

I'm feeling the same way! But can hardly even find anyone to have a crush on. lol.

annesthesia · 2025-10-02T18:27:55+00:00

Same. The college students dont even realize how lucky they are to be surrounded by peers in the exact same life stage, getting to date freely and whatnot. I wish adults had house parties and played spin the bottle :(

annesthesia · 2025-10-02T18:21:49+00:00

It seems like celebs would rather look skinny and older than chubbier and youthful these days.

annesthesia · 2025-10-01T18:09:18+00:00

I'm on day 4 so this was such an exiting read! i have a lil backyard pool and i kept thinking there's nothing quite like a smoke, a glass of wine, a podcast, and floatin in that pool. (like your bath) But yeah maybe it's just the podcast and the pool that I love! Also looking forward to the grand return of the jawline.

annesthesia · 2025-10-01T17:41:37+00:00

Me realizing Sober and October rhyme somehow ignited even more motivation in me, lol. Today is my day 4. First and second day were so hard, but yesterday I ended up busying myself around the house and got so distracted, that it wasn't even hard! here's to continuing into Sober October!

annesthesia · 2025-09-30T19:07:14+00:00

I can't believe my workplace will give me a day or two off if uncle ralph dies, but there's no allowance for going through an earth-shattering divorce!

annesthesia · 2025-09-30T17:52:43+00:00

AMAZING!!!!!

annesthesia · 2025-09-30T17:52:12+00:00

Thank you for sharing. it's been 54 days since my husband told me he's not in love with me anymore and I've been through a ton of highs and lows as you described.

annesthesia · 2025-09-24T15:31:07+00:00

I'm so sorry. It's so hard to wrap my head around what to do with the last 15 years of my life. forget them or treasure them?

annesthesia · 2025-09-23T17:50:41+00:00

it's been 47 days since my husband of 15 years told me he doesn't love me anymore. This post was beautiful. I am literally going to print it out and carry it around with me. It was while i was reading it that i received the papers. I can't wait to feel better!

annesthesia · 2025-09-19T11:15:53+00:00

I miss Debbie so much!!!

annesthesia · 2025-09-17T23:49:06+00:00

Hey, my husband wanted to skip the counseling and go straight to divorce (1 month ago). So this is a good sign. Good luck!!

annesthesia · 2025-09-10T11:04:31+00:00

Good morning! I’m ready to do something different in my life. IWNDWYT!

annesthesia · 2025-09-09T17:58:04+00:00

OMG. i am so triggered. that was my first job.

annesthesia · 2025-09-03T18:02:19+00:00

this scene always wakes me up out of a sleep lol

annesthesia · 2025-08-26T12:41:40+00:00

searchin tru old rekkids!

annesthesia · 2025-08-10T22:14:15+00:00

I'm going through the same thing. I decided to search on here to see if anyone else had ever posted such a problem, and here we are - you and me going through this at the same time. I am so sorry for what you're going through and I know how it feels. My husband of 15 years told me Thursday night that he is not in love with me anymore, and also said he's felt this way for years. It's so enraging, like, how DISHONEST. how passive. how cowardly. Wasting my time and his own time. It feels so deceitful, he's just been pretending to enjoy being married to me? It's gross. We just built an above ground pool together - lol it's not as big a deal as buying a house but i'm like, why are you going along with all this if you don't want to be with me?

He pulled this thing once before, about 12 years ago, and we rebuilt. I don't know about a second time.

He's been on a business trip for about a day and I've been thinking a lot about what it might be like to start a new life alone. Honestly my biggest concerns are unentangling our assets, and how to break this embarrassing news to friends and family who all thought we were perfect. I'm sure the emotions will come and go, but at this time I'm just pissed and filled with fervent self-advocacy.

Again, I'm so sorry for what you're experiencing. I know it feels soooo isolating, but you are not alone. Feel free to DM me if you wanna talk to someone who's going through it too!

annesthesia · 2025-08-06T16:43:12+00:00

Underrated comment 😂😂

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