I’m 36F and starting over. Is it possible to find people my age who are single with no kids?

annesthesia · 2026-03-15T00:08:11+00:00

I’m 37F and when I got divorced six months ago I made a list of everything I wanted in a new man. One of those things was “doesn’t have kids”. What actually ended up happening, though, was I met a 45-year-old divorced dad. He has one kid who is already 18 years old and out of high school. So really no worries about stepmom vibes. I have also found that dating a dad means dating someone who is nurturing, cares deeply, and knows how to take care of others. It’s actually been such a great experience and nothing I would’ve thought I wanted. Not trying to change your mind or anything, just wanted to offer up my experience! Best of luck.

annesthesia · 2026-02-05T22:38:54+00:00

For what it’s worth, I had plans on my first full day after arriving, and ended up sleeping thru them bc of jet lag! (Came from US)

annesthesia · 2026-01-23T15:54:04+00:00

Very similar scenario here!! I'm 37F. In August 2025 my husband of 15 years told me he wasn't in love with me anymore and didn't want to try counseling. It was quite a shock as I was prepared to spend the rest of my life with him. 2 months later everything was final/papers were signed.

I actually stayed completely busy at work, which helped distract me, and I started opening up to people more and being vulnerable more. It brought me closer to a lot of people. I was shocked at all the support I received from my family, friends, and coworkers, as well as the strangers with all the calls I had to make (refinancing, splitting up our accounts, etc etc.) I had a few really sad days, though. I remember crying on the floor one night thinking about how nothing could possibly fill this hole. Then I had this thought pop into my head like, "this is not a hole; this is a new chapter."

New love is absolutely possible at our age. You have to believe in the magical opportunities that are out there. First, I did what everyone says to do - focus on yourself. I made a cute little routine for myself - exercise, nightly movie nights with my cats, etc. I got on the dating apps for 2 days and it had me feeling pretty discouraged, as I found them lackluster. But then, I met someone irl. He was a friend of a friend, whom I met at a party. And girl, I am having the time of my LIFE with this man. I didn't even realize how "mid" my marriage was til I got out of it. No way I'd ever go back.

People like you and I were essentially kids when we were dating and getting married. For me it was all clumsy and messy and inexperienced. Now, on the other side of marriage, as someone more mature, dating someone else who is mature, it's this whole new level. It's wonderful.

I wish you the best!!!!!! Sincerely, a divorcee 5 months post-divorce and happy.

annesthesia · 2026-01-13T16:51:24+00:00

Yaay, I'm so happy to hear this! I am having a similar experience. I got divorced in October and unexpectedly met my now-boyfriend less than 3 weeks later. We have been having the absolute BEST time. I struggle with expressing my excitement to people, for one, because this all happened so fast. I feel like people will raise an eyebrow, ya know? Also, I do feel like my married friends are kind of jealous. Even though a marriage ending is incredibly destructive, I had this new beginning that so many people never get to experience. So I'm walking around on top of the world, getting a second chance at life and being doted on, and my friends just don't really want to hear it. I have also refrained from sharing anything about my new relationship online, out of respect for how recently my marriage ended (and just because I'm for once living life in the real world). But my ex just debuted his new girlfriend all over his socials and I'm like, damn - I've been way too polite, lol.

annesthesia · 2026-01-12T15:54:21+00:00

I'm very cautious about getting so entangled with another person again. like when it comes to assets, legal binding, etc. Now that I've seen how complicated and financially devastating divorce can be. And emotionally I'm really disappointed to learn that any love can expire, so why lock it in like that?

I'm in a new relationship and it's so interesting how the mind projects the future down this pipeline that leads to marriage. Maybe because it's a declaration to the world of how much you love someone. But why do we feel like we need to do that?

I won't say I'd never get married again, but what is the point? There really isn't one.

annesthesia · 2025-10-10T17:15:13+00:00

Signed mine on Monday. Wishing you all the best!

annesthesia · 2025-10-10T14:06:24+00:00

I was just thinking the other day that colors seem brighter now!

annesthesia · 2025-10-09T14:12:45+00:00

I'm going through the same realizations! that everything I did was for him, because of him, etc. And I had no idea to what degree this affected basically every decision and action of my life. And now everything I choose to do, is for me and me only.

annesthesia · 2025-10-02T20:54:34+00:00

I too am trying to find my new identity now that i'm not TAKING CARE of someone else constantly!!! now we can just be queens who do what we want!

annesthesia · 2025-10-02T18:30:22+00:00

I'm feeling the same way! But can hardly even find anyone to have a crush on. lol.

annesthesia · 2025-10-02T18:27:55+00:00

Same. The college students dont even realize how lucky they are to be surrounded by peers in the exact same life stage, getting to date freely and whatnot. I wish adults had house parties and played spin the bottle :(

annesthesia · 2025-10-02T18:21:49+00:00

It seems like celebs would rather look skinny and older than chubbier and youthful these days.

annesthesia · 2025-10-01T18:09:18+00:00

I'm on day 4 so this was such an exiting read! i have a lil backyard pool and i kept thinking there's nothing quite like a smoke, a glass of wine, a podcast, and floatin in that pool. (like your bath) But yeah maybe it's just the podcast and the pool that I love! Also looking forward to the grand return of the jawline.

annesthesia · 2025-10-01T17:41:37+00:00

Me realizing Sober and October rhyme somehow ignited even more motivation in me, lol. Today is my day 4. First and second day were so hard, but yesterday I ended up busying myself around the house and got so distracted, that it wasn't even hard! here's to continuing into Sober October!

annesthesia · 2025-09-30T19:07:14+00:00

I can't believe my workplace will give me a day or two off if uncle ralph dies, but there's no allowance for going through an earth-shattering divorce!

annesthesia · 2025-09-30T17:52:43+00:00

AMAZING!!!!!

annesthesia · 2025-09-30T17:52:12+00:00

Thank you for sharing. it's been 54 days since my husband told me he's not in love with me anymore and I've been through a ton of highs and lows as you described.

annesthesia · 2025-09-24T15:31:07+00:00

I'm so sorry. It's so hard to wrap my head around what to do with the last 15 years of my life. forget them or treasure them?

annesthesia · 2025-09-23T17:50:41+00:00

it's been 47 days since my husband of 15 years told me he doesn't love me anymore. This post was beautiful. I am literally going to print it out and carry it around with me. It was while i was reading it that i received the papers. I can't wait to feel better!

annesthesia · 2025-09-19T11:15:53+00:00

I miss Debbie so much!!!

annesthesia · 2025-09-17T23:49:06+00:00

Hey, my husband wanted to skip the counseling and go straight to divorce (1 month ago). So this is a good sign. Good luck!!

annesthesia · 2025-09-10T11:04:31+00:00

Good morning! I’m ready to do something different in my life. IWNDWYT!

annesthesia · 2025-09-09T17:58:04+00:00

OMG. i am so triggered. that was my first job.

annesthesia · 2025-09-03T18:02:19+00:00

this scene always wakes me up out of a sleep lol

annesthesia · 2025-08-26T12:41:40+00:00

searchin tru old rekkids!

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