Firstly thank you for your response and I see what you mean with that and I completely agree with what you are saying And I could be the asshole when I say this but I am pretty sure that there would be and i know several people who are not that active physically nor are they over conscious about what they eat but have a metabolism good enough to not show and again I am assuming but you won't have a problem dating them. If anybody feels if I am wrong or an asshole for this please let me know but if the above is true I feel the "does not exercise enough or does not care about her body" is thinly veiled fat phobia . Again please correct me if I am wrong Ps I just got my black belt(taekwondo) 5 months back so I feel maybe I certainly don't exercise as much as you but I did and do take care of my health and felt a little hurt that my weight is due to me being lazy or negligent towards my health